#ChildSafety #SexualAssault #Parenting #SchoolIssues #ProtectingYourChild
🚨 **A kid sexually assaulted my son at school and parent continues to contact us, any recourse?** 🚨
As a parent, one of the worst nightmares is discovering that your child has been a victim of sexual assault. The situation becomes even more challenging when the parent of the perpetrator is uncooperative and continues to contact you. In such a distressing time, it’s essential to prioritize your child’s safety and well-being while navigating through the difficult circumstances.
### 🛑 **Identifying the Problem**
My son (9) had a friend (let’s call him Stuart) in the same grade who exhibited suspicious behavior that raised concerns. Despite initial uneasy feelings, we allowed the friendship to continue. Eventually, our son revealed that Stuart had sexually assaulted him, leading to behavioral changes and distressing behaviors like bed-wetting.
### 💡 **Seeking Help and Reporting the Incident**
We took immediate action by consulting the school counselor, who initiated a safety plan to prevent further contact between the children. The matter was reported to Child Protective Services (CPS) for investigation. While hesitant to involve the police initially, we prioritized our child’s safety and cut ties with Stuart upon his mother’s negative response.
### 🤝 **Dealing with Uncooperative Parent’s Harassment**
Despite our efforts to protect our son, the parent of the perpetrator continued to harass us, creating uncomfortable situations at school pickups and public places. The constant threats and hostile behavior only exacerbated the distress for our child, prompting us to seek further advice from the school counselor.
### 🚔 **Considerations for Legal Action**
Facing ongoing harassment and baseless accusations from the other parent, we are contemplating pressing charges for sexual assault to ensure justice and prevent further incidents. By consulting with legal authorities and the school counselor, we aim to safeguard our child’s well-being and address the persistent challenges posed by the uncooperative parent.
### 🛡️ **Protecting Your Child and Taking Preventive Measures**
To safeguard your child’s safety and counteract the unwarranted actions of the other parent, consider the following steps:
1. Stay in close communication with the school counselor and seek their guidance on managing the situation effectively.
2. Document all interactions and incidents involving the other parent to support any future legal actions.
3. Prioritize your child’s mental and emotional well-being by providing therapy and support through this challenging time.
4. Explore legal options with the guidance of professionals to address the harassment and protect your child from further harm.
In conclusion, prioritizing your child’s safety and well-being is paramount in dealing with difficult situations like this. By taking proactive steps, seeking guidance from relevant authorities, and considering legal recourse, you can protect your child from continued harassment and ensure a safe environment for their growth and development.
Stay strong, and remember that your child’s safety is the top priority. 🌟
Schools are going to act in the best interest of the school not the child. High time to get lawyers and police involved!
What are you even doing wasting time with this woman? Now you’re worried about a defensive position when you should be worried about advocating for your son.
Police report, counseling and a protective order. Now.
You’re not protecting him from anything by not doing it. Just giving her license to tell whatever horror story sounds worse about your son while she’s running around unchecked.
You could sue the mom to get a no contact, restraining order. These are also possible through criminal charges, but those have a higher standard of proof and usually only given for violent offenses. If her conduct rises to the level of stalking, then a criminal court could issue the order, but I would try telling her to stop contacting you and/or getting a civil restraining to prevent further contact.
Telling people to stop calling you sometimes works, but you have to ask them first.
She might agree to stay away via a settlement to avoid having to defend herself in front of a judge, but it sounds like you have multiple claims against this woman and her home owners insurance policy may have to cover it seeing that the conduct occured in the home while the mom was negligent in supervising her children.
Talk to a personal injury attorney. The case would be worth money and you would probably have multiple attorneys from the firm working on the case.
First off, get your kid in counseling. It might seem minor now, but it may also have long term effects if you dont get them some help.
You can block her number. I wouldnt get too reactive until you are informed by someone official theres an order in the works or police action. They are defensive and just trying to get a reaction out of you.
Results of CPS visit?
Depending on what state you’re in, it is highly unlikely for any criminal prosecution to occur. Many states don’t charge juveniles under 12, per statutes. However, filing a police report will be important for informational purposes as this can get the other child along the process of getting help from the state and it would support any therapeutic treatment your child might need.
The mom is livid with you all because she doesn’t believe her son didn’t of course. It’s very natural as a parent to take your kid’s side. But, this is another reason to report it right away. CPS would do forensic investigation & interview and determine the boy shouldn’t be around other kids. This boy needs some serious behavioral health intervention and yours will need mental health. Bed wetting/involuntary urination and encopresis are classic signs of potential sexual abuse at this age.
Don’t worry about the social stigmas. Do the right thing.
its possible stuart is/has been sexually abused himself, by his parents or somebody else
Should have made a police report and filed charges in the very beginning.
Counseling for your son. Not a school counselor.
Also file that police report yesterday!
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family.
I’m trying to figure out why you didn’t press charges and get law enforcement involved to begin with…..
Please put your child in counseling. This type of stuff has severe long term consequences
Immediately lawyer up and have them help you file charges.
Why you didn’t do that right away is beyond me, honestly. Who cares if the other kid is a boy. he did these things to your kid, so SOMEONE had to have shown him as well. Either due to neglect so he could watch porn by himself, or because they did these things to him.
You’re being negligent by not doing anything further and just letting her be a B to your son. you even said yourself that his issues popped up again due to her.
And instead of going to the police or a lawyer you…go to the internet?
I have a completely different spin on all of this from all of the other people who have responded to this post. Clearly, I’m not an advocate for any type of sexual abuse at any age. However, someone has only nine years old may not realize that there’s anything wrong with their behavior.
I question whether all of the social services and back-and-forth regarding this event are productive, or likely just to continue to create confusion and anxiety to the children involved.
I can’t recall the age, but when I was very young, before puberty, people in my neighborhood and in several neighboring neighborhoods used to play “play nasty”. We didn’t know what to call it then because we didn’t realize what we were doing was wrong, but everyone liked to do 69 so you could pleasure the other person at the same time they pleasure you. I, asas well as the other children, thought this was great, until we got caught by our parents. Even then, it didn’t feel like a big deal because sexual exploitation just came naturally and no one blew it out of proportion. When we were caught, the parents told us that we need to stop because it wasn’t right to play nasty.
We would stop, until there was another opportunity to do it again without the parents, knowing.
That was 60 years ago. There wasn’t a lot of talk about sexual abuse or social services or anything like that. I’m a male and I preferred other males because they had something to deal with unlike the undeveloped girls at that time. However, I liked it all and so did they.
It seemed like a lot of young children were doing this, and I know they were at least three different groups that I liked to participate with.
When puberty set in, this all stopped suddenly.
I became interested in girls who were starting to develop breast and starting to develop sexually sooner than I was.
Other than a few three ways involving girls in college, my sex life has been very normal, even now at obviously in advanced age. I have not had any attraction to other men and I have been straight since puberty.
Best to get him some counseling and press charges. While you are at it, issue a restraining order against the mom.
Honestly, the school should’ve reported it to police even if you didn’t. They’re mandatory reporters.