#SingleAF #DatingStruggles #ReadyToMingle
Have you ever been single for what feels like forever and just can’t seem to find anyone to date? 🤷♂️ Or is it just me?
I swear, it’s like trying to find a unicorn in a sea of horses! 🦄 With everyone around me either already hitched, working multiple jobs, or buried in textbooks while juggling a full-time job, it’s no wonder the dating pool feels more like a puddle lately. 💔
So, I gotta ask… am I the only one out here feeling like they’re starring in their own personal rom-com minus the rom part? 🎥🚫 Let me know if you can relate! And hey, maybe we can commiserate together or even swap some funny dating horror stories 😂💔✨
Are you in the same boat? Let’s chat! 🚣♂️💬 #ShareYourStory #DatingSaga #LetsTalk
It isn’t easy. In my experience maybe 1% of those on dating sites were a good match, and even among those it isn’t a guarantee. Life is hard and relationships are some of the hardest components. The best advice I’ve heard is to try to make yourself into the ideal partner and the rest should take care of itself.
Socialize more and be patient and confident regardless of the situation obviously being in shape and possibly attractive helps first impressions but finding places you can be and frequent may help become familier to the opposite sex who may also frequamt those places it may help meeting people but not at night clubs thou you want quality and more personal interactions.
Been single 10 years and my only option right now is online dating, several apps – paid services, tried them all and when I do get a match or reply every 2-3 months, they have no social skills, no interests or no humor and puts no effort into talking.
Doesn’t seem to matter what you do, put a lot of effort into a profile? no one reads it. Put a lot of thought into a first message and incorporate their profile and interests? blocked/unmatched without reply. Make a joke at random and or related to their profile? Same as before.
I don’t really need someone to be happy, I am fine by myself, but good lord it is exhausting to keep trying because I do miss it.
I’m not looking. I assume many aren’t either
yes
I’ve been single my entire life, and it doesn’t look like that’s about to change. I just don’t have what women are looking for.
Been almost 6 months since my last first date.
Girls are a big bowl of frosted flakes. I can get a few matches have some good convos then ghost rider snatches em up or something.
It hasn’t been years yet( more like just over 1), but I’m sure it will be. I’m not looking though as online dating is trash. I do get approached when I go to the bar to watch UFC events as I find it an excuse to get dressed up and I take full advantage of the ones I give myself. I accepted a couple dates but at this point I decline them all. What’s sad is as soon as I decline there is 0 interest yet I’d love if a guy would just hang out and talk fights with me. This aspect for me I think the struggle. Don’t approach me to date approach me to have a conversation.
I’m content and happy as things are in my life and don’t feel like dating for the purpose of dating.
I’m not saying I’ve closed all options but if it does happen it will be a slow move from acquaintance to friendship to romance and not a getting to know someone through dating.
Datign is hard. Single for over a decade now. Never thought it would be like this but chances are I’m going to be single forever. It is what it is. I feel like everyone that met in college or shortly after settled down and most everyone that did not is still single. I do know some folks that met through the apps, at work, on airplanes, at bars, etc. so I know it really could happen anywhere anytime but it just feels impossible.
It also seems like everyone wants ethical non monogamy, which isn’t for me.
Loving someone is not the problem. Finding someone who is single, that’s what I am struggling with.
i don’t feel that at all.
like, i know it’s a fact that fewer people are available but since i mainly meet people with apps i’m not really exposed to the unavailable people out there. i do feel like these days everyone at the bars is there on a date, and that’s true for me too, i don’t really go out unless i’m meeting someone.
There is definitely an inherent difficulty meeting someone when you’re older due to the reasons you mentioned. My personal belief is that this problem is compounded by a lack of real social activity.
Between people subsidizing their social life on the internet and struggling to make enough money to survive, time to engage people genuinely is being lost. I even feel like I see people losing their ability to effectively engage other humans on a personal level…People are becoming hashtags to one another.
I’m 41, so I feel like I remember when people went out into the world and that I’ve watched the social environment deteriorate as the internet has become the social marketplace. Admittedly, this has been rather defeating for me and, as I don’t enjoy social media, I’m also not developing myself to engage others digitally. The world has become so lonely and social interactions are acrobatic attempts to see a person through their facade of branding (on the internet and in person) 😔
Apps don’t work. Get out, and meet real people.
I’m a woman, in the last year of my 20s, and dating just looks like an impossible mountain to climb
Me too, bro. Me too
Date? Haha I haven’t made a new irl friend in at least 5 years
Yeah, No hope
same! I personally don’t like using any online dating apps. I prefer someone I know personally, acquaintances, or through friends but my gosh at this point it’s very tempting to use dating apps instead 😫. I miss the feeling of being in love.
It’s not hard to find people. It’s hard to find people you enjoy enough to give half of your life to.
Been single for a couple of years now. Somewhat by choice. I’ve had a couple of dates off tinder. But I’m too lazy to put effort into just getting laid and no one I’ve come across makes me want to court them for a long term relationship.
Just going to keep my eyes peeled, but I don’t care enough to do much more than that. I’ve had enough drama and BS over the years to be cool with the single life. A chick would really have to make it easy to get this D
I don’t really get lonely anymore, so it’s easy. I remember my 20’s, being single was absolute fucking torture. I’m glad it hasn’t been a thing for me now.
NO wife= HAPPY LIFE!
And I thought I was the only single one working my ass off because I’ve talked to a lot of lazy and controlling guys that won’t even get a job.
It gets even worse if you’re over 60!
I have been single for 10 years. I am 49 years old, never been married, no children. Great career. I own my house. I’m stable. Not hideous looking. There is no one left.
I’m not a dating coach, and this isn’t something where I’m trying to sell you on anything. But I have enjoyed helping friends get better at their dating approach and improving their dating profile.
If you want some help, dm me. I’d be down to just have a text conversation or even just a zoom/discord chat.
Uhg I have given up.
Yeah, I’ve kinda given up. I’m a 34 year old dude and just chilling. I don’t need to be in a relationship. Sometimes I think it would be nice, but it’s not a priority for me.
No,it’s not just you. For me,it’s near impossible because I plan to be childfree. Finding a guy that wants the same thing is incredibly difficult. The few that were okay with the idea…they end up ghosting.
My issue is that where I’m at people pair off and whatnot early on in their late teens/early twenties, and now that I’m 31 I cannot find anybody in my age group that still wants kids. They either already have kids and don’t want more or they never wanted kids to begin with so they got a hysterectomy or something
37 now, no kid’s just trying to make money.
Most girls my age or even few years younger have 2 or 3 kid’s and 2 different baby dad’s.
No offence but I’m not 1 for babysitting n stuff.
Maybe I might have to go find myself a 27 year old, do the holiday’s n stuff and maybe kids might come in future.
Yeah my peasant wage of 50k and my average body of 175 at 6ft just isn’t attractive. Or maybe it’s my extremely off putting personality, even though I have dozens and dozens of friends. Or maybe it’s cuz I don’t own a house. Whatever it is I don’t deserve to have what everyone else finds so easily.
Relatable- been single since 2010 and 53 now
I think a large amount of people were affected in weird ways by covid, but in reality the big culprit is just the internet.
We’re all sold on different ways life “should” be, according to whoever is making the content being consumed, and it’s all different. But we’re basically conditioned to see things one way and tell ourselves we have it all figured out. On top of that, things like “never settle” are pretty popular sentiment. In real life you will be settling. Your job, where you live, your family, etc. Something, or some things, will just be ass. And some great things might start shitty. But we’re bred to be fast consumers of things, so if the elevator pitch gives you the ick, you move on.
Kind of a systematic problem with which I have no solution to. Give people a chance, be the change you wanna see, etc.
Why don’t you guys just date each other
I’m 54 & I’ve been single for 20 years. I can’t imagine being in a relationship at this point. I’ve become like a stray cat!
I’m basically single, but I’m too busy with my girlfriend to go dating.
I got married in 2017 and it feels like catching the last chopper out of Vietnam.
I get ya! The only way I managed to get a partner was to get friend zoned a bunch then eventually I met friends of friends. The friend zone is not the end zone!
I have zero interest in dating or having a partner, honestly, so I’ve been single my entire life.
Been single 4.5 years. Had one or two dates that really didn’t go well, and one I guess situationship is the new term?? Was seeing him regularly for 3-4 months before bringing up labels and he said he wasn’t ready to commit to anything and probably wouldn’t be for at least a year so I broke it off and left bc I was open from the beginning that I was looking for something serious and I felt like he was just stringing me along.