#DealingWithNaysayers #StayMotivated #SuccessMindset
Hey there, fellow entrepreneurs! 👋 How do you deal with naysayers who constantly try to bring you down? It can be tough when even your own family members or parents doubt your dreams and goals. Here are a few strategies that might help:
– Surround yourself with positivity 🌟: Spend time with supportive friends and mentors who believe in your vision and uplift you.
– Focus on your why 💪: Remind yourself of why you started on this journey in the first place. Let your passion drive you forward.
– Prove them wrong through actions 🙌: Use their doubts as fuel to work even harder and achieve success. Show them that you are capable of reaching your goals.
Remember, at the end of the day, it’s your life and your choices. Don’t let the negativity of others hold you back from pursuing your dreams. You’ve got this! 💼🚀 #YouGotThis #DreamBig
I can relate to this almost anyone nowadays feels the same, recently I have learned a trick, where I do not tell anyone my plans, instead, I work on executing them and surround myself with like-minded people. let the result be anything.
It’s better to try and fail than not to try and regrate.
You listen to them carefully, consider their points and then decide if you need to adjust your approach. It’s all feedback, it’s all valuable.
Your parents love you and want what’s best for you, you (probably) own them at least the time to consider their objections.
Some business ideas are great some are dog doodo, everyone thinks theirs is great, it’s only through getting feedback from other will you be able to tell which yours is.
Talking about feedback. I think you’re missing an opportunity in asking questions about “feelings” instead of asking about your actual business idea. Maybe your parents are right maybe they’re wrong, share some details and we might be able to help you figure it out.
Listen to what they say will prevent you from succeeding and make sure you address the potential challenge in your plan.
Shit I almost wish I had people telling me that because it would motivate me to kick life’s fucking ass to prove them wrong. If they’re not where I want to be in life, making what I want to make nor living how I want to live…I take their words with a grain of salt. Thats what I’ve heard extremely successful people suggest so I do that.
“Living Well Is the Best Revenge”
upon researching, this proverb was found in George Herbert’s collection of “Outlandish Proverbs” lol
Learn to tell people to f**k off in your own way and never tell anyone what your plans are. People are jealous, will wish you the worst and may even try to sabotage your plans – it always seems to be the people closest to you.
If it’s your parents then it’s often because they always want “the best for you” in their perspective. But they often don’t realize that the world changes very fast and that it’s never been easier to do something outside of a “real job”.
You will always have haters and critics and it’ll keep being that way. All you can you is focus on your own actions and move forward, that negativety comes from them. They don’t know your struggle or what it takes to run a business so naturally they don’t really have a great picture of what they’re trying to judge in the first place.
Believe in yourself and use this opportunity to build some character (not saying that you don’t have any) and filter out some relationships that may not be worth it. At the same time it’s also important to take time and feel the negative emotions as some of these naysayers could be coming from loved one as well but also step back and reflect on the earlier points of they don’t really know what you’re going through to judge in the first place.
Avoid them and only hang out with people that like to think of ideas, solutions and have a can-do attitude.
I usually listen. It doesn’t mean I believe them but I like to be shot down so I can hear it. Maybe they are right and I didn’t see it and they saved me the time and money? It’s happened.
I am mostly Finnish. Apparently, you tell a Fin he can’t do something and our brains go “Fuck you, Challenge accepted!”
Naysayers are losers and people who are envious of others ambitions, because it make them look bad/doubt their lifechoices.
Not worth talking to, idc if its family or whatever. Just keep it to yourself tbh
Always, always listen to them, they might know, or see something you don’t. After listening to their reasoning, you make final decisions. It could also be “Don’t do this, you don’t have experience doing XYZ, so you will fail” instead of just ignoring them, think, hmm okay, I will study more about XYZ, that’s how you learn.
Always listen, then decide, don’t just flat out ignore
I think everybody’s right from a certain perspective, but also everyone is wrong from another.
I have an immense amount of respect for everybody’s opinions, regardless of whether I do or don’t agree with them. It doesn’t mean I want. Debate or argue with people over certain opinions. But at the end of the day, I respect that people have an opinion.
I know the truth is always somewhere in the middle.
And so, regardless of what people say, or tell me, I always take it with a grain of salt and blend it in with the rest of the noise. There’s truth in it all, so I take the average of any given aspect of it. And that’s where the truth lies and I don’t have to worry about whose opinions or feelings I’m hurting by not agreeing with them.
I agree and disagree with everybody, and stay in my own lane.
Ask them what they know, did they try and start a business? Even if the answer is obvious. Another way is just don’t keep them in the loop.
Just don’t talk about it. With parents and family it’s just because they care about you. Show them small successes and they being to support you. With others it may be because they couldn’t stand seeing you succeed at something you want to do when they didn’t even have the motivation to try and do what they wanted to. It’s a reflection on themselves not you. Pay no attention to it.
I tell em, in whatever way is necessary, to pound sand. Who are they to have an opinion so negative about someone they’ve never interacted with?
Totally depends on who is giving the advice.
If it’s your target customer, ask a lot of follow up questions… but keep in mind most customers aren’t early adopters.
If it’s a friend or family member with no experience in the industry and no experience with entrepreneurship in general, you can safely ignore 99.8 percent of what they say.
If it’s another entrepreneur, especially a successful one, you better get a pen and pad and beg for more of their time to explain their thoughts.
Surround yourself with people who are yay-sayers.
For those you can’t get away from, stop discussing your goals/dreams with them.
“Thanks for asking! I’m still running my own company and it’s going well. But I really want to know about YOU! How are you? What’s happening with [unrelated subject]?”
Parents often prefer that we have stability (and things like health insurance ,if you’re in the USA) . If they start pressing on those issues, share what you’re doing to cover those areas, but be light and polite and don’t let them dominate the convo.
First, put pride aside and see if there is validity to their statement. If it’s just me saying for the sake of nay saying, then ignore. If they give you points to consider, then consider. Don’t be blinded by the fact that you think it’s a good idea, because you’re not selling the product to yourself. You need to listen to the market and ensure you have good product market fit. If you don’t have good product market fit, then they’re probably right, it won’t work or not to the scale that you’re hoping it will anyway. So at that point you need to consider are you willing to pivot and address the valid concerns of the market, or are you willing to play Field of dreams and build it and see if they come?
You keep your head down and keep grinding until you can prove them wrong. I know. Easier said than done
Put the head down and keep working on it.
You know the little spam button you can press on an email and it sends it away never to be seen again – develop one of those for other people’s opinions.
To extend the analogy further, the sender of the spam doesn’t know you clicked the button, and the people you’re talking to don’t need to know either – that just leads to unproductive arguments.
A nod and a “maybe – we’ll see what happens!” plus a swift conversation change works well!
Nobody hates from the top. People always hate looking up very seldom will you meet someone successful who will hate on another’s idea or hate in general. Just remember when you’re about to die, the only persons opinion on how you lived your life that’s important is yours. If your idea fails fuck it, you sound young if your worried about your parents opinion so you probably have time to fuck up a little bit. I open my successful business 3 years ago and every step of the way we fucked something up. You just fix it and move forward towards the next problem and then fix that. Who cares what others think man.
Razor sharp focus. Mind your own business. That people doubt you means they are projecting their own fear and inadequacies. That people hate you, it’s the same. In fact someone erroneously handicapped my profile. That means I’m on the right path. I hoped to not use my entertainment attorney this early in the game. Hopefully, I can work it out without adding to my stack of ongoing litigation and paying up front for costs.
Chances are you’re talking about it too much, less talkie talkie, more do-e do-e (kill em with your success you can do it)
“A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of sheep.” Enough said.
25 years and my parents still think I should get a real job. This lifestyle is not for everyone.
I look at it from the fact that you’ve never really accomplished s*** in your life of any great scale. So aiming to get financially free is a big deal, and 99%+ fail along the way.
My goal was fuck you money. I wanted to completely change the financial class I was born into. That’s not easy.
Bottle up all that juicy dark energy and allow it to motivate you through the many hard times to come over the first 10 years.
You will get to a point eventually if you succeed where they have nothing to say at all.
Most people are Naysayers, especially the ones who didn’t do it themselves.
I have my inlaws for this position.
As I was needing a helping hand packing all the items that were ordered in a total rush (sold out ly website in a day), mother in law dearest insisted on helping out. And while doing so, I had to hear the same remark on repeat: ‘I never believed you would be such a success? Did you ever think you would be this successful?’
Uhm yeah… that was the plan. But thanks for your faith in me, I guess.
Few years later now, and I’m going through the tail end of the hard times.
The last contact we had was her screaming that it was all my fault that my husband didn’t have a shitload of money.
(I can’t contribute 50/50 to the household, while paying off the debt aquired during the pandemic etc.)
So… I don’t share anymore.
Everything we do share, she deliberately misunderstands. So I just don’t bother anymore.
I also refuse to be humiliated in my own home, so I don’t host them anymore, and always have more important stuff to do when we’re invited.
Sorry for the therapy rant…
But basically… don’t share with nay sayers. There is no support you can expect from them. They will only give you the ‘I told you so’ when you’re facing challenges, and don’t support your victories. So what positive input could they have?
You’re gonna have to keep feeling this way until you start seeing results. Effort always goes unappreciated until you start getting tangible results. Which, ironically, is when you care about their appreciation the least, since it was not there when you needed it the most…
You might find « Never Split The Difference » to be a useful guide.
You learn to respond by agreeing with them.
Well, I personally always have positive mindset towards almost everything I come across it, if they (both family and friends) are giving critics, I will simply continue what I’m doing as long as I know it’s right and I’m gonna use their critics as a fuel to gas up my motivation to do more in order to show them results. Two things that I understand about naysayers are that:
1) They don’t have adequate information or details about what you’re doing, so you can enlightened them about it and they will surely understand.
2) The other part are those that knows what you’re doing is right but they are afraid of your success, they don’t want you to be successful because they know if you are, you will probably leave them or other things that will affect them if you’re no longer available to them, so they are using that to discourage you to back down…
Hope this helps
Don’t tell them till you atleast make more then you would from a job
Show them your bank account lol
Don’t listen to the bozo who told you to cut out your family. Talk about ridiculous.
Let’s have a real chat about failure rates. There are stats that say 90% of start-ups fail, with only 10% surviving a year.
[https://explodingtopics.com/blog/startup-failure-stats](https://explodingtopics.com/blog/startup-failure-stats)
You need to have a realistic perspective on your chances. People around you may not just be negative for negative sake, but might actually care for you and are concerned.
Listen to them.
These will be your best critics. Pivoting is the most successful tool any entrepreneur can have.
You may have a great idea in your mind. But it’s not a great idea in others. Many people get caught up thinking their idea is monumental and will make millions. This is rarely the case.
You need your idea to get traction. In any way possible.
Once you have traction, you move to monetizing at scale. This is what FB did with coaching from the best in the biz in tech at that time.
Don’t say what you’re going to do, just do it and let the results speak for themself.
People want everybody who isn’t a customer to support them. Mostly because they wouldn’t know what a customer looks like if they hurled their wallet.
I annihilate them with my sheer, explosive, uncompromising, incomprehensible dedication
For all their doubts are either evaporated through my sheer display of will, or my relation with them is utterly destroyed as they do not serve my purpose
Well, ignore the regular haters of course. Friends and parents… they mean well, they just want you to be safe and happy, and for them it means having a job. It’s like when married people want other people to be married, and everyone who owns property tells you you’re stupid for renting, and how all vegans want you to be vegan. People who found something they enjoy want you to enjoy it too.
So you can reply with “thank you so much for caring for me, I think there is chance I might succeed and I’ll do everything I can to take that chance. But if I do end up failing, I’ll most definitely get a job. Just not right now. I want to give it a fair go”.
I divide it into 3 groups. Family members and others you have non-work relationships with I have “the talk” with. No, not that talk – the other talk. The one where I say “If you can’t be happy for me and support me, I’m sorry I will have to alter my relationship with you.” It can go as far as excluding them from my life (which I had to do unfortunately) but most of the times it becomes a simple arrangement where we don’t talk about it. Just because they didn’t have the guts to do something and got that safe, real job, doesn’t mean you should go the same direction.
Then there are people I know I’ll never really care about. For example, I pitched a product to a prospect and they were negative from the start. I use these kinds of people to practice on. “Would you change your opinion if our product did X?” now I have no idea if X is even possible, but it’s good market research and shows how they look at the product I’m pitching.
The hardest are unfortunately people that you pay to be on your side. I paid someone who do concept art for a game and I could tell she didn’t think the game was a good one. We had several lengthy conversation with her and it was tough to basically have the concept I worked on for months ripped to shreds. But in the end, she was right. If I hadn’t listened to her, I would have wasted a year or more of time on something that wouldn’t have worked out in the end anyway. So yeah, these conversations are the hardest because they have a great motivation to just be yes people and when they are negative, it usually really means something.