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Are you a man who has lived or is living a promiscuous lifestyle? Or are you perhaps someone looking to understand the pros and cons of such a lifestyle? Let’s dig into the topic and explore the benefits and drawbacks of being promiscuous.
What is a promiscuous lifestyle?
Before we delve into the pros and cons, let’s first define what a promiscuous lifestyle entails. Promiscuity is the practice of engaging in casual sex with multiple partners. This lifestyle is characterized by a lack of commitment to a single partner and a willingness to explore sexual relationships with various individuals.
The pros of a promiscuous lifestyle
1. Sexual exploration: Engaging in a promiscuous lifestyle allows individuals to explore their sexual desires and preferences with different partners.
2. Variety: The opportunity to experience a variety of intimate encounters can be a source of excitement and novelty for some men.
3. Freedom: Promiscuity often entails the freedom to pursue sexual experiences without the constraints of a committed relationship.
4. Self-discovery: For some men, engaging in multiple sexual relationships can lead to a better understanding of their own desires and boundaries.
The cons of a promiscuous lifestyle
1. Emotional detachment: Casual sexual encounters may lead to emotional detachment and a lack of deep connection with partners.
2. Risk of STIs: Engaging in multiple sexual relationships increases the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
3. Relationship challenges: A promiscuous lifestyle can make it difficult to form and maintain healthy, long-term relationships.
4. Societal stigma: Promiscuity can be accompanied by societal judgment and negative stereotypes, which may impact mental well-being.
Finding a balance
While there are both pros and cons to living a promiscuous lifestyle, it’s important to recognize the potential impact on emotional, physical, and mental well-being. It’s crucial for individuals to make informed choices based on their own values, desires, and health considerations.
Seeking support and guidance
If you are navigating the complexities of a promiscuous lifestyle and are experiencing challenges or uncertainties, it may be beneficial to seek support from a trusted professional or counselor. Open and honest communication with sexual partners about boundaries, health concerns, and emotional needs is also crucial for maintaining a sense of well-being.
In conclusion, a promiscuous lifestyle offers both benefits and drawbacks, and it’s essential for individuals to prioritize their overall health and happiness. Making informed choices, seeking support when needed, and maintaining open communication can contribute to a more fulfilling and balanced approach to intimate relationships.
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I slept around a bit in my late teens and early twenties.
The only con was it made me self conscience when my wife told me her number.
So going on the assumption of a single dude with his shit together and a career and can meet women relatively easily. If you don’t have your shit together in life, don’t have a decent career or can’t meet women relatively easily this is probably not a great idea.
Pros:
You have your own living space setup the way you like it and peace and quiet anytime you want. No arguments or negotiations over anything. Women you are dating generally won’t try to cross lines with you. You get a new partner periodically and get to explore their interests. Sex and exploring new peoples kinks and interests is more exciting then sex with the same person all of the time. When someone becomes a problem or a headache its easy to get rid of them.
Cons:
Probably more work on average to get laid then guys in most relationships. Dating eats up time and money especially early on. Not an ideal environment to raise kids, at all. You have to be completely independent pretty much all the time in life. If you are the type of dude who gets lonely or needs someone around all of the time it maybe a more difficult lifestyle.
Pros: learned a lot about myself and the type of people I’m attracted to, and the kind of people I attract. Those soft skills needed to flirt and charm people works outside of romantic / sexual situations as well, I find I can generally charm people in a friendly or professional manner a lot easier as a result. I also have far less anxiety around women than a lot of men around me, which means I’ve developed far more fulfilling friendships with women than some of the other men around me.
Cons: I did some stuff back then to get laid I’m not proud of, especially because I learned how unfulfilling I find casual sex. That includes lying to women, not getting myself tested enough (I’m clean, but I still should have), and pushing other men around me to prioritize sex over love or general intimacy. Even though I didn’t enjoy it I conditioned myself to measure my own value based on the sexual / romantic interest of women in my life, even when it made zero sense to. All those choices still live in me and influence me for better or worse, and I doubt myself around women who trust me because they don’t know the whole truth of my past. It eats away at me on occasion, which is part of the reason I’m in therapy.
Final Pro is that because of all the cons, and learning some form of accountability in my late-20’s, I’ve been working hard to reconcile those mistakes of my past and be a better person. That includes making amends when it’s welcome, championing healthier outlets for masculinity, and supporting the women in my life.
To clarify as well, I wasn’t (in my own opinion) “promiscuous” but by many others’ standards I was probably in something of a “slutty” era in my 20’s. I’ve slept about 30+ women, I’m 33. I also don’t judge anyone else for their number because I’ve seen the good and bad sides of those choices, and I don’t think it needs to define someone negatively unless they only embrace the selfish side of promiscuity.
It can be a liberating lifestyle, especially if someone lacks confidence in their physical appearance or sexual abilities, but it can also open you up to really volatile moments where bad choices are easy, and the empathetic choices are harder.
Pros – Lots of sex with attractive people. Lots of fun nights out and adventure both sexual and otherwise. Playing ‘the game’ is very fun and fulfilling. Much less expensive than an LTR both in terms of money and time.
Cons – Instead of one big heartbreak from a big breakup, you get a lot of little heart brakes. Total amount of heartache is roughly equal between both options. Risks are higher: STI, drama, etc. Less likely to have someone help you when you’re sick. Xmas is lonely.
Sure, I can answer this.
Cons:
Hella STD’s/STD scares, buying antibiotics and treatments needed for said STD’s, going on/pay for dates (EXPENSIVE), pregnancy scares, paying for pregnancy tests or following her to the doctors,going with her to the pharmacy or e-transferring her money for “Plan-B”, dealing with crazy bitches.. if you fuck enough you’re going to come across a few mentally unstable ones. Girls in relationships lying saying their single and their hubby or bf wanting to kill or harm you even though you had no clue. Desensitization as in no longer valuing sex and seeing it as something special.
Pros: I know what I like, I’m never “thirsty”, having sexual experience(s) that make me a better partner in bed, checking off all your boxes on your sexual to do list. Also, it’s made me look at women for more than their bodies, I’ve been with a lot of good looking women and let’s just say that looks can fade FAST, I now look for women with awesome personalities as opposed to the hottest ones I can bang, so basically quality over quantity.
I could add more but 🤷♂️
My “resume”: Slept with over 70 different women from the age of 21 to 25.
Pros: Sex. Lots of different sex with lots of different women. It was a lot of fun at the time and my life was incredibly simple. Go to work, go to the gym, have sex. With how easy it was to find on dating apps, it was seemingly always available. At some points I would purposefully just turn my phone off so I wouldn’t be bothered to have sex as I wanted to do other things at the time. I even began to challenge myself to get girls numbers while out at a bar with another girl.
Cons: It really destroyed me mentally. My life was consumed with getting the next piece of pussy. I wasted so much time focusing on that. Additionally, I became a sex addict (shocker) in the process which was a difficult road to recover. Not to mention the two times I got STDs, while at the time I wasn’t too concerned because it was just the clap, but looking back it could have been so much worse.
Today, I’m happily engaged and while my mind does wonder how it would be to have all of that again, I quickly remember how it’s not worth it ultimately. I know it’s easy to say because I’ve been thru it, but I really would urge people to not fall in the trap of society and focus so much on sex, especially men. Men are consistently pushed to get pussy and I fell victim to that view.
Pros – I really like the whole flirting and starting to talk to someone new thing, its fun and exciting.
You get to try new kinks you might have not thought of,
My confidence used to be high as hell knowing I was always doing good with attractive women
Cons – the sex was never as fun as it is with someone you genuinely care about, I love cuddles and some women were not fans of cuddles, I literally have a scar from a one night stand, its awkward seeing people you used to sleep with when you are with your significant other
Pros: experience, trying new things sexually without being judged, ego boost, fun, learn what you truly like/dislike in a partner.
Cons: made it harder to make real connections later on, STD concerns, developed a bit of a bad reputation among my friends and they wouldn’t introduce me to women as a potential dating partner, hurt some good people who wanted something more substantial, got burned when I caught feelings a couple of times.
Physically, it was awesome. Emotionally, there were more cons than pros. But I say that with the advantage of maturity and age.
If I had it to do over, I’d only change the frequency and volume of women. I’d still have a “phase” but it would be more measured. I’d been with more than 100 women by the time I was 30. Since age 30, I’ve only been with 8-10 women (early 50s now). But I’ve had some very long term relationships in those 20 years.
Pros: tons of variety and experiences. I can be super active one month and then just disappear from things the next without it being a big deal. I can jump on any new opportunities that arise. I can focus on my hobbies and work without worrying about it interfering with a relationship. Friends will be envious of your lifestyle.
Cons: Holidays can be lonely if you aren’t a family guy. If your friends and hook-ups think you’re “just a fuck boy” they will take you less seriously about a lot of things, especially when it comes to planning. It can be easy to end up with women thinking they’re going to turn you into their boyfriend, and then you have to break their heart. Lots of disappointment as well, as I get ghosted/flaked on probably once a week on average, sometimes having 4 or 5 different sets of plans fall through in a single week. You also miss out on the deeper levels of cuddling and more casual evenings, and it can be tough going to some social events without having a partner to fall back on for socializing.
Overall I mostly enjoy the freedom it gives me, as well as the crazy stories it will give me for when I’m too old to keep it up. When I’m not actively on a date, it’s actually an extremely peaceful life.
Pros: super fun and pleasurable. Ego boost to feel desirable. Got to do some weird shit I’d never try otherwise. Kinda got off on the fact I was being “bad”. I had a few regulars that I’d meet every few months and dive into some kinks with.
Cons: did actually feel gross awhile. Constant threat of STDs. Constant threat of crazy behavior by a stranger (I’m in a strangers house and/or accused of rape, ect) it turned into a game that I spent too much time on. and yes, forming actual personal relationships became difficult after a few years
Pros: Lots of sexual variety. If you’re upfront and treat her right you’ll get added to her FWB list. You can be on multiple FWB lists without offending anyone.
Con: When you eventually decide you want to settle down, it’s hard to get past the reputation of being a hook up guy.
Pros: having a roster is fun. You can get seggs on demand. It feels like you’re really living it up at whatever age your how phase may hit.
The biggest con for me was it does get lonely. Like you can always with someone, and even if they have a connection to you, if you don’t feel the connection to them it’s like a co worker. Too much NSA made me feel like I couldn’t catch feels & ultimately took a break for a while.
Then I met my fiancé 🤷♂️
Pros: sexy women that wanted just sex. No ties. It was what I was looking for at the time.
Cons: no meaningful connections. One girl developed feelings and basically ruined the whole thing for me.
Pros: Active sex life, constantly new bodies, sensations, and experiences. Self esteem boost when you need it.
Cons: STD risk, pregnancy risk, thugs/setups, reputation, hurting others feelings sometimes.
I personally also began to find the act exhausting and eventually just out right boring, but this isn’t applicable to everyone probably.
Pros: what’s a fantasy?
Cons: Was her name Sarah or Samantha? Samsonite? We were way off.
Incurable STD’s – Full Stop.
There is not a single hookup worth contracting one.
Fun for awhile but ultimately unfullfilling. Have a great time then comes the morning and they leave and your life is still lonely and yearning for a real connection. If money is involved (hookers) then after awhile that begins to affect your self esteem in that women are only hanging around for money. In other words it is fake.
Pros: Sex and fun
Cons: lots of drama and eventual self hatred and loneliness.
pros: variety and fun with attractive (and not so attractive) ladies. less $$$ spent, no time obligations, no responsibilities like protection or provisioning, and freedom and peace when you come home.
cons: no emotional support or nurturing. no deep emotional sex. i’m not a big holiday person so that’s nbd to me. more flaky behavior and the worst… LOTS of pressure for commitment.
Pros: exciting, new, pleasurable, experience sex that I wanted to experience.
Cons: dangers (stds, sexual situations with strangers), fulfilling/covering up mental illness with meaningless sex, not making as many real friends, lonely.
Pro – confidence that you’re “good enough”, allowing you to be selective and have healthy boundaries in future relationships
Con – it’s usually a surprisingly unpleasant experience
Pro: you’re a god in your 20s
Con: you’re not in your 30s and 40s.
What do you consider promiscuous?
I have gone through phases of being in long term relationships and then sleeping with everything that moves in-between.
I much prefer committed relationships with someone I care about. And the sex is a lot better in a committed relationship.
This lifestyle is more difficult when you get older. Women want more.
My soul feels like a vacuous pit of despair. I fear I will never be able to genuinely form an authentic romantic connection.
Pros: I fuck.
Pros: I have a really peaceful home life. Everything is where I left it, it’s really easy to organise my life and I don’t mind eating thr same meal 3-5 days in a row so I can just prep a stack of pasta enjoy it throughout the week.
Lots of incentive to stay physically active and fit and my home is always spotless because I never really know when I might have a guest.
I don’t tend to do one-night-stands i usually have a few casual-ongoing play partners so we get the chance to buupd up a really good connection and to understand what makes eachother tick (sexually)
Bustling social life and I can usually find something to do on any given night of the week, whether that’s a play partner or going out for dinner and drinks or afternoon visit to the beach.
Cons: while I do have play partner that enjoy a good cuddle, sometimes I come home and just wish I had somebody to cuddle up with and have weird goofy moments around the house.
I spend quite a bit on social engagements, eating out for lunches, dinners or meeting someone for drinks, it all adds up.
I just miss love and being loved sometimes, but it is not for lack of trying, just hasn’t worked out yet for me.
Pros: you learn a lot. Some of the best experiences in the world. Not just sexually. Drugs and alcohol enhance everything. Have tons of stories.
Cons: people are cheating whores. There’s always a chance that the person you’re hooking up with is in a relationship or married and if their partner finds out, you have to deal with that.
Pregnancy scares.
Std risk.
They don’t actually like you, they just want to drug and rob you.
It’s a small world. The lady who you’re hooking up with today can be your next hookups aunt or cousin. Makes for an awkward Thanksgiving
Pros: new experiences, extra incentive to stay in good shape, meeting new people, confidence boost when approached from recommendations, excitement, sometimes I get significant income from it, not getting hurt at end of relationship.
Cons: risk of STD, sometimes can be lonely during a dry spell or when friends doing couple things, some family and friends disapproval of lifestyle, reputation being built might lead to me being a forever red flag resulting in me being alone, obsessed with pussy and sex in general, I don’t like hurting girls who want more than just a hook up.
Others have covered it but I would add:
Pros – A large ‘wank bank’ of memories that can be recalled at will.
That feeling, a week or so in when you cant stop thinking about her.
You get to re-use all your old material and make her laugh.
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Cons – Every one of them takes a little bit of your soul. It can be soul destroying.
The ‘ground hog day’ first dates. Same questions over and over.
Running into and old flame and you can’t remember her name.
Pros: you get to have sex whenever you want. And that amount of socialization does make it easier to strike up conversation and be charismatic to strangers.
Cons: by the virtue of being with so many individuals, you become more predisposed to drama and mentally unwell people. Also, your mindset negatively shifts where you begin to have unhealthy expectations of sex, may verge to more experimental and risky sex out of boredom, and struggle to form healthy romantic bonds
It is amazing initially. There is a feeling of being “the man” and desired by women, which does a lot for an ego.
Eventually, it gets old. You forget names and faces and realize you left a lot of hurting hearts in your past. One day, you want to settle down and realize it is impossible because:
1. You don’t know how
2. IF you find a girl you want to settle down with, she isn’t as good in some areas as one of the many from your past, and she will never measure up because girl number 49 cooked better. Girl number 17 gave better head, girl number 72 had better pussy. Girl number 31 was sweeter verbally.
If I had to do it all over again, I would do everything in my power to keep my body count very low so I knew how to attach. That is a lot harder than it should be the more women a man has.
Think of it as a sticker. The first time you put a sticker on a wall, it sticks tightly, and you rip it off , leaving a small part behind. Do that 80 times, and the sticker no longer can stick because the sticker left small pieces behind, and now can’t stick because there is nothing left to stick.
One of my few regrets in life, to be honest, and I was in therapy for years working through my issues of being able to stay committed.
Bro it’s all fun and games at first since us men are horn-dogs and we are getting what we want with various girls. It’s heaven when you’re young.
Problem comes when you get tired of the pussy chase and want to settle down.
No girl takes you seriously because word gets out that you’re a fuck boy and only want one thing. Girls talk a lot remember that.
One of my friends was a bit of a man-whore when I met him. He told me over a beer one evening that he had met the woman of his dreams who he wanted to marry, and she likewise wanted him. He was even willing to put off sex until after marriage to give you an idea of how much he thought of the girl.
When he revealed he had genital herpes, she didn’t want to take the relationship further for fear of having an STD for the rest of her life.
I have zero interest in sex with anyone I don’t have a deep connection to, so it can be hard for me to relate to the lifestyle. I could tell that the rejection kinda broke him though. He got very quiet after telling me.
As much as I wanted to remind him of all the unprotected sex he’s had, I’m certain it was already on his mind. That plus it’s not right to kick a man when he’s down, especially when he’s being vulnerable to you as a friend and shoulder to lean on.
He still describes the lifestyle as fun and something to engage in while you can. He encourages me to come out of my shell, but I can tell that shadow of “what if?” still hangs over him.
I was never all that promiscuous, but had a brief stage when I was about 23 when I slept with about 6 different girls in a year, mostly hook-ups.
Pros – it’s nice to have variety of sex and it’s all a great adventure and you feel more confident/experienced with women. It also taught me alot about myself – I learned I was way more for long relationships than casual sex.
Cons – It’s not as good as you think it is – it’s not all that special cos you’re just hooking up and you don’t get chance to really get to know them and develope feelings, so the sex isn’t as great (for me). Also, most hook-ups involved alot of drinking which made the sex less memorable. Also, girls in general will begin to think you’re a player, even if it was the girl who initiated the hook-up, which it always was in my case – I definitely don’t think it made me all that popular.
The woman I ended up marrying is still pissed that I’ve slept with all of her friends and it can still make things a bit awakward 20 years later if we meet up with any of them…
The one con is when you get older and find a truly sweet girl they are grossed out by your past