As a man, there are definitely things that puzzle me about other men. 🤔 One thing I’ve never really understood? The obsession some guys have with pretending they don’t care or need help.
Let’s break it down:
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The ‘Tough Guy’ Act: Many men feel the need to show they’re tough, rarely asking for help or sharing their emotions. This often leads to isolation. 😟
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One-Uppering: You’ve heard it — guys trying to one-up each other in stories. It can feel like a constant competition instead of a genuine sharing of experiences. 📈
- Overlooking Self-Care: While self-care is for everyone, some men avoid discussions around it like it’s a taboo subject. The result? Increased stress and mental health issues. 😩
So, why do these behaviors happen?
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Cultural Expectations: There’s a long-standing stereotype that men should be tough and self-sufficient. This leads to feelings of inadequacy when asking for help or sharing vulnerabilities.
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Fear of Being Judged: Men might worry that asking for support will make them look weak, and they don’t want to be ridiculed or seen as less masculine.
- Lack of Awareness: Not everyone realizes how damaging it can be to bottle up feelings or prioritize competitiveness over camaraderie.
What can we do?
- Start conversations that encourage emotional openness and vulnerability among men.
- Foster a culture of support rather than competition. Next time you’re with your buddies, ask something genuine, like, “How are you really doing?”
- Promote self-care activities that everyone can enjoy, like group workouts or mental health days.
🤔 Here’s a question for you: What’s the craziest competition you’ve seen among guys? Let’s open up a dialogue about our experiences and, if you can, share tips on how to change those old-school norms!
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts! 🔍💬
One thing I have never really understood is why some men get SUPER obsessed with sports. At gatherings with family/friends, it’s all they can talk about and look at your like a lesser man for not being as into sports as they are. Then, to top it off, fantasy sports leagues – like, why? I’ve never enjoyed conpetitiveness to begin with, but when groups of guys get together to “play” football by using the stats of real-life players…it just seems ridiculous to me. It appears to take over guys lives. I’ve watched ‘The League’ with my wife, but that’s about as far as I’ll take it. Other than that, I might play a little Madden once in a blue moon, but nowhere near as much as I used to – and even when I played more often, it was because I was hanging out with more sports-minded guys at the time.
Only ever say sarcastic or negative things to their “best” friends and never unironically compliment them. I would never deliberately insult someone I considered a friend even as a joke.
Openly show off without feeling shame. Like revving an engine or wearing big jewelry. I always felt like it’s really just telling everyone what your insecurities are instead of, what they think is happening, showing how impressive of a specimen they are
Send unsolicited dick picks. I cannot imagine a single woman I’ve ever met thinking that’s an okay or reasonable thing to do…
Unsolicited dick pics. You can go pretty much anywhere on social media and women are talking about how much they hate it. Why are so many dudes still doing it??
Rape.
Feeling the need to talk about how big their dick is. Like seriously, who the hell do you think you are impressing?
Sexually assault
Hang sunglasses on the backs of their shirts.
Groups of men from three onwards become exponentially more obnoxious and ape-like with every additional man. You’re impressing nobody, my fellow men.
The guys who use the bathroom and then don’t wash their hands on the way out. Or put their hands under the water, with no soap, for like 5 seconds.
Skid marks. Literally never had skid marks or an itchy ass in my life. Seriously clean yourself or get a bidet.
Never learn to cook or take care of laundry and shit like that.
“Gracefully” decides to not understand that *no, she is not interested*. She has told you now 3-4 times while smiling that she is just out drinking with friends and not interested in a drink or anything else. Used to work as a bouncer, and obviously I understand alcohol is a big part of it, but the amount of times Ive stood around the bar and listened to these assholes just relentlessly thinking if I just keep talking she will come with me until the point were I have to say that its enough and he can come with me outside, is astonishing.
Piss on the floor right in front of the urinal
Buying a new gadget, immediately throwing away the instruction manual and getting p****d off because they can’t get the thing to work.
Hitting women.
Not be themselves in order to impress a girl.
Seem unable to keep it in their pants. I’ve just never been that tempted.
Hit women. Why does that make them feel tough?
Not wash their ass
Walk out on their families. I cannot imagine just leaving like that.
Not like how their SO looks unless they wear a bunch of makeup, do their hair up, whatever. I can’t imagine being with someone if I didn’t even like their face.
Mistreat women.
Spitting all the time
Roofies. Rape is fucking awful, but raping someone when they’re just passed out I can’t even understand.
The alpha male thing, that is the most ridiculous teenage carry over thing . LoL those guys are so laughable.
Men. Wipe. Boogers. On. The. Walls. Above. Urinals.
Who the fuck are you?
Not washing their assholes. Wth is that all about? That’s gross and weird.
Spitting on the sidewalk. Lowest form of human behavior I see regularly.
Take pictures of their penis and then send the pictures to women who absolutely did not ask for them
Not liking cute things. Dick pics.
speak badly about their partner, like why be with them if they are terrible
Not changing diapers or helping take care of the babies….shit blows my mind
Piss on the toilet seat. Like have you never been on the receiving end of that? It sucks. Take 2 seconds and lift it before you go.
Catcall women on the sidewalk from inside a car.
Have affairs or even second families. It’s insane morally and also a time management nightmare.
When they are competitive with mean pranks with their wife. That’s just super-unhealrhy.
Making another guy feel like they can’t be sensitive because they are a guy
Shaming women for liking sex. Not attending to a woman’s needs, especially if she’s attending to yours. Like, seriously, what kind of lesson are you trying to teach?
Call themselves “alpha male” unironically.