#MarriageAdvice: One thing to tell your partner at the beginning of marriage
Hey there all you married men! 👋 Ever look back on your marriage and think “I wish my partner knew this from the start”? Well, you’re not alone. Here’s some advice to help you navigate those early days of marriage and set a solid foundation for the years ahead.
### Communicate openly and honestly
Communication is key in any relationship, especially in marriage. Don’t be afraid to share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns with your partner. Let them know what you need from them and be open to listening to their needs as well. Remember, marriage is a partnership, and both partners need to feel heard and understood.
### Make time for each other
With the busyness of everyday life, it can be easy to let quality time with your partner slip through the cracks. Make a conscious effort to prioritize your relationship by scheduling regular date nights, having deep conversations, or simply spending time together doing something you both enjoy. This will help you stay connected and strengthen your bond.
### Show appreciation
It’s important to show your partner that you appreciate them, whether through acts of service, words of affirmation, or small gestures of love. Don’t assume they know how you feel – tell them and show them regularly. A little appreciation can go a long way in nurturing a healthy and happy marriage.
### Understand each other’s love languages
Everyone has a unique way of expressing and receiving love. Take the time to understand your partner’s love language and make an effort to show love in a way that resonates with them. This will help you both feel more loved and appreciated in the relationship.
### Seek professional help when needed
Marriage can be challenging, and sometimes you may need outside help to navigate difficult issues. Don’t hesitate to seek the guidance of a therapist or counselor if you find yourselves facing communication problems, conflicts, or other issues that are impacting your marriage. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it.
By following these tips and being intentional about nurturing your marriage, you can set a strong foundation for a lasting and fulfilling relationship. Remember, marriage is a journey with ups and downs, but with love, communication, and effort, you can build a strong and lasting bond with your partner. Let’s make every day count in your relationship and create lasting memories together. Cheers to a happy and successful marriage! 💑
Being allowed time to think about *Nothing* is vital to our long term mental health. It’s kind of like a soft reset and recalibration period for our brains. We are better Boyfriends/Husbands/Fathers/Brothers after a period of thinking about *Nothing*.
1.How to convey your feelings without being condescending and insulting.
2.Sharing household chores.
3. Learn to communicate.
You’re wasting both our time.
I love you, but I may be busy being a father more than you like.
That she was schitzophrenic and bipolar, and (as yet) undiagnosed.
That…would’ve helped, big time.
Other than that? I wish to the *gods* she’d known how to balance a checkbook and keep to a budget. I found out she couldn’t manage money worth a *damn* during our engagement, but I was in love, and like a fool thought it didn’t matter and that it’d change. It didn’t.
That the work of managing a household needs to be a joint venture that is split as evenly as possible. When it’s unbalanced and the responsibility falls on one person while the other lives like a teenager with no chores it causes major resentment to build and destroys the relationship
That it didn’t actually change anything for me commitment wise. Women are absolutely obsessed with marriage but nothing changed for me. I was already committed and didn’t need the government to prove it.
Who the fuck they are/were. How to ask for help. That they aren’t perfect; no one is. How to just be fucking honest with others, but more importantly with their self.
That she had Bipolar 1 and apparently our definitions of fidelity were very different
Intimacy is very important. Took a while but would prefer we not just be roommates and coexist.
I don’t actually take 45 minutes to have a shit, I was legit reading the paper in peace.
That I can be over fed.
Can’t treat your husband like a roommate who cooks you dinner and does chores, then be surprised he leaves when you won’t ever touch him. Pretty simple really. Nobody wants affection just to be placated.
mostly how to make abondigas.
I wish we had been more clear about if we want kids or not. Be open and honest with your intentions and don’t hold someone in a relationship with the promise of something you can’t fulfill.
I honestly can’t think of anything. When I read the question I thought I’d come up with something good pretty quick. But the more I think of it the more I see it all as opportunities we’ve had to grow together.
I wish she knew she had Graves disease. We found out the hard way with a near death experience while we were engaged.
I fart
That I have bad ears and when she mumbles, talks quietly in another room, or faces the other direction I can’t hear her.
Come to think of it, after 7 years of marriage, it would be nice if she figured it out in the next 10 or so years.
Food safety.
Holy fuck man.
My wife grew up in the States but with immigrant parents that didn’t really westernize and they have some iron guts – leave food out for 3 days but it’s not mouldy? Probably still good. Just heat it up a bit. Let’s chop meat on a board and wipe it and then chop celery sticks! Rinsing that dish with raw meat it with hot water and no soap and then drying it off is good enough. “Hey, I’m going to hang this sausage or vegetables or seafood outside for 10 days in the sun and then serve it for dinner. “
Where travel she can eat in food stalls and not get sick. It’s pretty impressive. It is pretty shocking
It it didn’t fucking fly for me
That I wasn’t going to be able to live with her hoarding and that living in separate houses was not a marriage.
That I’m dead serious about financial responsibility. I’m frugal when we need to be and spend freely when we are able.
So many very true and relatable responses.
If I’m new to something that needs to be done, just leave me alone to figure it out. Criticism and trying to push me to go faster is going to do nothing but piss me off.
We had an experience like this pulling our camper last weekend to the campsite. 28 ft camper being pulled by 2.7 ecoboost. I don’t have a lot of experience pulling a decent amount of weight, and add the wind pushing the rig all over on top of it. Kept calling my phone to tell me that I needed to speed up, not comprehending how much work her trucks little set up was under, nor understanding how wind pushes on a tall trailer.
I’m rebuilding our deck this weekend and it’ll be a learning experience. See how that shitshow goes.
It’s more like what I wished I knew at the beginning about myself.
Future Winning lottery numbers. Don’t care how she knew them, but it sure woulda made a nice wedding present
That they were a lesbian
Electricity and water costs money…
I used to think it would’ve been better if I told her I’m autistic. Looking back, it would’ve made things worse. Matter of fact. The things she did know changed nothing.
I would have liked to have known that she had cheated in all of her prior relationships. And that she was cheating on me while we were dating and engaged.
Communication is key, we should talk more about expectations and feelings.
All those things you thought would be an absolute disaster yesterday… DID NOT HAPPEN… all those things that you’re complaining about today WILL NOT HAPPEN. Stop being chicken frick’n little and appreciate what you have in front of you. (Ok, thanks, I feel better)
Men are not chicks with dicks
Credit cards are a pain in the ass to pay off later.
That conflict was normal and to stop overreacting.
That we are tackling the issue together instead of running away and leaving it unresolved or build resentment in each other.
That my judgement is sound and when the plan is in place, we execute it together. Instead of leaving all decision making and execution to my own to do.
That stealing money out of a joint account and giving it to her mother probably wasn’t a good idea.