What thoughts race through your mind when a guy asks you out? Have you ever wondered how to handle this situation tactfully? Let’s dive into the world of dating with #datingtips and #RelationshipAdvice to explore what really goes on in the minds of women when faced with this question.
Deciphering the Thoughts:
– Evaluating the guy’s intentions
– Considering compatibility
– Weighing in on personal feelings
Handling the Situation:
– Communicating honestly
– Setting boundaries
– Exploring potential feelings
Curious to learn more about the psychology behind being asked out? Stay tuned for insightful tips and tricks on navigating the dating world! #DatingInsights #MindBlown.
Depends heavily on the context and situation. Who is he? How do we know each other? Do I like him as a person? How’s our rapport? Am I single?
If he’s someone who already knows me well and knows I’m in a relationship, then I’m cutting contact with him for being disrespectful. If he’s a random stranger, most of my thoughts are about ending the interaction safely and moving on with my day. If he is an acquaintance who doesn’t know I’m in a relationship, it’ll be awkward, but it’s best to go ahead and turn him down while letting him know I’m not available at all, so I’ll be thinking of how to navigate that.
It’s totally dependent on the surrounding context.
How do I say no and get out of this situation safely?
EDIT: being on the receiving end of a cold approach feels like getting a call from a telemarketer during dinner, with the added possibility of danger because they can’t handle rejection.
If it is natural I’ll think about my calendar. When is my next work trip. What am I doing.
If it is not natural, I’ll just say I am busy and thank them for asking.
Soooo much of this question depends on context. Am I working? Don’t ask? Are we cooling off after a run or something. Go ahead and ask. Just be ready for lots of responses.
I had a guy take me out last year for a drink after a baseball game in DC. That felt pretty spontaneous at the time but he asked. I was thinking about dates and then I was like “I am already out, dressed up, it is a great evening.” So we went out.
Haven’t ever happened, but my immediate and only thought would be “cool, I love being asked out as a joke, what Tiktoker are you and where is the guy with the camera”
I’m waiting for the punchline mostly
I’m engaged, so usually whenever someone asks me out I try to think of a polite way to let them down whilst also commending them for their bravery since I know it takes a lot of guts to ask someone out. Usually I tell them that I’m flattered but that I’m engaged and I show them my ring.
If it’s some random dude asking in a place that isn’t for socializing, I’m annoyed and figuring out the quickest, safest way to get him to go away and leave me alone.
“Wtf does he see in me?”
Really me? 🤣😂
If it’s a person I know well enough that I’ve had a fun to flirty 20 minute conversation with them that I have at no point tried to escape, whether or not I want to go out with the guy I feel flattered, and I feel bad if I have to let him down. But it’s generally what I’d call a pleasant interaction.
If it’s someone who’s approached me blind in some location and doesn’t need to know anything about me before he knows he wants to go out with me, I feel somewhere between grossed out and scared with the same bad feeling that I have to let him down.
The last time a guy asked me out was back in January 2021. I told him “yes”.
At the time, what went on in my mind was, “*Wow, I didn’t think you actually felt that way about me*! 😮”
If I’m interested, I’ll be excited. If I’m not interested, I feel awkward and embarrassed.
It really depends on his looks
I got panicked. I have been single for three months and I’m on dating apps. I enjoy talking to them but when they ask to meet, I get panicked 😂
Am I being punked?? **Looks around for hidden cameras**
If it’s a random stranger or someone who should not be asking me out I’m annoyed and plotting my escape.
If it’s someone I actually want to say yes to I’m excited. I’ve definitely thought am I smiling too much or did I say yes too quickly and then realized I don’t care and they should know I’m excited about it.
How I’ll reject without being murdered mostly, most guys that asked me out aren’t serious about a relationship anyways
If I say no: Will he not take no for an answer? Will he keep bothering me about it? Did I say it in the right way so he won’t get violent? Do I have an exit path?
If I say yes: Am I making the right decision? Is he safe? Am I putting myself in harms way? Can I trust him? What are his motivations? Why did he ask me?
*why do only former coworkers ask me out on Facebook when I’ve been publicly in the same relationship for years?* then take 2-60 business days to reject them once the confusion and anxiety subsides.
I’m surprised at many of the responses here – I honestly think “omg here we go again – how do I say no again without sounding bored?”. (Of course very occasionally I think “hmmmm…. cute…… dare I say yes?”.)
No.
‘How do I say no clearly enough to shut this interaction down, while also placating him enough to avoid aggression’.
What I think is… “Nice, another guy asking me so he can sleep with me and never want any anything serious” It really doesn’t matter if you’re a great girl or not. If a man doesn’t have marriage on his mind. He’ll just use you. I’m at the point where if a guy comes up to me I have a very bland and neutral expression because it’s the same song and dance and it’s so old.
Where are the cameras? and you need to get your eyes checked, man.
Look around or behind him to see is someone is laughing. It would have to be a joke.
I know it’s terrible to say but it depends if he’s attractive or not. If he’s attractive I’m flattered and think about it for a week. If he’s not, I’m somewhat offended and try to forget about it immediately or I think he’s a creep. Either way though I am respectful when rejecting them because I have a boyfriend.
“Oh fuck”