Hey guys! So, I’m currently in my late 20s and I’ve been reflecting a lot on how much I’ve grown and changed over the past few years. It’s crazy how quickly time flies, right?
I wanted to ask you all: What are some realizations you’ve had in your late 20s? Have you found your lifelong friends, settled on a career path, or solidified your life philosophy? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Here are a few realizations I’ve had in my late 20s:
– Realizing the importance of self-care and mental health 🧘♀️
– Understanding the value of quality friendships over quantity 🌟
– Figuring out what truly makes me happy and pursuing those passions 🌈
What about you? Share your thoughts and insights! Let’s support each other on this crazy journey called life. 💭 #LateTwenties #LifeLessons #Reflections
28. I feel more confused, unsatisfied, out of place, and terrified than ever before. Lol.
Lost 90% of my friends, got a career, now I just need to find me a wife and have kids to be happy…I think
Turning 30 next week. Biggest realization is how much I’ve become sure of who I am over the past decade. Can’t say that I know myself 100%, but I definitely know a lot more about what I like & dislike, and feel a lot more comfortable saying no to things I don’t enjoy (vs my people pleaser 20yo self that would do everything even if she hated it).
At 29, I realized my therapist was racist and her guidance was actively designed to “assimilate” me culturally as this would somehow help me. **I realized therapy is a neocolonial practice designed for exactly this: so we gaslight and assimilate ourselves into the white western norm.**
Moreover, because **classical psychology is built on western and white norms,** the whole field is inherently white supremacist. **It excludes non-western cultures and value systems** and considers minority cultural value systems to be “backwards”.
I escaped therapy, started **living in my values** rather than what a white woman on a trust fund has to say, and my life got a lot better.
Before therapy, I rejected the western values of excessive individualism, consumerism, choosing today over tomorrow, choosing partners and temporary friends over family (blood or chosen), “it’s healthy to be obese!”, and choosing “passion” over practicality in a career.
I’m horrified at how I allowed a therapist to brainwash me to believe any of those things.
I realized that for minorities and neurodivergent people – and for me being both! – the tenets of CBT in particular are designed to teach us to ignore what’s wrong, and that we can’t acknowledge racism happens to us because it’s a “distortion”.
Don’t @ me with “therapy is about the right fit”. If I had a bacterial infection, I would take an antibiotic and it would work. **If a treatment only works if the ✨vibes✨ are right, it’s pseudoscience.**
PS – I also “did the work”.
Edit: I’d like for someone downvoting me to explain how a field built on an entirely different cultural system than mine can still work for mine given our vastly different value systems.
Save money starting from your first paycheck.
Even if it is 10% of your salary. Save it and do not touch it.
I started seriously when I was 30. I regret not starting it early.
That $5000 is a lot of money to owe but not a lot of money to have saved up.
That there are a vast number of women out there that don’t care about your job or how much money you bring in and they just want companionship. They are happy to live in an apartment and struggle with you as long as you are both love eachother.
27 and I think i have realized my job (or any) will not make me fulfilled. It’s the things outside of my job that leave me feeling fulfilled.
27 years old and realised that everyone is in pursuit of this magical unicorn like “happy place” that simply doesn’t exist.
Life is not linear and neither are we, searching for the perfect balance of work, friends, love, finances etc. is a gross misuse of time. Instead, I now work on paying more attention to the good and appreciating it when it’s there, rather than glossing over it and moaning when things aren’t good at how awful my life is.
I’ve also realised I’m chasing the illusive career that doesn’t feel like a job, you know the one where you in your dream job earning a fortune… although I’m sure some find it, I’ve realised that my work life should be adequate to support me to do the things that make me truly happy outside of work and it doesn’t need to be any more complex than that.
Basically, stop waiting around for the perfect life to come along and find you, start living the life you’ve got and teach yourself to recognise and appreciate all the good!