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Setting Boundaries
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In conclusion, it’s essential to address concerns about your husband’s behavior and communicate openly to strengthen your relationship. Remember that every marriage faces challenges, but with honest communication and mutual respect, you can overcome them together. #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageProblems“
Good for you.
And even if he hadn’t physically cheated yet. It would not be long before her did.
I wish you the best. And I hope you can find another who will give you the live you deserve
Have you spoken to a divorce attorney? Until the divorce is final, it won’t be completely over.
What’s he crying for? He did this to himself lmao he wanted this. Good for you for giving him an example of how you’re supposed to end a relationship you don’t want to be in anymore.
As expected. Good riddance. He will be back within a month. They wont last
Im sorry you going through this. You deserve better keep your head up and good for you, for respecting yourself, that you didn’t need to wait for the affair to get physical to put a stop to it.
Good for you! Not that it matters now, but I have a strong feeling he didn’t decline the offered up bj but that’s neither here nor there at this point.
Good riddance. If he goes this far, he would do it again if you forgave him. Document everything and do text messages or emails, so it is documented that there is no miscommunication.
Do not calm him down from a panic attack, he is destroying his life with you.
I would put any money on that they have been physical. He’s giving you the bear minimum in order to relieve guilt. Good on you for kicking him out.
I’m glad you are kicking him out and moving on with divorcing him. Mans is still full of shit with this whole he turned down a BJ but let her feel his muscles crap, good riddance!
I’m so sorry OP, what an awful thing to go through. I hope you can treat yourself to some nice things to keep your mind off this. Maybe plan a girl’s trip, or get a whole new wardrobe. The best revenge is a life well lived, so do whatever makes you happy!
Good for you! I’m proud, this is awesome to hear. Weird to say, but it truly is. You badass.
Good for you not putting up with this crap!
So they have been texting and shit? I find it crazy that he’s been doing all these but turned down the blowjob.
the coworker prob gets a thill from trashing u and him having a crush on her. now that u guys arent together anymore, hes gonna be boring to her
I am here to say two things.
1. I, a random stranger online, am extremely proud of you. Extremely! My heart is full of pride for you rn, you did what a lot of people out there don’t have the courage to do. You did the right thing, you stood for yourself!
2. I am sorry that you had to go through this. This is torturous and traumatising! Grief is not linear, there are going to be good days and bad. There may be days you will be proud of yourself, and there might be days you will regret it. Writing this for those bad days. You did your best, and you did right. You are enough and you deserve much much better.
Sending tons of love your way ❤️
He can have his side piece come over to feel his muscles if he needs someone to comfort him
She offered a bj and he still continued… wtf…. 🗑️ of a man.
Proud of you for being strong. Too many people forgive this and remain miserable until they’re cheated on, again.
You will find someone amazing.
He’s just selfish, he wants you to pity him after he hurt you deeply. I’m happy you’re not falling for it. Get ready for him to peddle a sob story to any mutuals. I would start letting your support system know that happened
Tell him to enjoy that wonderful prize of a woman. She’s trash and he’s now finding that out.
Declined head job? Put that next to Bigfoot and Santa Claus, cuz it don’t exist.
I love when these gold diggers realize it’s the WIFE’s gold. That’s the next installment I’m waiting for, little miss chef is going to realize that his wife was the one with the cash.
Edited to add: Freaking killing it, OP. Way to go realizing your own worth and letting the trash eat with the trash.
> I did fucking everything to help him get over it.
I’m so sorry OP.
All other ladies – this is what you get when you try to “fix” a fucked up man. He’ll take his improved self and let another woman enjoy the fruits of YOUR labor. If you have to “fix” him, he’s not worth it.
>The Saturday before last she offered to give him a blowjob during lunch together
Ew. This is so trashy. Your stbx found a real winner there.
Doesn’t know why he did it? Here’s my guess based on the info you shared;
1. You saw him at his weakest & most vulnerable, you are clearly still his backbone judging from his current behaviour. He doesn’t get to play the toxic image of manly man to you, in his mind, you are stronger than him. I guarantee he hasn’t opened up to her about any vulnerabilities he has, it sounds like she has appealed to the toxic manly man ideal of making food & offering blowjobs to the big, strong muscular man. He gets to inflate his ego in a way he can’t with you.
2. Not only have you emotionally supported him, you are also the main breadwinner, the provider. You cover the bills, the roof over your head, his contribution is the unnecessary fun stuff. This is yet another blow to the toxic manly man’s fragile ego. He probably considers himself financially superior to her, his money could hold more “value” to her instead of it just being fun money you won’t really miss.
3. He is older than her, gets to seem like the wiser, more worldly adult of the relationship. He will feel superior to her in every way he feels inferior to you.
4. He enjoyed the negative comments made about your food, not because they were necessarily true but because it meant you weren’t perfect & someone else was validating it. Again, when you are insecure it is easier to find faults be derogatory towards a perceived threat to drag them down, instead of building themselves up.
Conclusion. Major insecurity, inflation of ego from someone he feels he holds superiority over. And as fucking usual, instead of recognising this bullshit, speaking to his wife who has done nothing but love & support him, go to see a therapist to work on his feelings, he goes down the easy road. Instead of doing the work to overcome his feelings of inadequacy, it was so much easier to gravitate to someone who not only let him ignore those feelings for a while, they also found a way to tear you down.
I’m sorry you are experiencing this, it is truly pathetic when someone would sooner risk causing this terminal heartbreak, than suffer short term discomfort by communicating. It’s pathetic.