What to do when best friends reveal deep secrets while drunk? 🤔
#DrunkConfessions #FriendshipTroubles #SeekingAdvice
Yesterday, my best friends got drunk and dropped some bombshells. Here’s what happened:
Uncovering Hidden Pain:
– One friend confessed suicidal thoughts and a recent overdose
– Another admitted to relapsing into self-harm after a year of sobriety
Feeling Lost and Helpless:
– How to support friends without betraying their trust?
– Struggling to process shocking revelations
Seeking Guidance:
– How can you help friends in crisis without breaking their confidence?
– Looking for advice on navigating delicate situations
Next Steps:
– Understanding boundaries when faced with sensitive information
– Finding resources for supporting friends in emotional distress
If you’re grappling with similar issues, you’re not alone. Let’s figure this out together and support each other through tough times. 💖 #FriendsInTrouble #SupportingEachOther
You absolutely should address this. Whether you were supposed to hear it or not but this cannot be ignored. Instead of agreeing to mention it I think you should be working on a way to address it without it becoming an intervention or other approach that wouldn’t be well received. If you are the closest of the friends it should probably come from you and from a gentle approach of concern. I am not qualified on how this should be done exactly but all I can say is do not ignore this
Tell them you weren’t prying but you overhead it. It needs to be addressed and they need help . This is one of those “cliche” I wish I’d done something moments. ACT ON IT NOW
There is nothing stopping you from calling suicide help lines in your area and asking for advice. They will tell you what next steps to take.
Just dont say shit mate
You were absolutely supposed to hear that. What she is doing is presenting suicidal behavior (as opposed to attempting suicide) this is very common in younger girls/women as a cry for help. Same as when she got drunk and “oops” said something she “shouldn’t have”
She *wants* you to do something
A tylenol/acetaminophen/whatever the British call it overdose has no major symptoms until it’s too late and you need an organ transplant or you die. And you are unlikely to get an organ transplant because you are at risk of suicide. Do something about it.
Something you pretend you didn’t hear while drunk: “OMG, so-and-so is so hot.”
Something you do NOT pretend you didn’t hear: “I tried to kill myself.”
Go to where that person is, do not call or text. Talk to her. See if she needs help.
“I want to help my friend, but what if something bad happens to me?” Your friend is literally going through a life and death battle. Either be their friend, or don’t.
You said she said it directly to you. That means it was meant for you to hear, even if she was intoxicated when she made the decision. It’s a difficult thing to tell a person and some people can only open up like this after a lot of drinks.
Now you know, you have the power to do something to help them. What’s stopping you? Discomfort about bringing up a difficult topic? Respecting her privacy?? She doesn’t need privacy, she needs help! Urgently so!
The knowledge you have comes with a duty to help your friend. Why not reach out right now, literally right this second?
You join the club if 50 million who heard their best friend say something you wish you did not. Shut up, repress it and move on. If you hear it when she is sober, pursue it. Drunk attention whoring and suicide are not usually coupled.
#You absolutely can mention it to them and you SHOULD.
Do not ignore this, there’s a reason she said it when she’s drunk. Her self conscious is literally crying out for help. This is what that phrase means. She wants you to stop her. She wants you to show her you care. Please do not ignore it.
If you like her and don’t want her dead, go tell her both of those things and let her know what she told you and that you care about her and are there to talk to her. And then check back in, even if she’s resistant.
Please don’t just bottle this up and ignore it, and tell your other friends the same. It’s easy to be scared of this conversation, but you’re not in danger, she is. Or “they are” if there are two of them.
The other friend also expressed suicidal ideation and should also not be taken lightly. Reach out. It shows you care.
And don’t ask if they still feel that way. They do. You already have the information that makes it concrete. You don’t need to therapize them. You just need to openly and expressively be their friend. They need you.
thank you for the help everyone, i messaged my friend about the pills and she said that she’s thankful that i asked and that she’s ok. i didn’t really buy it but i told her to come talk to me if she needs help, im gonna keep a close eye on her. i haven’t said anything to my other bestfriend yet about the selfharm, i know it’s a touchy subject for her so i think i’ll ask her face to face the next time we hang out. thank you again for the help, i’m going to try my best to give them the help they need. 
>we weren’t supposed to hear any of this
True.
>and that we can’t mention this to them.
Nonsense, and the oppposite of what you should do.
>I can’t ask them about any of this because I know that I wasn’t meant to hear any of that
You can, and should ask them. There is no ‘meant’, there is no path that life *should* take. Deal with reality as it presents itself to you; you know of two friends with very severe mental struggles. Reach out properly, attempt to help them with this.
You could get all sorts of responses, from ‘thank you, this helps’ to ‘this makes me uncomfortable, stop’ to ‘you shouldn’t have heard that’. You don’t know until you try, and (in my opinion) true friends try. It’s also very possible (or likely) that your friends aren’t owning up to these feelings, that they underestimate how ‘real’ these feelings they shared are. Happens to the best of us, and it’s no shame, but also not something you should pretend didn’t happen.