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Women, have you ever been bombarded with unsolicited advice that made your eyes roll so hard they almost got stuck? We’ve all been there – whether it’s about your career, relationships, appearance, or life choices, it seems like everyone has an opinion on how you should live your life. 🙄
In this article, we’re going to delve into the most annoying unsolicited advice that women have received, and how you can shut down those unwanted opinions with grace and confidence.
## The Most Annoying Unsolicited Advice Women Receive
### 1. “You should smile more!”
– Example: “You’d be so much prettier if you smiled!”
– How to respond: “I’ll smile when I have a reason to, thanks.”
### 2. “You should lose weight.”
– Example: “You’d look better if you lost a few pounds.”
– How to respond: “I’m happy with my body just the way it is.”
### 3. “You should settle down and start a family.”
– Example: “You’ll regret it if you don’t have kids soon.”
– How to respond: “My life choices are none of your business.”
### 4. “You should dress more conservatively.”
– Example: “That outfit is a bit too revealing.”
– How to respond: “I’ll wear what makes me feel confident, thanks.”
## How to Deal with Unsolicited Advice
### 1. Listen politely, but don’t feel obligated to follow it.
– It’s okay to hear someone out, but remember that you are in control of your own life.
### 2. Set boundaries with assertive communication.
– Don’t be afraid to speak up and tell people when their advice is unwelcome.
### 3. Surround yourself with supportive people.
– Build a circle of friends and family who respect your decisions and don’t try to dictate your choices.
### 4. Practice self-care and self-love.
– Remind yourself daily that you are worthy and deserving of respect, no matter what others may say.
## Empower Yourself Against Unsolicited Advice
Remember, you are the captain of your own ship. You have the power to steer your life in the direction that feels right for you. Don’t let the opinions of others sway you from your path to happiness and fulfillment. Stand tall, speak up, and don’t be afraid to shut down unwanted advice with confidence and grace. You’ve got this! 💪
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Occasionally I’ll be struggling with a low libido and will complain about it online, because it’s an annoying thing to happen given my line of work (I write and make podcasts about sex and sex toys professionally).
Men will often jump in to either tell me I should fuck them and they’ll fix it (no) or that I should just masturbate more (lol you really think I’ve been doing this work for over a decade and I’ve never heard of masturbation?! lmao).
“You should have another child! I regret not having another one for *their* sake (the only child’s sake).”
Yeah, it wasn’t up to me anyway, but thanks for the guilt trip.
When people ask me when am I going to have kids, I tell them that we’ve already been trying for a year with still no luck, and they say stuff like “oh just do x y and z, as soon as I did it I got pregnant right away”. And in my head I’m like “as if I haven’t done all that and more already, and thanks for throwing it in my face how my body is failing me by bragging about how easy and fast it was for you lol”. Also when they tell me to just go to the doctor, as if my stupid ass health insurance actually covers incredibly expensive fertility treatments lol.
A coworker yelled at me for reaching up when I was pregnant that I was gonna make the umbilical chord wrap around my baby and kill him ,🧐🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ so stupid
My dad telling me the chairs on our front porch make my house look like a “city house.”
Have a baby (said to my newlywed husband and I in the financial aid office in college 🫠)
I was waiting for takeout at a restaurant, next to a woman and her baby. I asked her the obligatory “how old” or some other nicety for no reason at all.
In the resulting 30 second conversation, she told me I would regret not having children. 😀
That if I didn’t get an episiotomy during childbirth I’d get vagina cancer. My nurse MIL told me this. She mentioned this a few times and was shocked that I would not allow this.
That I should get married asap( I was 24 yrs old pregnant and living with my boyfriend/fiancee)- told this at the grocery store by my neighbour.
That I shouldn’t cut my hair, keep it long- male coworker.whej I told him I was going for a haircut.
That my dogs should be wearing a harness instead of a collar.
Etc etc….i feel like people love to give unsolicited advice on the street.
That I would look more beautiful if I smiled more.
To lighten up.
That I should talk less. It’s annoying because that’s the reason people are drawn to me in the first place. Once they are comfy around me, somehow they think that it’s OK to tell me to be less reactive. I’m going to be who I’m irrespective of what you may think or want. Can’t deal with it? Go find someone else.
That I shouldn’t pursue an art degree because it’s “not in demand” (I was in high school at the time. A relative told me this.) I make six figures as a game artist now.
Literally anything about my weight. When I was skinny before it was “you’d look so much better with pounds on you, have you tried xyz?” Then I was really chubby and it was “You’d look so good if you lost some weight, have you tried xyz?” Now I’m really skinny again and it’s back to “You should work out to get some muscle” or “try this high protein diet” for the love of god LEAVE ME ALONE
Men that come over and advise me on form in the middle of my workout 🙃
You should just smile more
I still remember I had to call off work cuz my period cramps was so bad. My manager told me “I never had bad cramps before, if it’s that bad goto the hospital”
Okay sure maybe I should /s but NOT EVERYONE BODY IS THE SAME!!!! Just because you react differently doesn’t mean that everyone react the same. I have painful cramps and others have none or barely. That’s how my body works lol.
Usually to start working on things I’ve already been working on for a while. A lot of the time when I bring up specific mental health related issues I’ve had in my life and the way they’ve affected it, there’ll be someone replying to get therapy, look into this or that disorder, look into attachment theory, etc.
It’s just like…yeah, I’m already doing all that. And the way I am now is much, much better than how I was even five years ago. I don’t need the no shit advice from some fucking dork who thinks they’re being more helpful than they are. Plus, it always comes off as if they haven’t even read the comment in full because it’s almost always in response to comments where I explicitly state these are things I *used to* do, not that I *currently* do.
I have psoriasis, it covers alot of my body and there is no way to hide it and I work in retail. These are my all time favourite unsolicited advice:
1. You need to go to the Dr, sti’s are contagious
2. That’s all the bad stuff coming out of you, you should go get blessed
3. If you bathe in your urine it will clear that up
4. You’d be really pretty if you weren’t scarred
And then obviously there’s the general one if you smiled more youd be prettier
“You should smile more” 🙄
I was on an airplane hungover af and going to open the air vent since I was hot. This guy goes ‘oh, you’re not feeling any air cause the plane isn’t on!’
Bruh, the vent was closed…
I had a man say to me, at a playground, that I should really consider getting a boob job. I had never met this person before.
When someone gives you advice on how you can be “more feminine” (of course I didn’t ask for it )