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What is Your No-BS Dating Advice?
Looking for dating advice that skips the fluff and gets straight to the point? Here are some no-BS tips to help you succeed in the dating world:
1. Be Authentic
Show up as your true self and don’t try to be someone you’re not. Authenticity is attractive and will attract the right kind of people into your life.
2. Set Boundaries
Know your worth and set boundaries early on in a relationship. Don’t settle for less than you deserve and always prioritize your own well-being.
3. Communication is Key
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship. Be open, honest, and transparent about your feelings and expectations.
4. Trust Your Instincts
Listen to your gut feelings when it comes to dating. If something feels off, trust your instincts and don’t ignore red flags.
5. Focus on Self-Love
Before you can truly love someone else, you need to love yourself first. Take care of your own well-being and prioritize self-love and self-care.
So there you have it! Follow these no-BS dating tips and watch your love life flourish. Remember, you deserve nothing but the best in love and relationships.
For example “talk to each other”. Don’t do the “read between the lines” or “you should know” bullshit with anything. Actually talk. Having problems? Talk it out. Have concerns about something? Talk about it. Feel like the relationship isn’t going where you thought it would? Communicate.
If someone gives you shit for something you can’t affect, like your height, be grateful. If they ghost you, be grateful. If they start up by telling you how much they expect you to conform to them, be grateful.
All shit human beings should self-identify as shit. Be grateful when you find someone who does.
If there is something that is a 100% dealbreaker for you, make it known to your partner immediately so it’s not a surprise later on.
Figure out what you want. Write it down if it’s helpful, then stick to your criteria. If you feel you want to change this criteria, then go ahead. But don’t be swayed by your own weakness
Meet new people.
Don’t be an asshole.
Don’t trash your ex.
Be observant of how your date treats others…… thats going to be you after a few months. LOL
If people don’t make an effort to communicate and meet just move on. People start as they mean to continue
Relationships aren’t 50/50. They’re 100/100. If you truly want a relationship/marriage to last, there are going to be times when you HAVE to take more of the emotional/physical workload of the relationship. That involves a high level of trust with the other person.
Be nice, but don’t be a doormat. Don’t be a dick, but stand up for yourself.
Don’t date unless your confident in dating your self. If your not able to handle your self, your gonna either be unable to handle being with someone else, or it will lead you to being overconfident. Either way, it can lead to abuse, relationship issues, and more.
If they say they are a bad person, believe them.
Early dating advice: check their nails. It’s a good indicator to their grooming standards.
Then in general:
– go on many dates even if there is no hope, the social experience is good practice
– not everyone you meet is “the one”
– be honest but also realistic regarding what you want, nobody is perfect
– don’t be whiney, needy or clingy. Be decisive, don’t be a dick though.
There’s no rush.
Understand that when you make compromises during the “honeymoon period”, it’s much harder to uncompromise it. So, if you think something will bother you down the line, talk about it upfront.
Don’t rush into anything, even if you feel like going fast (if you’re looking for something serious anyway). Spendtime getting to know each other. Wait a bit for sex, don’t move in together until you’ve known each other for at least a year, make sure you live together before getting engaged, spend a couple years living together before marriage. Too many people rush into stuff and then they are married with kids a few years later and realizing they don’t know/like their partner. It’s not a race…
If you dont trust them, its not going to work
If you aren’t a “fuck yes” to spending time with someone you meet then move on to someone else. If you get the feeling that the other person isn’t also a “fuck yes” to spending time with you, move on to someone else.
You want to date someone who is excited to be with you and you with them. Too many people are hung up on dates that aren’t really interested in dating them.
My mom always told me that dating should be fun, and the minute it stops being fun is the minute it should be over. Not only has she been right every time, but she and my dad have been together for close to 50 years and are still obsessed with each other so I fully trust her dating advice.
Always remember it’s “do I like this person” not “does this person like me”
First, shared values are important. Religion, politics, are part of your values. If you don’t share core values you will spend a lot of your relationship compromising and hashing out shit. Can it work? Sure, but realistically most people do not like having long term or serious relationships with people they aren’t aligned with.
If your relationship is broken enough to “take a break” you need to end it. You’re not recovering from whatever horseshit happens during the break.
If they cheat, leave. You’ll spend the rest of your time together wondering what if. Even if they don’t do it twice they ruined the trust and trust is part of the foundation of a healthy relationship. Once you fuck that up the odds of your relationship being healthy are slim.
Have standards and be realistic. If you want a particular type of partner you have to be ready to match the energy. Want to date a hot gym rat? Don’t be eating Doritos in bed. Want a house wife? Get a house first. Part of this relates to the first point, people typically get into relationships where they’re aligned. Align yourself with the lifestyle you desire and want to share with someone.
This works for both genders: if you find someone who is controlling, lying about things, doesn’t show emotional maturity or is trying to bring you down when you are excited then i suggest talking about those things. Might be a deal breaker.
Obviously you too need to adhere to these ideals if you expect them of others – it’s only fair
Watch out for extreme kinks, figure out how extreme their kink is early on and if you can handle it psychologically
Know the signs of lovebombing and mirroring, as these are manipulation tactics designed to artificially fast-track intimacy.
If your date asks a barrage of questions like they’re The Riddler and you’re doing most of the talking, it’s not because they’re genuinely interested in you or that they’re a really good listener.
It’s an information gathering thing, usually for nefarious purposes. Don’t overshare and certainly don’t trauma dump either, as toxic people will be drawn to that.
If you say something like ‘I’ve always loved Prague’ and they respond ‘OMG me too!’, ask follow-up questions.
For example ‘oh, what’s your favourite bakery in Prague?’ or ‘ooh what’s the name of that church, you know, the one near such and such place’. If they answer quickly and in detail, cool. If they run off to the toilet with Google opened on their phone, not cool.
Also be mindful of sob stories about evil exes. Chances are, the ex was fine. It’s the person in front of you who’s the problem. Even if the ex was evil, a person who enters into a new relationship with unresolved baggage is not someone you should get involved with.
Also watch out for claims of ‘I’m such a good person’ or ‘I’m an empath’. Pretty much always a red flag, as genuinely good, empathetic people display those positive traits through actions and don’t need to label themselves.
Treat a potential new partner like you would treat a potential new car, job or home – do your research, don’t blindly take things at face value and if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
Pay attention, more than anything else, to how you feel after interacting with them. If you find yourself consistently feeling bad about it, interrogate that feeling, even (and honestly, especially) if you feel like it’s kind of your own fault. A lot of people will work to make you feel like that and they are very dangerous.
Date someone who likes you for who you are. Not who they hope you’ll become. (And vice versa on your end)
Never ignore red flags and if someone wants to change for you, it’s not worth it. Changing a core personality trait is something very few people can do.