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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your parents are constantly nagging you about not working, even though you are financially independent and have your life in order? It can be frustrating and confusing to navigate these dynamics, especially as a young adult trying to make your way in the world. Let’s dive into some reasons why your parents might be feeling this way and how you can address their concerns effectively.
**Reasons why your parents might be mad that you don’t work:**
1. **Traditional expectations**: Your parents might come from a generation where having a stable job and working hard was the norm. They might struggle to understand why you would choose to not work, even if you are financially secure.
2. **Concern for your future**: Parents naturally worry about their children’s well-being and future success. They might fear that not working now could hinder your career prospects or financial stability in the long run.
3. **Value of hard work**: Your parents might believe that working is essential for personal growth, building character, and developing a strong work ethic. They might feel that you are missing out on valuable experiences by not being in the workforce.
4. **Social status**: Some parents place a high value on social status and may worry about how your choice to not work reflects on them as parents. They might fear judgment or criticism from others if their child is not actively pursuing a career.
**Ways to address your parents’ concerns:**
1. **Open communication**: Have an honest and open conversation with your parents about your decision not to work at the moment. Explain your reasons, such as focusing on your education or taking a break to recharge before starting a new job.
2. **Show them your independence**: Demonstrate to your parents that you are financially independent and responsible. Offer to help around the house, contribute to household expenses, and show that you can take care of yourself.
3. **Set goals and plans**: Share your goals and plans for the future with your parents. Let them know that you have a clear path in mind and that not working temporarily is a conscious choice to achieve your long-term aspirations.
4. **Seek their support**: Ask your parents for their support and understanding. Let them know that you value their opinion but ultimately need to make decisions that align with your own values and aspirations.
In conclusion, it is essential to remember that each family dynamic is unique, and communication is key in resolving conflicts or misunderstandings. By addressing your parents’ concerns with empathy and respect, you can hopefully navigate this situation and find a common ground that works for everyone involved. Remember that ultimately, your well-being and happiness are what matter most, and it’s important to prioritize your own needs and goals in the midst of external pressures.
They probably worry that you’re not doing anything productive
If only you could talk to them
Could be they’d prefer to not have you at home.Â
Could be they are worried that if it took so little time to give up on accounting after presumably several hears of school that they aren’t super optimistic you will stick with the next thing after paying for more school.
Could be that they just feel work is important for growth.
If there are college loans in the picture then could be they are worried about you adding to those given so many people communicate about the long term burden of that.
Could be their great great grandfathers were both accountants and they hoped you’d carry on the family lineage.
You’d need to communicate with them to find out what their reasons are.
Seems like a reasonable combination, what with companies using computers for accounting these days. You weren’t hoping to get into games, were you?
They were probably happy to get their home and freedom back. Maybe they want to walk around in their undies. Maybe they like to smoke pot at 12. I’ve legit heard this from empty nesters who had kids return.
*sigh*, Another spoiled rich kid living with their parents and doesn’t want to work.
Ask them then combat it.
They want to live their own life now, but you are still there. Maybe they want to sell and move away but can’t
They’re just from a different time when you went to work and then never stopped. Probably never had $30K in their savings account to live off of and enjoy life for a minute.
I have a friend who worked for his father’s company for 20 years. They just sold the company and my friend wanted to take a year or two off to raise his newborn son, but the dad wouldn’t pay him his cut from the sale until he “made sacrifices” and “found a career”.
That’s just how older people think. If you’re not working you’re a freeloader.
Talk more, write less
Good parents worry about their kids. It’s just what they do. Would you rather they not care what you do at all?
You are just 22 years old, have a lot of savings for your age and you found early in your life that you didn’t like accounting. You made a good decision to stop working in that field since you don’t like it. Please ignore all these comments that say that it is not good for your cv to have a gap in your resume. Enjoy your life and chase your dreams!
I wish I were as smart and educated as you
Failure to launch is a big concern for parents. It doesn’t seem like that much of concern here but I can understand how your parents might be worried when you’re taking 6 months off at the beginning of your career before changing fields. Reminding them that you are on track and have no plans to ask for their help financially might help reassure them.
>I’m living at home currently 60% of the time
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>I spent 60% of time in England with my gf
The accounting ain’t accountin’
They’re probably afraid you’re becoming one of those people who are always “in between jobs”. Always quitting because “it doesn’t feel right” or “having plans for something bigger” without any commitment or concrete plans. Props to you for enrolling in a master’s course, but you damn well better complete it and commit to a tech job as a career afterwards, and not realize “actually, it wasn’t what I wanted to do after all.”
because they love you you moron
you are wasting your life, go level up
Was the accounting job really high paying? Maybe they feel like you threw away a really good opportunity for something less certain.
At the end of the day, you are 22 and living with your parents. You don’t get a say, move out or listen to them and get a job.
* If you accumulated a savings while paying cheaper rent by living with your parents, who do you have to thank for that? Sure, you might have worked your ass off for the money, but here’s a crazy thought. Millions of people every day work their ass off for their money and still don’t have enough left over to save any. *Your parents helped you greatly get that savings. They are worried that without their help you aren’t going to survive and they want to make sure you have your shit together so they can stop worrying about you.*
* If you’re telling people you did something all by yourself, you’re either a small child or you didn’t and you’re trying to convince yourself otherwise. *Figure out which one you are*.
* Talk to your parents again and this time don’t say a SINGLE word, only listen. You defend yourself at every point someone mentions an inconsistency or tells you that you’re wrong. Don’t ask questions if you’re only going to consider the ones that already align with your views. *People are giving you the hard advice you need, and it isn’t because they’re misunderstanding the situation, at least not all of them.*
This will sound crazy: talk to them about it.
Generally speaking, it’s distasteful when a competent adult chooses to just fuck around when they could be doing something even slightly productive. Maybe they don’t see the value in recreation that you see. If you don’t appreciate their opinions, stop living there 40% of the time.
If you can move, why don’t you?
Gaps in resumes were huge red flags for your parents when they were coming through the workforce. Also there’s a lot of soft skills you pick up at work that you don’t in a classroom. I learned way more about people working at WalMart for a year than I ever did in sociology class. But also maybe consider volunteering somewhere once a month? Not as demanding as a 9-5 but looks good on a resume.
How long were you at said big 4? Being 22 I’m guessing it wasn’t long and they probably fear going back to school might not solve for the reason you left said job. Many people use school as a comfort space and pass through spot when they can’t figure out what they want to do in life which i believe would be their underlying concern.
They’re worried about you buddy. A temporary slump can become a lifestyle before you realized you were slipping. I never had anything good happen for me by doing nothing but doing something, even if it isn’t the final plan has always lead to new opportunities.
Parents are just like regular people. Everyone has different emotions, me and my wife aren’t picky about our 18 year old son. He likes games and I told him fair and square that if he wants the extra money for those things he needs a job.
He will always have a roof over his head and food on table at our house. That’s the responsibility as a parent bringing a living being I to the world. All the extras are up to him.
I’m GenX (who also worked at PwC for years)…. So you’re saying you just up and quit your job to do nothing for the next 6 months? To go back to school for an additional degree? Did you consider a different job in the accounting/ tax/ audit field? Public and Private firms are very different and offer different types of work and lifestyles. I know very generational but where your parents are coming from, the few people we knew that did this (in our day) never got ahead, will likely never retire, and comparatively are no happier or more relaxed than us. I’m annoyed at you and you’re not even my kid.
They are probably annoyed because you’re behaving like a spoiled teenager and they are worried about your future.