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Are you curious about why some childfree individuals express strong emotions towards children and parenthood? Let’s dive into this intriguing topic to understand the reasons behind their adamant stance. 🤔💭
Understanding the Perspectives of Childfree People
Childfree individuals are those who have made a deliberate decision not to have children. While their choice may seem unconventional to some, it is essential to respect their autonomy and understand the rationale behind their sentiments.
Reasons for Disliking Children and Parenthood
1. Personal Preference: Some childfree individuals simply do not have a natural inclination towards children and may find it challenging to connect with them.
2. Lifestyle Choice: Many childfree people prioritize their freedom, independence, and career goals over the responsibilities that come with parenthood.
3. Negative Experiences: Some childfree individuals may have had traumatic encounters with children or witnessed challenging aspects of parenting that have influenced their perspective.
Expressing Strong Opinions on Childfree Forums
Childfree communities serve as safe spaces for individuals to express their thoughts, feelings, and frustrations without judgment. It is common to find passionate discussions and strong expressions of dislike towards children and parenting within these groups.
Tips for Engaging in Meaningful Conversations
1. Respect Differences: Remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions and choices, even if they differ from your own.
2. Seek Understanding: Instead of criticizing or dismissing childfree individuals, try to empathize with their experiences and reasons for their preferences.
3. Promote Dialogue: Encourage open and respectful communication to foster mutual understanding and bridge the gap between different viewpoints.
Conclusion: Encouraging Empathy and Respect
In conclusion, the adamant stance of some childfree people towards children and parenthood may stem from a variety of factors, including personal preference, lifestyle choices, and negative experiences. By promoting empathy, respect, and open dialogue, we can create a more inclusive and understanding community for individuals with diverse perspectives. 🌟 #Empathy #Respect #Understanding #CommunityBuilding
Remember to approach these discussions with an open mind and willingness to learn from others’ perspectives, even if they differ from your own. Let’s continue to foster a supportive and inclusive environment for all individuals, regardless of their choices regarding parenthood. 🌈🤝
I’m child free by choice. I love my friends and families kids, so it’s not as though I hate children haha. But I will say it pisses me off when people get special accommodation because they have kids. At one of my previous jobs people with children were allowed to start work later, vs us without kids had to start at 8am. So us child free people had to endure the rush hour traffic, but the people with kids got to wait til after.
In my early 20s I had friends say that their coworkers with kids got preference for schedules.
It’s really unfair.
This friend could be experiencing something similar on a daily basis and has now just become a grumpy person because of it and she feels you’re a safe space to vent.
Personally I don’t enjoy negativity in my life, so I would tell her to tone it down if it was truly excessive or just gradually distance that friend haha
Probably because being childfree is met with resistance at every step of the way. It’s super unpopular to not want kids so we’re told constantly, “we don’t know what we want” “we’re too young to know our own minds” “we don’t know true love without kids” “we will feel differently about kids when we have our own” “we’ll die alone” and on. And on. And on. It’s endless and perfect strangers feel entitled to discuss our reproductive choices at their whims. We’re met with hostility and anger at our choices – you may not see it but I promise your friend certainly does. So yeah she’s angry about it. I think she has a right to be, but she also needs to realize that giving her energy to people who don’t matter will only lead to sorrow.
Understanding and accepting her choice will quiet her down faster than anything else
It’s one of those zealot things, probably. You know, someone finds a cause, then their identity is wrapped around said cause.
It goes both ways. You are referring to child free assholes. There’s parents that are assholes to anyone without children too. When anyone who’s child free mentions being tired, they inform them that because they don’t have children, they can’t be tired.
Kids or no kids, people will be assholes.
There is a lot of negativity thrown at women who don’t want kids. I know people kept trying to tell my hubby and I that we should’ve had kids. We didn’t because of health history in both sides. Plus I never wanted to have any. People learned real quick to never bring it up again.
Your friend may be reacting to the negative judgements she’s getting elsewhere, that you’re not aware of. A lot of women are put under enormous pressure from their family to reproduce. And even from non-family members. I’ve had people who I barely knew tell me, with utter confidence, “oh no, you don’t really not want to have kids, your biological clock just hasn’t gone off yet”. If she’s on the receiving end of shit like that a lot (again, when you aren’t there to see), she might just be super sensitive to the topic in general. I’d try to avoid bringing it up around her.
Some people go overboard on promoting aspects of their identity and things that matter to them. It has lots of causes, but one in general here is that there is a lot of pressure in many cultures to have children. This pressure can come from both society at large and one’s circle of family and friends. Like, a **lot**. It can feel suffocating, especially since it is such a significant, life altering decision.
So in a case like this, sometimes it’s partly about rebellion against that pressure and helping others to realize being childfree is an option.
Mostly because people have been telling us we WILL have kids and we WILL want them no matter what we say or how old we are . It’s obnoxious, leave us alone . There are other ways to live and
Stop expecting the world to care and be all excited about your or anyone’s crotch fruit
It’s that they can’t accept that other paths can be happy – low key I assume they doth protest too much and wonder (as we allllll do) if there wasn’t a better direction.
These are the same people who say married people never have sex. Go enjoy your app date life leave me to my clean, in house D. 😀
If you want to be charitable its because there is a significant amount of pressure on some people to have children, both socially and biologically.
Working hard to justify their decisions.
Anti-natalists are some weird fucking people. They also seem very insufferable when I lurk in their sub.
I can think of two reasons:
1.) They could be very proud and confident in their decisioin and want the world to know.
2.) They could actually really want children but be unable to have them so they overcompensate.
Not excusing assholeness but food for thought :
– How many times do childfree people get told they’ll change their mind, will forever not know what god-gifted miracle childbearing is, or are just plain selfish for not wanting children ?
– How many times do childfree people get shut off when they say they are tired because no one can be as tired as a parent?
– How many times are childfree people’s needs and social life put aside in the workplace because “Parent” has children and therefore needs more than anyone else to be home when they want to be home?
– How much time do childfree people spend listening to every single parent around them complain about the many reasons parenting gets them to complain?
Some childfree people are assholes. Some are just reacting to the asshole parents around them.
It’s kind of ironic because before people looked down in people who don’t want kids. Now we have people being just as judgmental and rude to people who choose to have children.
There’s always an asshole somewhere.
Which is hilarious to me because a good amount of them get dogs and essentially become the equivalent of a parent who refuses to control their children but with dogs.
Love kids, don’t have any. Nothing wrong either way… am I the anomaly?
Because they’re judgmental assholes. If you don’t choose to parade it like a banner, no one would know.
Because they have no real personality beyond being hateful of literal children who’ve never done anything to them. I’m childfree but the vocal, nasty ones need to get some therapy for their obvious issues.
I think it’s genuinely a knee jerk reaction to all of the flack women get for not having or wanting children. There is also some workplace unfairness where management expects childless women to stay late and cover for women who are mothers.
I was never one of those people but if I were it would be because I got sick of people trying to convince me how great kids are when I say I don’t want kids.
I assume it depends on the person. But many of us, especially women, are pressured for our entire lives about how we need to have kids, we’re unnatural or selfish if we don’t, we don’t know ourselves enough to choose not to have kids, etc. It can be extremely frustrating. When was in my 30’s, I knew the Repubs had the goal to ban abortion, so I had myself sterilized. Even at 30 as a single career woman, the medical establishment wouldn’t allow me to make that choice unless I took some stupid “class”– and even then only because my ob/gyn advocated for me. I was considered too young to make that decision because I as still “childbearing age”. Apparently I didn’t know myself well enough–and was too stupid–to understand the consequences of my choice
Maybe your friend is still processing this kind of societal pressure.
I don’t see this anti-child attitude among my friends who have chosen to not have kids. Many of them have kids in their lives; they just chose not to have any of their own. But I do get tired of people wanting me to be fascinated by their parenting journey. I just truly don’t care nor think it’s interesting to hear about your kids’ poopie or whatever. At my old job, the manager and her best friend/assistant manager both had young kids at the same time. It was so annoying: constant chattering about their kids during meetings, showing photos which we all had to find adorable, etc. They’d bring them around the office like anyone cared. I’d close my door when I’d hear them coming. So inappropriate to make your coworkers have to pretend to be delighted with your baby.
I do see an attitude by people who have chosen to have kids that the childfree people are somehow really miserable, jealous, etc. Which always makes me chortle, because every time I see someone with young kids, I am SO happy I never had kids. I definitely do not hate kids–that’s a myth that people who have kids have spread because they don’t understand not wanting to have kids.
They’re weirdos. Imagine venting about how much I hate disabled people. I’d get called out, and rightly so because disabled people can’t help it if their disability causes inconvenience or annoyance
Kids can’t help it if their brains haven’t matured to learn how to behave all the time. So fuck people who hate kids, and especially fuck the ones who say it so loudly and proudly. Fuck em all
As someone who is childfree, I think I can shed some insight because I almost fell into this mindset. Shes reactive likes this due to constant judgement from people in her life and online for her decision to not have kids, to the point she feeps she meeds to stand in defense of her stance and fight the “bad guys” so to speak.
Its hard not to become defensive and turn bitter when you are constantly told you are wrong or broken in some fundamental way. I still get told my mom own mother that she thinks there is something deeply wrong with me and that Im not fullfilling my purpose as woman. That my husband will eventually change his mind and leave me for it.
Regardless, what your friend is doing isnt healthy for you or for her. Have you tried to have a genuine heart to heart with her, explaining how she is hurting you. If she cant or is unwilling to see it and change her behavior towards you, you may sadly have to cut ties. Dont allow yourself to become a punching bag.
If someone gets upset about that sort of thing any time it’s mentioned they may have some insecurities about it.
Some people make it their whole personality because something else is lacking. I am child free but definitely feel empathy when people with children complain. Friend sounds insufferable.
Probably because she gets pestered nonstop by nosy Karen’s telling her she’s going to want kids.
Well, she’s fairly self centered i would think. And why wouldn’t you want to know what she thinks… constantly.
I don’t understand how so many people are okay with people being assholes to their friends because they’re insecure or are dealing with something.
I understand some of the backlash that people who choose to be child free get. I think it is getting better by the day/generation which is great. However, that doesn’t excuse shitty behavior any day, especially toward a friend.
Be a better friend/person and apologize and talk about it with your friends. The replies here are like oh but maybe she gets shit on all the time cuz she doesn’t want children, show her some empathy.
Okay..so what? Telling others to just “shut up” when they talk about children is not a normal response.