#FiredAgain #JobStruggles #SeekingAdvice
Hey y’all, I’ve found myself in a bit of a pickle and I’m hoping to get some advice from the wise minds out there. So, I’ve been fired from every job I’ve had, and I’m starting to wonder if I’m the issue or if I’ve just had a string of bad luck with employers. 🤔 Here’s a quick rundown of my experiences:
– First job: Fired for poor performance due to lack of training and unrealistic expectations.
– Second job: Let go for not being a good fit, possibly due to personal conflicts with the manager.
– Most recent job: Fired for being slow and lacking initiative, despite my efforts to learn and take on more tasks.
One consistent feedback has been about my facial expressions and personality. I’m not the most bubbly person and I have a resting “not-so-happy” face. I don’t want to change who I am just to keep a job, but it seems like management has a different opinion. 🙃
So here’s the burning question: Am I the problem or have I just landed in workplaces that aren’t the right fit for me? I’m looking for honest advice on how to break this cycle and thrive in a job. I’ve been reflecting on possible solutions, and here’s what I’ve come up with:
– Seek feedback proactively from supervisors and colleagues on areas of improvement.
– Look for companies that value diverse personalities and work styles.
– Consider seeking out roles that align more closely with your strengths and interests.
What are your thoughts on my situation? Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated! Let’s chat and see if I can turn this trend around. 🌟 #CareerAdvice #JobSearch #WorkplaceSuccess
I am going to say that this is a combination of it being you and the bar managers/owners not spending the time to help you understand the environment.
1. You need to become more pleasant, outgoing, bubbly, flirty or whatever every bartender is doing. Don’t ask me, I don’t drink, but I can tell you that even waitstaff need to be upbeat and pleasant to be around.
2. Learn as much as you can about bartending.
3. Show cleavage if you’ve got it, no matter how much you’ve got.
Unless you are working at a dive bar, both the bar and the patrons want the staff to work the room. As someone who is perpetually dead inside, let me tell you this. Fake it. It’s exhausting, but people will actually enjoy being around you which means, for you, tips and a job.
Let me put it differently.
Everyone you interact with is someone you know, even if you don’t know them or remember them. Your job, beyond serving them orders, is to make them feel welcome. You treat the bar as if you own it and that you want these drunk lunatics to keep coming back. Everyone’s your friend. Your bosses, you see them, you go, hey, how’s it going. You make teeny tiny small talk with them and are back to work. You don’t need to hang out with them, but your entire existence as a person in a service industry is pleasantness, efficiency and schmoozing. And if you can remember any details about regulars, it kills.
I’m not super chatty by nature either, but I’ve come up with ways to make it work. Also regardless of how I feel, try putting a smile on my face which does make you seem so friendlier. Even if I was not feeling good I try to do so. As to being friendly, try asking customers how they are. Tell returning ones that’s it’s nice to see you again. Don’t know how to interact with co-workers just start off by talking about the weather or something local such as sports. The one topic I stay away from is politics.
restaurant jobs are always like this. i used to struggle too because they treat it like high school. get a warehouse job or some shit that doesn’t care about social skills.
You’re what’s technically referred to in the employment business as a LOSER. Such people tend to perform poorly regardless of the position, and often blame others for their difficulties.
A lot of companies say the individual is a “bad fit” and it usually isn’t that individuals fault (rare cases it is).
Not sure what you mean by places that are a “bad fit”. This depends on you – what you are your career goals? And it depends on the company – who you work for and are you being treated fairly. It depends on some factors to determine a “bad fit”.
You can always say you were “laid off” or “role has been eliminated”.
All you can do is learn from each experience and push forward. People say this all the time: “this is only a minor set back which leads to new opportunities. Good luck
you say your coworkers don’t have issues with you, but in a lot of work places if coworkers do have an issue with you most will go to their managers before they go to you ESPECIALLY if you’re not friendly with them because they’re not comfortable enough around you to give you honest feedback. and people gossip. if your coworkers found you unfriendly then they might not have talked to you about it, but they sure as hell have talked about it with one another and management will have inevitably heard.
imo the single most important skill one can have at work is good inter-personal skills and being able to connect with coworkers. people spend so much time at work that they want to like being around the people they’re working with. now if you’re exceptional at your job then people will deal with working with someone they don’t like, but it sounds like you may have struggled with the actual work and even if you’re better now, a bad rep takes a while to get over. if someone has to get fired, people are gonna want to keep the person who’s fun and who they enjoy hanging out with at work even if they’re not as good at the job as someone who isn’t friendly (esp bc they feel like they can tell the friendly person to get their shit together and do their job, while the unfriendly person isn’t approachable to give feedback to).
my recommendation for you would be work on being friendlier (great tip: just ask people questions about their lives and be genuinely excited about what they have to tell you. they have a weird obscure hobby? GREAT! you’d LOVE to learn more about it. a coworker comes to work with a new necklace? ask them about it! maybe a friend gave it to them for their birthday, which now gives you a chance to ask either about their birthday, or about their friend). this is a skill that comes naturally the more you practice it.
alternatively get a job where you aren’t expected to interact with many people, or even anyone, for most the day. but be aware that a lot of these jobs still require comradary with coworkers (think farmers working alone on a farm, they still deal with contractors and neighbouring farms multiple times a week, not to mention the farm owners), so you’ll have to look into jobs that truly don’t require connection with any other humans.
good luck.
If these are all restaurants you’ve been working for, I wouldn’t take it as any kind of sign of your employability. Those places are known to be very socially difficult. I think that is a major factor in why so many of them have 100 percent turnover. It’s a known problem to most of them and they don’t care to fix it.
What you can do is focus on getting skills to find a better paying job in a different industry that will pay you more, give you pride in your work and where you can deal with a better caliber of coworkers and managers. The restaurant industry will not do any of those things for you. Don’t settle.
You need to fucking work from home. Damn the fit bullshit. Fuck those idiots that make it a point to you if everything else is green. I get so fucking sick of the fake bullshit from workplaces dude. These adults need to grow the hell up and quit worrying about some dumbass facial expressions bullshit. Social media running everyone and everything these days. One day I hope to be done with it all.
Yes you are the problem, you have to change your demeanor.
Restaurants and bars are difficult because you have to be especially on your game. It’s customer facing and your job can be replaced immediately because of the relatively low experience and education requirement. That means something like personality and your relationship with management has a premium over competence or speed, which can expected.
Best advice I have is to up your skill set so you aren’t fighting for your position everyday. That takes time though. I’d say maybe find a place where you can work in the kitchen, where speed is valued more. Also, maybe something like a factory job could work for the same reasons.
Definitely work to up your skills though. The stress of fighting for your job when you are not making that much will burn you out long term.
Bad employers. Trust me it is not you. They love to throw shade on the person being fired to justify it.