#DatingDilemma: Why the Outrage Over Having Preferences About Someone’s Sexual History? 🤔
Have you ever noticed how people tend to get heated when someone mentions they’re not interested in dating someone who has been with, let’s say, more than 30 or 40 people? It’s like they’ve touched a nerve or something! But why is that? Do we really have to be attracted to everyone we meet? 🤷♂️
Here’s the deal: it’s totally okay to have preferences when it comes to dating. Just like you might prefer someone who is more introverted because you’re shy yourself, it’s natural to be turned off by certain aspects of someone’s past. And hey, that’s perfectly fine!
But why is there such a backlash when it comes to discussing someone’s sexual history? Shouldn’t we be allowed to voice what we’re comfortable with in a relationship? Let’s dive into this together! ✨
So, what do you think? Is it wrong to have certain preferences when it comes to dating, or are we just worrying too much about what others think? Cast your vote below and let’s get this conversation going! 👇
🗳️ Poll: Do you think it’s okay to have preferences about your partner’s sexual history?
1. Yes, everyone has the right to be with someone who aligns with their values.
2. No, it’s shallow to judge someone based on their past.
Drop your opinion in the comments and let’s unravel this dating dilemma together! 💬 #DatingDilemma #RelationshipGoals #ConflictingOpinions
Tbh I’ve seen more people get pissed at others for having body counts of those ranges, more than I’ve seen this.
They get pissed? I feel like most people agree
Its your preference, and a valid one at that. I wouldn’t say that it makes you a better match with shy people, plenty of out going people don’t sleep with everyone they meet lol
From my pov it’s not “I don’t want to date them because they slept with 30 people” but “why have they slept with 30, and if those were one night stands or actual relationships” then you can think more “why did the relationships not last? Why do they have so much one night stands? Etc” I also understand that someone might just not feel comfortable with that, but there’s much more to say/learn than “she’s a whore/he’s a playboy” most of the time
i wouldn’t want someone w more than 2 bodies
I don’t know how to respond, maybe I shouldn’t have
Because it’s linked to puritan, misogynistic, harmful beliefs.
Idk but people with body counts like that have ruined my life and I didn’t even like date them 😭😭
I agree wholeheartly
Literally nobody does
I get both sides. I get why you’d be wary because 30 people is a lot- I mean for me it wouldn’t be a problem. I see it more as a benefit because I have a high libido and I haven’t had *it* yet 🤷
As long as most of these were just kinda one-night stand things and not *actual* 30 relationships tho
I feel like most people agree. Everyone’s entitled to have their own preferences
I don’t know
I think you can have your preferences, you can date or not date whoever. I think it crosses lines when you name call or berate people for their experiences. (As someone’s who’s only slept with one person, and I’m only saying this so people know I don’t necessarily have a bias.) obviously, you can have whatever opinions or preferences you want, but it’s entirely unnecessary to look down on people for any reason, even having a ‘high body count’.
As long as its gender equal, its okay
I don’t really think it’s an issue as long as you hold yourself to the same standards you would expect from a partner, you cannot expect something from someone that you yourself didn’t withhold yourself to. Also, as long as you’re not sexist about it, i.e., you mentioned the creepy alpha males, they tend to think men can sleep around and its okay but if a woman does it she’s a whore.
You’re allowed to have preferences, that’s completely okay! As long as you’re not hateful or judgemental towards someone for not fitting into those preferences. With this situation you can’t always know (unless you can actually take the time with that person to figure out) *why* that person slept around so much. Is it because they just wanted to? That’s their choice, just as it’s your choice not to want to be in a relationship with them. Both are valid. Is it because they had 40 failed relationships? Okay, probably not the greatest choice for a partner at that point anyway. Another thing is I think some people forget that people with abuse situations (or trauma from past situations) and with sexual trauma can get sexually promiscuous(not all victims of abuse, but it is something that happens and they shouldn’t be judged for it). You can’t really always know a person’s situation, which is why it’s best not to judge someone without knowing everything. And even if you *do* know everything, when it comes to things that aren’t harmful to other people, and you’re not having them as a partner anyway, at that point what someone does literally doesn’t matter so there’s no point in judging anyway.
But from what you said in the post, wanting someone who’s like you in that area, is a valid preference, so I think you’re fine.
RIGHT. like why in the heck would I want someone who slept like 100 people ? 💀. I actually prefer someone who is a virgin like me, bye .
Most people only get mad when it’s people saying women have to have low body counts but men don’t need to
Bro people get mad when I say I would prefer to date a girl who’s never been in a relationship i only say that because I’ve never been in relationship I think it’s natural to want to date your experience level but it wouldn’t be like a turn of I would date a girl who’s been in a relationship I just would prefer if she hasn’t
Yeah like come on, you are probably going to be their 31, 41 in the list.
because what does it effect?
their genitals? matters to you
their looks? matters to you
their personality? matters to you
heck, their pronouns? matters to you, if you care
how many people they’ve slept with? what will it effect? seriously, what does it effect. holding someone’s past against them is unreasonable… it’s not like they’re a car