#WorkPlaceDrama #JobExperience #MentalHealthMatters
Hey everyone, I wanted to share a recent experience that got me thinking a lot about how we invest emotionally in our jobs. It’s kind of wild, right? I mean, we spend so much time pouring ourselves into our work, but are we really valued, or just seen as another number? 🤔
So here’s the scoop: I put in my two weeks at work, and on my last day, I walked in— a tad late, I admit— only to be told to “vacate the premises immediately.” Talk about a dramatic exit! 😳 I miraculously managed to convince my boss to let me stay (still not sure how that happened), but what followed was a emotional rollercoaster. She resorted to name-calling and even took jabs at my appearance—what a way to say goodbye! 😤
To add insult to injury, when I asked about my pay, she claimed I might owe the company money! Seriously? After everything I’ve contributed, I just wanted to be treated like a human being, not a cog in the machine. It left me feeling seething and resentful about over-investing my emotions into a job that clearly didn’t value me.
Here are some key takeaways I’ve been reflecting on:
- Boundaries are essential: Don’t let your job consume you emotionally.
- Your worth isn’t defined by your job: Remember, you are more than just a number!
- Trust your instincts: If a workplace doesn’t treat you right, it might be time to reconsider your options.
I’m curious to know—have any of you had similar experiences? How did you cope, and what lessons did you learn about emotional investment in your workplace? Share your stories or any tips you might have! 💬✨
You are constantly late, likely call in sick often and have an unstable personal life that very likely flows into your professional life. You are not the model employee you thought you were and it sounds like she was being nice up to your last day to get rid of you. If you had have shown up late on your last day, I would have told you to leave. You also have likely used and abused any empathy your management had for your issues some time ago. It is ok to ask for help and be honest if you are struggling and need some time to help through it, it’s another to abuse the privilege your employers have graced you with their support.
In saying that, the lesson apart from getting your act together, is to never air your grievances when you leave a workplace. It will be used against you.
How are you going to be on an emergency schedule if you’re always late?
You learned a good lesson. Bosses are not your friend. Also they do not care about why you’re late to work all of the time. When I was younger I had the same issue of constant tardiness…it comes from a lack of accountability and emotional regulation.
Never send these giant texts for anything work related. No one takes you seriously when you write stuff like this. Also your boss never confirmed the 2:30 time, so you can’t be that upset with her.
This is kinda unhinged
Constantly late employee that’s rude gets fired and doesn’t like it.
Grow up
Speak to management like they’re robots because that’s how they are when they have to deal with an employee
I haven’t read past “smile more” and I would bet my house that OP is a woman.
Edit after reading: Wow
If you put in your notice, in most jurisdictions it is open to the employer to opt to simply pay you for garden leave in lieu of service – you get sent home, your tasks are removed, your logins disappear and your last contact is your last payslip.
I must say that in this scenario, that’s what I would have opted to do. You get paid and you can take your next employment decisions. Someone who gives their notice has decided they no longer want to work for you – so accept that, thank them for their service and move on.
It seems you wanted much more – but you’re tardy and perhaps not able to give efficient and regular service, so it’s in everyone’s interest for you to just go.
Yikes. I think you might actually be the problem here.
Reading all your texts made me so glad to not be a manager anymore. I get the feeling that you’re young. Never do this again. Never give this amount of personal detail to an employer, and never get emotionally invested like this ever again. For your own good. The firing should have been enough of a sign that they didn’t want you to return at a later time, and wouldn’t be taking up your offer to cover emergency shifts (how would you even manage that with your chronic tardiness?) Yikes. That poor manager seems tired, overworked, and harrowed by the experience of reading your multiple paragraphs not once but twice.
I’m really confused about why I keep seeing posts by people who can’t manage to get to work on time who are extremely offended that people actually expected them to get to work on time and have now become this victim.
Like bro if you don’t want your supervisor hassling you for being late, just don’t be late. You totally have control over that. They’re not wrong for telling you you were late. I’m sorry they hurt your little feelings, but they weren’t lying
I’ve never worked at a job that paid out unused sick time. So I’m not surprised to hear that they don’t
The fact that they think you might owe them money is insanity. And the way you were treated is exactly why a lot of people don’t bother giving the two week notice because this is what happens
But to have a complete meltdown about being in trouble for being late is super childish. Sure it sounds like you’re going through a lot but that’s not your bosses problem
That was a long af. Get your emotions checked out. Next time, schedule an appointment and go in person with all the proof necessary to have a professional conversation without all this in text.
Yes, we all are #’s. Welcome to the club. Learn to play the game. Otherwise, you will be played.
Good luck and drink some kool-aid.
Habitually late and bad at communicating it…
Jesus christ I opened this thread and saw the novel-length text message from OP and was STUNNED.
This is really giving off “high-school break up” and it’s a terrible look. From trama dumping through text message to YOUR BOSS, to sarcastically quipping when he responds your messages were devoid of any sort of reasonable etiquette. Your managers responses were genuinely level-headed and besides questionable policies, i left siding with your employer.
Your first message should have read “Hey so-and-so, At your earliest convenience i’d like to schedule a time to go over some concerns I have regarding my employment in person.” THATS. IT.
Honestly, I feel for you, but yeah, don’t share anything with colleagues or bosses. Those texts were long and detailed and you already knew they didnt care. Just ghost em.
Do you have work already lined up? If not and you can prove she fired you before.you could quit, I say try for unemployment
She sounds unbearable, but regardless, most of that text should have stayed internal monologue only.
Huge paragraphs of explaination via text just reek of immaturity, sorry.
seems like they just don’t like your personality. my first job i got as a teenager i was a fuckin weirdo and they fired me saying my drawer kept coming up short when i know it didn’t. fair though. i was a fuckin weirdo. they’ll make up any reason to get rid of you if you’re a weirdo, and it’s probably for the best.
Sounds to me like you are intensely stressed out right now. Moving and resigning from a job can be a real dangerous time for volatile emotions, and then you were surprised and let go on your final day? Of course you had an intense reaction like this and I can’t imagine how scattered you must be feeling.
But honestly, from one to another, let it go for your sake. Your continuous replies are not helping you here and pouring over it with strangers on the internet won’t help either. You need to care for yourself right now, in whatever way that looks like. Have a movie day, eat junk food, cry, scream, do whatever makes you feel better. Best of luck.
I m sorry to be blunt but your messages are wildly unprofessional and inappropriate. If I recieved that from an employee I would absolutely not reply, I d raise with HR and let them handle it/advise
I like to think of myself as one of the few humane bosses out there, and as someone who has been fired a couple times myself, honestly OP, your text is unhinged.
You work, they pay you, that’s it. Once that transactional arrangement (notice I don’t say relationship) is severed, it’s over. What was your goal in sending that? I understand being asked to leave hurts, but there is literally no point in emotionally dumping on your boss like that. There is nothing to gain.
Next time save it for your therapist.
‘every point is worth a dollar’ I’m pretty sure that isn’t entirely legal.
Imagine always being late to your job then QQing because they’re mad you can’t be adult enough to make it on time to your job lol. Good luck on your next job dude and next time don’t send long winded texts to your manager who doesn’t give a fuck about you. Unless this is a business owner, what do you expect them to do about how the business is run?
Honestly, these texts sound pretty unhinged. You come off like a problematic employee who’s expecting a parent or a friend and not a manager. There’s an interactive process for disability accommodation and modification that it doesn’t sound like you took advantage of.
You also allude to being frequently tardy due to personal circumstances not in your manager’s control. Showing up tardy during your notice period can end in do not rehire at many organizations. If an employee, especially a problematic one, showed up late on their last day, I would absolutely ask them to leave.
Main topic aside, your manager probably made up their mind as soon as they saw that wall of text as it comes off as immature and unprofessional. No one wants to read your emotional baggage. Keep it short, keep it professional, and just move on.
I learned this the hard way. 8 years at a start up I helped build. We hire a new COO. The guy starts making terrible decisions. I point them out. His decisions result in a 40% lay off. I’m implicitly blamed because I’m still part of the revenue org and he and his loyal minions actually promote themselves as a way to “retain talent”. I quit in disgust which is what they want. Still hurts a little and it’s been 7 years.
These texts scream “I’m young and don’t know how this works”
You’re spending an awful lot of time proving to people how great an employee you were. But a chronically late employee is not a great employee… you’d already be in their bad books for this alone. Why did you think you were considered so highly by them…?
Yeah if you’re the type to overshare at work with long text messages like this, you’re very expendable. This is your own fault.
They can get fucked
Stop being late.
Communicating over text messages for a professional is not typically a good thing. Texts are short form communications. When you or the other person goes off on a long two screen response, it already looks aggressive or psycho. There are memes about boyfriends and girlfriends that are about long texts…also, your employer is never your family. Don’t ever believe that shit.
They truly don’t give a fuck. I worked 8 years for a university I went to for 4 prior, so 12 years total involvement. I sent a long, passionate resignation letter to HR and the president, sourced and cited, about my experiences with transphobia at the university and why it’s a terrible idea to keep doing that. I got back a reply from the president that essentially said ‘Thanks for the labor. Would you like to meet with me before you leave and tell me all the things you think I should change?’ No ‘I’m sad to hear that was your experience’ or even ‘sorry you felt that way.’ As if I’m going to spend my last few days doing even MORE emotional labor 🙄
As a manager, I can tell you right now. I’m not reading any of that shit. Talk to me In person while on the clock.
Man I used to the go to guy at my job. You need something done, I got it. Spent 25 years barely missing any time, solid as a rock. Got fucked over on a promotion and it GUTTED my work ethic. I do what I need to do I don’t get heat and fuck the rest. Your job doesn’t give a fuck about you.
Honestly, it sounds like you weren’t the model employee that you envisioned yourself to be.
Jesus…. It’s a workplace, not your spouse. That looked more like a divorce. The sheer size of those texts. Is this an American thing?
We just say “sorry mate, not happy working here so imma head out, cheers for the tenure” and move on.
Way too emotional, unprofessional and you were always late so lack of respect too.
Try to do better at the next place and keep the emotions in check.
Y’all crazy out here…
You should have just texted her about the sick time issue and left it at that. No one wants to read lengthy, venting texts from someone at work.
Take this as a learning experience. Also, I am guessing you are fairly young and just learning with every day experiences. Most people would just quit with an email that expands 2 sentences, do the work for the last 2 weeks and leave. No need for anything else or anything more. Also, stop been late for work. You are correct we are all replaceable.
Blue conversation bubble is tapped in the head and needs to seek counseling.
Sick time is not paid out. It is like an insurance policy, you don’t get house insurance premiums back if your house never had a fire. I have many months of sick days accrued and hope to never use them.
Long winded texts like this don’t help anyone.
I’m not sure about your work ethics and what really happened, but you shouldn’t owe a job anything after you quit. Unless they paid for your school or something.
Lastly, don’t pour your emotions to someone like that at work. It does nothing for both of you, and if anything could make it worse for you. Hopefully, you’ll have better luck with a job that’s more understanding of your situations.
Sorry to spoil all the fun, but why can’t you wait to speak to this person? You are not the only priority. Long winded text messages are a real turn off as is the oversharing. They are also a worker and need to manage their time and priorities.
Work is not your family and your boss is not your parent. You have parentified this person and you have exhausted them. This is how your fellow workers experience burnout; from the emotional labor demanded by people like you.
Tough lesson to learn, but welcome to antiwork. We all got here with similar stories. No matter what they claim their values are, a business’ sole core “value” is to make money. You are just a number. Never go to HR, as they are there to protect the company’s interests, not yours. Your manager is only as much a friend to you as they need to be to get the most out of you for the least amount of their direct effort.
I would like to add that this business was severely understaffed, to the point that in the event I was genuinely ill, i was not able to take my sick time because there wouldn’t have been anyone to cover me.
beyond that, my manager acted like a “girl’s girl,” crossing a lot of boundaries and forming friendship-like bonds with not only me but my coworkers. it is like a switch went off when push came to shove.