#PhD #STEM #bluecollar #relationship #dating
Would a woman with a PhD date a blue-collar worker? 🤔 This might seem like an unlikely match at first, but in reality, love knows no boundaries. While there may be societal stereotypes and assumptions surrounding this type of relationship, the dynamics between individuals are far more complex and nuanced than what meets the eye.
### Breaking Down the Stigma
In today’s world, relationships are no longer bound by traditional roles or societal expectations. People from varied backgrounds are coming together and forming meaningful connections based on shared values and interests. A woman with a PhD in STEM, for example, might be drawn to a blue-collar worker for their work ethic, passion, and hands-on skills.
### Intellect vs. Common Experiences
One common concern when it comes to this pairing is the perceived difference in intellect and common experiences. However, intelligence comes in many forms, and someone working in a trade profession may have practical knowledge and problem-solving skills that complement the academic prowess of a PhD holder. Additionally, shared values, communication, and mutual respect are key aspects of any successful relationship, irrespective of educational backgrounds.
### Real-Life Examples
While it may be uncommon to see a woman with a PhD dating a blue-collar worker in mainstream media, real-life examples tell a different story. Couples like Amal and George Clooney or Meryl Streep and Don Gummer defy the stereotypes and showcase that love transcends societal norms. These relationships are based on mutual respect, support, and understanding, rather than educational qualifications or job titles.
### Challenging Stereotypes
Stereotypes and stigmas surrounding relationships between individuals with varying educational backgrounds can be detrimental. It’s essential to challenge these preconceived notions and focus on the individuals involved rather than their professions. Love is about connection, compatibility, and shared values, not about degrees or job titles.
### Conclusion
In conclusion, the idea of a woman with a PhD dating a blue-collar worker is not as far-fetched as it may seem. Love and relationships are based on much more than educational qualifications or professional titles. It’s about compatibility, understanding, and mutual respect. So, if a woman with a PhD finds love and happiness with a blue-collar worker, who are we to judge? After all, love sees no boundaries. 💕
By addressing the question of whether a woman with a PhD would date a blue-collar worker with empathy, understanding, and real-life examples, we can challenge stereotypes and promote inclusivity and acceptance in relationships. So, the next time you come across a couple breaking the mold, remember that love knows no boundaries.
Have a Ph.D. Been with my restaurant manager husband for 21 years. He’s smarter than many of my colleagues, and we are very happy.
Based on current Empirical statistics. Most people marry within their own field because they tend to get in relationship either during
a. University,
b. Work,
c. people living close to them. ex: city people date city people, region people date region people.
In the city, you will find more PHD than in the region.
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There’s also a strong correlation between PHD women and not wanting children, which can affect their relationship prospect. While this is not true of PHD men. Perhaps related to the time and effort required to finish PHD leading to PHD holder to want time for themselves and feeling free at a older age than blue collars.
More guy want stay at home wife than wife want stay at home husband on average. And it is easier to convince your 40k partner to leave their job while yours is 110k than to convince your 105k partner to leave their job when yours is 110k. So it would not be that farfetch to see this as one of the many reason why it is more common.
I think anyone can date or marry anyone, but due to circonstances, certain scenarios are less probable.
The real question is would a man in a blue collar job date a woman with a phd. Recently got told on a date I shouldn’t be doing more study because “most men won’t be okay with that”
Thanks to feminism. Today more and more women realize they don’t need to be economically dependent on their partners and are fine being the bread winner. There’s always exceptions but I think it’s becoming more common that a couple isn’t any longer tied up in stereotype gender roles or old norms. The dynamic of relationships has gone from practicality to individuality.
Let me say this: any degree means someone learned a thing. A graduate degree means that someone knows a LOT about ONE topic. Some of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met didn’t finish high school. Some of the most ridiculous people I’ve ever met completed a graduate degree.
My bf has a blue collar job and honestly he’s the most kind and caring partner I’ve ever had
He’s not bothered by our difference in education and neither am I
ETA: yep forgot to mention.. finishing my masters and applying for a PhD.
Everyone is different and has different relationship expectations, standards, and practices. There’s no straight answer for this qquestion. Some would, some wouldn’t
Blue collar worker here, some of the smartest people around are blue too. I know a couple guys doing service work married to MDs so.
Why would it be a problem? If yall are vibing and have good chemistry then it’s all good.
My PhD (Organizational Psychology) mother was happily married to my no-college DuPont Pipe Fitter stepfather for 25+ years until he passed away five years ago. While I know there was an occasional awareness of their different backgrounds, he was intellectually curious, honest, and a smart man. He didn’t read as a hobby (she does) and they did have differences in background and certain intellectual interests, but they both had friends who filled those specific needs while still finding plenty in common together and enjoying their partnership.
By contrast, my father is an MD (anaesthesiology), reads, intellectual personality and he was a shit ball to her. Seeing his path, he seems to prefer his partners to be solidly “beneath” him, even if he doesn’t say it out loud.
I could see it. I work in a hospital and interact with all types. From surgeons to nurses to MAs etc
We’re all people lol
I think it is a bit insulting for you to assume blue collar workers are less intelligent.
My wife is a physician and I’m a stay at home dad with an enlisted military background and only an associates degree. I’m smart though
People with advanced degrees are educated in their field, not everything. I certainly don’t hold a candle to my wife when it comes to medical knowledge.
One of my good friends is a medical doctor married to a fireman. There is much more you can have in common than just education.
I have a masters, my husband never went to college. I feel like our knowledge bases complement each other well, and I’d say we still have a lot in common. We have similar senses of humor, and have similar values.
I have a masters, but if the sink breaks, I’m not the one who is going to fix it.
Just because I make more than him doesn’t mean he doesn’t contribute equally to our marriage.
Totally possible. I have seen it many times. Lots of blue collar people are very intelligent, just not degreed and they have great communication. I have also seen women marry men that didn’t have a steady job, didn’t do housework and were alcoholics. Some people are just attracted to others because they are.
I (a highly education woman) recently dated a blue collar worker for several months (worked in drywall). It didn’t work for many reasons, but his job or intellect weren’t the determining factors.
I’m a woman w a PhD who has been married to a blue collar dude for 25 years.
My wife has 3 masters and working on her PHD. I’m a college drop out and as blue collar as it gets. She makes 2.5 times what I make. So she isn’t with me for the money that’s for sure. But everyone has weaknesses and our goal anyways is to cover for those weaknesses. The only issue I could see people having is perception. From the outside it would seem like people are judging her decision. From the inside the guy might feel insecure about his capabilities. Being a good man isn’t connected to wealth.
A man without a high academic degree can still be just as successful, if not more so, than a woman with a PhD. I’ve known guys who’ve worked in the trades (plumbing, welding) who made close to or over a 100 grand a year. I have a friend with a PhD in clinical psychology who, so far, has maxed out at 80 grand a year.
Some of those higher degrees don’t mean shit in the real world. I’d rather be with a woman who can change the oil than one who parrots everything she learned out of college textbooks.
I’m a woman getting my PhD and I constantly say I’d prefer a blue collar worker to another academic (I’m single). I’m also not the average PhD student (grew up poor and for sure more than a little hood, and proud), so that likely plays a role. I would also say I know people on my block that didn’t go to college that are infinitely smarter than some people in my cohort — and half as egotistical.
I have 2 degrees in biology and my hubby just has a high school diploma. He’s wicked smart, good with his hands, and is a fantastic partner who loves when I ramble about the latest research that has me excited. We share hobbies and a pup and a great life together, he doesn’t need to have gone to college to be a fantastic partner.
Yes, my wife has higher education than I do but I make about 4-5x what she does, education does not equal more money always. I now have dual stem bachelors with a 4.0gpa but still in a trade type job so I do still have intelligence and some common experiences. There are people I work with smarter than me that have just a high school education, there are lots of ways to learn. Schooling just teaches you how to learn in a classroom setting, that doesn’t necessarily mean being smart, just that you do well in that type of system
People are just people. Don’t overthink it.
Common experiences pre-PhD are absolutely relevant, everyone has to grow up, learn about themselves, and face some sort of hardship.
I can think of at least 4 women from my PhD program that married men in “blue collar” fields or, at the very least, a field completely unrelated to STEM. (And they’re all pretty happy!)
All of this will very much depend on the person. Some people don’t want to date within their field, some do. Some people have particular life circumstances that they want to share with a partner, some don’t feel like that’s so important.
*(If this post came about because you’re crushing on a PhD, good luck!*)
I think it’s possible. My partner was a child prodigy who went to uni as a teen and became a politician in her early 30s, while working as a computer engineer. She’s considered a polymath. I have only a background in retail and dropped out of uni. Even so, we bonded over a mutual interest and we’re happy together. So don’t let someone’s qualifications discourage you from shooting your shot.
Women are not a monolith. Some would some wouldn’t.
Depends on the individuals involved. IMO, intellectual compatibility is important in a relationship, but educational level isn’t necessarily a reliable indicator of that.
I have significantly more education than my partner. He is arguably more intelligent than I am, just had fewer opportunities. We are a great match intellectually despite not having matching degrees.
There may not be an intellect gap, some of the smartest sounding people are those who are charasmatic and confident.
But also on top of that, there are many different types of intelligence and just becuase she has a PhD does not mean she is smart in all of these ares on intelligence.
Best way to at least seem more intelligence is to become more cultured
Yes, they would know better than to date another PhD.
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There isn’t necessarily an intellect gap.
Also I married a guy in tech and he isn’t smart in all areas.
depends on the women, some might have a preference