#DatingTips #SocialAnxiety #RelationshipGoals
When it comes to finding love while dealing with social anxiety, it’s essential to approach the situation with compassion and patience. π Many people struggle with building relationships while managing social anxiety, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can still find a meaningful connection. π Here are some tips to help you navigate the dating world and find a boyfriend despite your social anxiety.
Seek Professional Help
If your social anxiety is severely impacting your daily life and relationships, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with coping mechanisms and strategies to manage your anxiety in social settings, which can ultimately help you feel more comfortable interacting with potential partners.
Start Small
Dating can be overwhelming, especially for someone with social anxiety. Start small by participating in social activities that align with your interests or comfort level. This could be joining a hobby group, taking a class, or attending social gatherings with close friends. Gradually pushing your boundaries can help you build confidence and ease into dating.
Communicate Your Needs
When you start dating someone, it’s important to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly. Let your partner know that you have social anxiety and may need additional support or understanding in certain situations. Open and honest communication can strengthen your relationship and help your partner understand your perspective better.
Practice Self-Care
Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being is crucial, especially when navigating the challenges of dating with social anxiety. Make time for self-care activities that help you relax and unwind, such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature. Prioritizing self-care can boost your confidence and resilience in social situations.
Stay Positive
Dating with social anxiety can be challenging, but it’s important to stay positive and hopeful. Remember that everyone has their insecurities and struggles, and finding a supportive and understanding partner is possible. Focus on your strengths and unique qualities, and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there despite your anxiety.
In conclusion, finding a boyfriend while dealing with social anxiety may require extra effort and patience, but it’s entirely possible with the right mindset and support. By seeking professional help, starting small, communicating effectively, practicing self-care, and staying positive, you can overcome your anxiety and build a meaningful relationship. Remember that you deserve love and understanding, regardless of your social anxiety. π
Online dating. Gives you all time in the world to be composed and put your best foot forward. If someone already really likes you when they first meet you in person, social awkwardness won’t be a big deal.
Dating apps. Especially ones that arenβt tinder like hinge or bumble
Iβd say online honestly that way you can be straightforward about it and not come off as awkward. Plus itβll give you the chance to get to know them a little bit from the comfort of your own home.
Imo, get a therapist and learn how to better manage your anxieties before taking the plunge. That way if you do find someone special, you donβt spoil it by being to anxious to even be around them!
So, my social anxiety is extremely mild now and doesnβt prevent me from dating but it was really bad a couple years ago and definitely impacted my dating life. However, I still had some good experiences back then. Honestly, force yourself into situations where you meet people. Itβs going to be scary, itβs going to be awkward and weird at first but itβs worth it. You can join clubs or volunteer groups so you meet people with similar interests which makes interaction a little bit easier. People are also more keen on approaching people they think they have more in common with. Another thing is going out more in general tends to warm you up to interaction even if youβre not going specifically for that purpose. For example, going to the library or a coffee shop more regularly, going for walks. Sometimes you face unintentional interaction that prepares you for meeting new people. You also get to observe people which can make them less intimidating to you. And you may even meet people you didnβt expect during these times. Furthermore, take good care of yourself and present yourself well. Dress well, have good hygiene, do a little something to make yourself look a little more eye catching. Someone is more likely to approach you or be receptive to you approaching them. If someone who noticeably had social anxiety walked up to me, Iβd be understanding because Iβve been there. Iβve also been attracted to someone who had it bad because they were so sweet and I was willing to put effort to allow them to open up to me. However, there are many people who will not be as understanding and you have to be accepting of that too. Good luck in the dating world
I think online dating. I (38M) made my Tinder profile last year after a failed marriage to an abusive alcoholic wrench. I’ve got social anxiety and decided to be very open about it on my profile, as to increase the chances of finding someone who could appreciate me as I am. So I mentioned things such as being shy, awkward, etc. on my profile. Unexpectedly, I got many matches from women and I’ve been dating my gf for a few months now.
Be a girl
Probably at his house or hidden away in a corner?
Ohhhh you mean you have social anxiety… π
OK in all seriousness, online dating for sure!
My guess would be to do everything by baby steps, small little victories for yourself, but if you start dating someone or go one dates, make it crystal clear to them that you have this, so that they are aware of it themselves
People with social anxiety can come off as rude or aloof through no fault of their own and that can be tough for people to get past.
The answer is online dating with a texting phase, then move to phone calls, then on to video chat before meeting in person.
Yeah, it might be a little tougher to find someone with the patience to do that but the end result will be worth it.
im 22, couldnt tell u. never so much as kissed someone, so im wondering what the hell im gonna do whenever i do want to look for someone
Meeting people at work is a great strategy for someone with SA.
not me reading the title thinking you specifically wanted a boyfriend WITH social anxiety.
Ok serious answer, you can try online dating and chatting with guys first if they age v the same energy as you. I do recommend talking to a therapist to work through your SA as well. Best of luck!
I read that wrong I was thinking “Why does this person want a boyfriend with social anxiety specifically?” Lol time for me to go to sleep!
Dating app but you actually pick them instead of accepting requests to you.
So then when they accept, they will message you right away. Instead of you accepting them then feeling like you have to message first.
And at least by picking them first, you can see if they may like a girl like you!
I don’t know, I’m older than that, and I’ve accepted that I’ll probably die single. I did join an app, Boo, hoping I might find local people to at least chat with, maybe eventually meet up or something, but that didn’t wind up happening. Didn’t help that most people who matched with me were on the other side of the world and a lot of them didn’t seem to speak English.
Heh. I thought you wanted advice on finding someone with social anxiety issues. Every guy i know talks and gives a chance to anyone who approaches them. So that is an easy start. Beyond that, who knows how it develops. I am married and still donβt know how it happened to be honest
Dating apps. You’ll get flooded with messages (assuming you’re a woman) and that’ll take some work to sift through, but it should be easy to get responses. You’ll be tempted to be a wuss and play message tag for weeks before even considering a date. Don’t do that. Keep it to a couple of days at most, and then either commit to a casual date or cut them loose. You don’t need to “be sure about them” before meeting. Meeting in person is where you get to know people, not over text.
If you want this, you’re going to need to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone. Take risks. It’s not going to happen if you don’t take action.
I have the opposite of social anxiety, and I met my husband who has medium social anxiety via online dating, and I also met my good friend who has pretty bad social anxiety on Bumble BFF.Β Β
They both would be totally horrified to just randomly approach someone in public, so I think online/apps was the only way for them.Β My husband in particular is happier communicating in text form because it enables him to take a little more time composing his thoughts.Β
To answer your other question, when people who have social anxiety approach me, I do not notice it.Β But I also have been told that I am so extremely, obviously comfortable during the interaction that the normally anxious person I am speaking to feels way less anxious than usual while talking to me.Β Like, the part of their brain that is usually worried about what is going on with the other person is at rest with me.Β So maybe it is less that I don’t notice the anxiety and more that it isn’t present?Β Β
Either way, it’s not a problem.
A lot more people have social anxiety than you realise. Even a dude who might work in a gaming store and seem outgoing could have social anxiety. Finding someone with social anxiety most of the time is gonna be difficult though because they either tend to try and hide it, or they hide altogether. So good luck with that. I think you should focus on dealing with your social anxiety head on first of all.
Idk but please try not to disclose your anxiety right off the bat. Itβs so weird and comes off like thereβs no self control or something. Or, at the very least, get it under control and then start dating people. Itβs terrifying when you tell someone βokay Iβd like to move on.β And theyβre still calling and texting and showing up in places screaming, βI HAVE ANXIETY.β
I (39M) have pretty intense social anxiety. I did meet a woman once who was in the same boat and we almost sort of hit it off but we didn’t really share enough common interests. I haven’t had a steady partner in over ten years.
There are many factors when choosing a mate.
Youβre nervous, thatβs what every one else would see it as and call it. And thatβs ok. Means youβre human (which is a perk lol).
Unless your social anxiety makes you do some feral or truly interesting things. Then please do record it lol Iβm kidding
[This movie may help](https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0205000/) or [this movie](https://m.imdb.com/title/tt1333125/). Great for laughs, involving ridiculous date scenarios. It will make you feel better lol
Community college worked for my wife and I.
Non traditional student, I went back to school at 27. Too much anxiety to try a big college, so I went with a small cc.
Met another 27 year old. We were awkward, ended up being awkward together.
13 years later, still being awkward together. It’s great.
For starters I’d say don’t use SA to refer to social anxiety, since it is commonly used to refer to sexual assault.
Else is say the same as for everyone else. What are your interests? Go join a social gathering focused on said interests.
XD I thought you meant you want a boyfriend who has social anxiety. Was almost like “pick me!” π€£