#DatingTips #RelationshipAdvice #GetAGirlfriend #BoostConfidence
Hey there! I totally get where you’re coming from – it can be tough navigating the dating world, especially when you feel like you don’t fit the typical “handsome” stereotype. But fear not, because there are plenty of ways for “ugly guys” to find love and attract girlfriends. Let’s dive into some actionable tips and strategies to help you on your journey to finding love 💕.
Boosting Self-Confidence
– Embrace your unique qualities: Remember, beauty is subjective, so focus on what makes you special and own it. Confidence is attractive!
– Dress to impress: Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself and showcase your personality.
– Take care of yourself: Practice good hygiene, exercise regularly, and eat healthily. Feeling good on the inside will reflect on the outside.
Improving Social Skills
– Be a good listener: Show genuine interest in others and ask questions to get to know them better.
– Practice good communication: Make eye contact, smile, and engage in meaningful conversations.
– Join social activities: Attend events, clubs, or classes that interest you to meet like-minded people.
Finding Common Ground
– Share your passions: Talk about your hobbies, interests, and goals to connect with potential partners.
– Be open-minded: Be willing to try new things and explore different perspectives to bond with others.
Remember, it’s not just about looks – personality, confidence, and compatibility play a huge role in attracting a girlfriend. Stay true to yourself, keep an open mind, and put yourself out there. Who knows, you might just find someone who loves you for who you are. Good luck! 🔥💖
Invest in yourself – not just at the gym, but in your mind and soul as well. Future you will thank you for any time spent honing a skill, acquiring knowledge, or embracing a hobby that lights up your spirit. It’s these things that deepen character, making you magnetic in ways beyond the superficial. A fascinating man is an attractive man – whether he’s deciphering ancient texts, mastering chess, or cultivating the world’s best chili recipe, he stands out. Remember, charm can echo through the ages, but a six-pack is fleeting. Be the guy who can engage in a riveting conversation about the stars, who volunteers for a cause close to his heart, who has a quirky knack for something unexpected. You’ll be a breath of fresh air, and you’ll find that some people crave substance over style and for the right people, your enthusiasm will be the truest form of beauty.
Jesus Christ I cry for the young today some of the advice here is complete shit and likely to send him in the red pulled incel path of hating women. Find your tribe. Dont look at the women your friends get, sounds like they are just getting shallow hook ups anyway. Look for women that share some of your passions and interests, that you are comfortable around and can laugh with. It’ll happen naturally.
bro, I’m uglier than the underside of a truck, and I was even worse over a decade ago, and I met the person who’s now my wife 14 years ago. She’s totally out of my league. It was all about playing my cards right. I made her laugh, I was confident when I invited her out and I didn’t play any games, I was pretty straightforward regarding why I was asking her out.
And, here’s where I know we actually clicked, I was confident during our date. I was nervous but didn’t show it, but I wasn’t an ass. I treated her the way she deserved, we had fun, and I was texting her the next day telling her how great of a time I had so we needed to do something fun again. 14 years later, we’re still together and going strong AF. Been married for like 8 years now. We were 18 when we started dating.
summing up:
Be confident. If you’re ugly you can still be funny, interesting, attentive, assertive.
Don’t play games. Express what you feel and what you want, don’t waste time playing games.
Do things right. Treat them right, and make sure they treat you right as well.
Be fun. Your dates need to be frequent and varied.
If you’re self-esteem is low, ask your friends what they like about you, and work on the things they highlight, make them even better. Dress well, get clothes that look good and make you feel good.
Good luck!
How does any guy get a girlfriend these days lol? I’m ripped, and my face is probably slightly above average looking. I’m well taken care of. I groom well, have a skincare routine and very good hygiene, and put time into my fashion. I’m 23, I live alone in a nice apartment and have a well paying job as a software developer. I put myself out there on a weekly basis in all sorts of places but no girl has ever shown any interest in me whatsoever and online dating is a complete joke even for moderately attractive guys.
I’m not lowering my standards because I don’t have any fucking standards. I’m not shallow enough to have a list of boxes for someone to check before I’ll even look at them. I’m just attracted to girls I’m attracted to. I have my shit together and bring all of this to the table at this age and I don’t even want anything specific in return. I’m just not settling for some ugly girl that can’t even hit the gym and take care of herself. If that really is “my league”, I’d rather stay single. I’m objectively doing better than what I estimate is 95% of people my age so I’ll just enjoy the bright side of life on my own and with my friends then.
What even is lowering your standards? Am I just supposed to get into a relationship with someone I don’t have any feelings for? Do I just have to accept that being a man means getting the bottom of the barrel even if I’m pretty fucking close to the top myself? There’s literally nothing I have left to improve on. I already maxed out everything I have control over.
Make her laugh + make her feel safe that’s 95% of it
Stop generalizing. Be there at the right place and time. Seen plenty unattractive women and men with an attractive partner, simply because they were available at the right time.
Hit the gym. Get a god bod. You’ll be more confident. Look great in clothes (and without on beach holidays etc) and feel better about yourself. Will also be ahead of everyone that doesn’t work out. Honestly when I started hitting the gym people just treat you differently and you see yourself differently. Which all goes towards being different
Quite simple, they had the guts to be direct and ask. Most people don’t even shoot their shots.
Confidence, personality, good fashion sense and getting in the gym. Also staying in your bag. Whatever that may be. Women start to worry about you, when you’re not worried about them.
I’ve known some very beautiful women that will date a ‘nerd’ type because he has a good personality. Get hobbies, read, get into art or music. Do something with yourself to make you interesting, not just for your potential mate, but for yourself. You’ll be way better off for it.
No girl wants a guy that just plays video games with nothing else to offer for long.
Build your confidence, be funny and offer something different. When we’re 80, none of us will be beautiful, but maybe the art of cooking a great meal has no expiration date. 😀
Speaking of celebrities, is Jack Black handsome? No, but he’s funny. Benedict Cumberbatch looks like a lizard and still has hundreds of female fans because he’s elegant. And have you ever seen Willem Dafoe?
By having confidence, no joke.
I’ve known some truly hideous dudes who had absolutely gorgeous girlfriends and wives. Your general attitude is probably your problem. Stop talking yourself down by calling yourself ugly, and just go out and do interesting things, meet interesting people, be funny, things like that
Be kind and funny 🥰 any woman I know prefers that over looks!
Also, self-esteem 💪
I’m sure you’re not as bad looking as you described and there’s always going to be someone that thinks you’re cute!
Be kind, friendly, funny and have interesting things to talk about.
Be funny and outgoing.
Get in better shape if you can classify yourself as obese or worse.
Actually do something with your hair. Hair matters a lot. If it doesn’t suit you or looks bad, thats an immediate minus 5 points for some people.
Take care of yourself bro.
Try to smell good.
Be more approachable, whatever that means for you specifically. Especially if you’re the type to shy away from starting convos. That means you make others feel comfortable around you, enough to talk with you.
On a side note, glad to see a lot of people providing help/advices. That’s a lot of great support 🙂
Have some respect for yourself and don’t call yourself -40/10
You look through male lens where beauty has value.
Beauty has almost zero value for women.
So ugly guys get girlfriends the same way good looking guys do. By asking girls out. Preferably in real life
“There’s a butt for every seat” — used car salesman in regard to a beat up, ugly ol’ ruster.
Make small improvements and keep getting yourself out there. You’ll be great once you realize you are great.
1. try to improve what you can (gym, grooming, fashion choices, etc) and;
2. try and look for people who are similar in looks to you. it’s not impossible to date drastically above and i’m not stopping you from trying, but going for 10/10 models is generally unrealistic. Why do we shame 10/10 models for wanting attractive men, when Men also want attractive women?
3. work on confidence & charisma
4. remember that women are humans. i don’t mean this in a derogatory way, but i feel like men can put women on these pedestals that make them even more anxious when talking to women (aka the whole “i’m scared of women” trope). keep in the back in your mind that we shit in the toilet and put our pants on one leg at a time just like you do! Try to let it help you ease that anxiety
you’ll be just fine, good luck!
As a woman, hand on heart- I am attracted to personality and smarts. Looks- don’t care really.
I would say I am average to above average looks- men generally find me attractive and I am thin-ish and petite. I was never wanting for a date.
I have dated morbidly obese men, skinny tiny asian guys, ugly as sin and superbly handsome guys. Rich and poor- IDGAF. Your mind is where it’s at.
So- work on your personality. Do interesting shit. Learn interesting shit. Go out and explore things going on in the world and have fun. That is attractive.
Jack Black- ugly as poo- attractive as hell.
John Goodman- hot
Mick Jagger- doesn’t get much more ugly- yet hot
Joaquin Phoenix- hot
Plenty of good looking men I would flush..
Being a decent human being and having social skills generally… It’s not that complicated 😅
Same as everyone else, by socialising and talking to people.
Idk lmk if you find out
Sounds lousy, but you’ve got a rather obvious wingman candidate. I believe the idea is that he’s supposed to advocate for your qualities, and maybe his appeal combined with yours will get you a date. That’s the theory anyway.
You would be surprised how many women prefer a kind person rather than looks. Being funny and being confident (not cocky) are better traits than being very attractive. This is a harsh one though, don’t be fat. Most women would date ugly fit men but are less inclined to date obese men.
Edit: I would like to share a personal experience.
The thing with personalities is it can be changed. When I was in 2nd year hs I was a loser. Like the definition of loser. I had friends but my friends were considered losers as well. For some odd reason I decided I don’t want to miss out on the fun things the normal kids are experiencing. So what I did was (it was really degrading) I befriended the hs basketball team and gave them free back massage so I can hang out with them. When I got a foot in in their social group, I started dressing the way they are and talking the way they do. I’m naturally funny so that helped as well. Eventually, I’m part of the normal kids group. And from there I didn’t have any problems with my social life.
What am I trying to say? My point is, if we really want to change our situations in life, we should accept that we might need to do and endure humiliating things at first to accomplish our long term goals. I don’t know if its moral or not or if it right or not, but we have to learn to play the game.
The most important thing though is not to lose yourself in the process. I’m still a nerd. I still read tons of books, play videogames, play board games, but I am also very sociable, We can enjoy the best of both worlds if we truly try.
Get good at personality
Having a good personality and just being friendly makes a huge difference honestly, as well as just basic grooming/hygiene. Also the way you present yourself. If you smile more, act more outgoing, people are more likely to interact with you. If you look like you don’t want to be interacted with them people won’t approach you
This is one of the things I took away from Narcos, as random as that may be. There are people out there with no redeeming features who have the most loving family you can imagine.
What is unattractive is your attitude. “*I’m* ugly, how can anyone like *me*” ass shit. Think about something other than yourself, you’ll be fine.
Take example from my bff. He is 25. Never approached any girl, still had 3 gfs. How? Highly passionate about his goals. Works on himself. Built his own status. Fun to hang around.
But what is that 1 thing that everybody respects? A good career, he has that, and again, is passionate about it.
You need to find your passion. Then you will find a woman who will help you take that passion to new heights.
Look at Youtube for “what is charisma” there is a channel “healthygamergg” which explains how physical attractiveness is not the major factor for having charisma. I suggest to change perspective at how relationships to your social enviroment works.
If you’re ugly you better be funny.
I consider myself just average 5/10 but some of my friends have mentioned that they would consider me before average. Single at 25 and no girls seem to be interested.
My personality is alright I think, but others have mentioned that they don’t like it.
Due to COVID I moved to Asia. I’ve been getting a lot of compliments on my looks and personality. Got my first gf at 26 and we’ll I thought was a model.
Sometimes it’s not you and maybe you just need to change your location.
Get in phenomenal shape. Dress really really well and act super confident. I’ve seen plenty of ugly guys date girls cause the girls were into their confidence
Usually by being really charismatic, and charisma is a learned skill so you can just work on it, but you can also just lower your standards and go for the woman yous if you will,
That aside unless you’ve been horribly disfigured in a freak accident I sincerely doubt that you’re that ugly, you could also try getting in really good shape, upgrading your wardrobe and wearing some subtle make up
confidence and humor
Hate to be the one to say it, but lower your standards. Date in your league. You don’t want to date an ugly woman, but why would an attractive woman want to date an ugly man? Secondly, you probably aren’t that ugly. Even if you’re face is something you can’t do anything about, try working out, change how you style your hair, try on some new outfits, take care of your skin, all these things you can control. Third and finally, be proactive. Approach people. You’ll know if you’re making them uncomfortable or if they aren’t interested. Some guys get the ladies flocking to them, but I’m not one of them, and you said you aren’t either, and if they won’t come to you there’s only one other way, go to them. You’re probably a nice guy, just work on your confidence and take care of yourself, and it’ll work out
First of all no one is -40/100.
Even if you are 1/10, you can atleast become 5/10 with right clothes, haircut, grooming and some lifestyle changes like hitting the gym and eating right.
You’re not going to find someone through compatibility alone by “going out” to bars/clubs or other social scenarios where only the worst kinds of superficial people gather. Join social groups centered around your interests. For example, my city has a local mushroom club as well as a botany club, the outdoors is my passion and surrounding myself with people like myself makes it easy to be myself. However, special interest social groups are not singles clubs. Don’t go in with creepy intent. Just exist, relationships manifest themselves through social scenarios. Just go in with the intent of surrounding yourself with people like yourself
some “ugly dudes” are just the best type of dude there is, the ugliness can be fixed but the heart is harder.
they are very smart, knowledgeable about their field, talk about it with a spark in their eyes. Funny, has hobbies, isn’t a crybaby and can take care of himself and his surroundings (cook food, do laundry, clean, eat healthy, exercise)
also some just give them a chance since they were treated poorly before. But even celebrities would rather an average guy and above average heart.