#FamilyDrama #SheriffsVisit #TroubledTeen #ParentingStruggles
Does your son’s girlfriend’s father keep sending the sheriffs to your house when she doesn’t text back right away? 🚔 It can be extremely stressful and unsettling to have law enforcement show up at your doorstep unexpectedly, especially when it’s a result of someone else’s actions. But don’t worry, you’re not alone in this situation. Many families face similar challenges and there are solutions available to help you navigate through this troubling issue.
## Understanding the Problem:
### Turbulent Family Relationship:
Girlfriend (K) has had a troubled relationship with her father, which has resulted in him resorting to extreme measures like involving law enforcement to check on her well-being.
### Unwanted Police Visits:
After the confrontation with her father, the police visits have become a regular occurrence, creating a tense environment for your family and especially for the children in the house.
### Lack of Direct Communication:
Despite his actions, the father hasn’t directly reached out to your family, making the situation even more complicated and challenging to address.
## Exploring Your Options:
### Establish Clear Boundaries:
Reiterate to the father that he is not welcome on your property and that using law enforcement to check on K is not acceptable. Setting clear boundaries can help prevent further unwanted visits.
### Seek Legal Advice:
Consider speaking to a lawyer to understand your legal rights and options in this situation. They can provide guidance on how to handle the father’s actions and protect your family’s peace of mind.
### Document Incidents:
Keep a record of each visit from law enforcement and any interactions with the father. Having a documented history can be beneficial if you need to take further action in the future.
### Communication with Law Enforcement:
Reach out to the sheriff’s department to express your concerns about the situation. They may be able to provide insights or assistance in mitigating the visits and addressing the father’s behavior.
## Moving Forward:
It’s essential to prioritize your family’s well-being and safety in this challenging scenario. By taking proactive steps to address the issue, you can create a more secure and peaceful environment for everyone involved. Remember, you have the right to protect your family and ensure a positive living situation for your children.
Dealing with family drama and unwanted police visits can be emotionally draining, but you’re not alone in this journey. Stay strong and resilient as you navigate through this situation and seek support from trusted resources for guidance and assistance. Together, you can overcome these obstacles and create a harmonious environment for your family to thrive. 🏡 #FamilyFirst
>They don’t evidently feel that he’s misusing the 911 system, or they would have done something about it themselves.
Have you told the sheriff’s department that the visits aren’t out of genuine concern and that you want them to stop answering his requests?
Talk with the Chief of Police. It’s unlikely they want their officer’s time wasted.
You can make it clear to the sheriff’s department that he is not making the 911 calls out of genuine concern which might motivate them to take action against him.
Maybe be proactive and phone the sheriffs and speak with them and apprise them of the situation so they don’t waste another trip and you don’t experience another hassle?
Your son’s girlfriend needs to address this, not you. She should talk to the sheriff’s department, and explain the situation, and ask that they stop the welfare checks.
Having her talk to the sheriff’s department might work. She is a legal adult, she should be part of resolving this legal issue.
Has she considered a restraining order? Then have the Judge write into the order that she has 8 hours to answer his texts or something….
He may not be using 911 to make the calls, so he may be calling their non-emergency number, and if that’s the case their really isn’t much you can do. Most departments have to send someone if there is a call for service to make sure there isn’t a real issue. The only thing she could do is get a no contact order, and then she could file a violation of the order if he continues.
I work for a sheriffs office in dispatch, I know where I am if someone calls we have to send them… god forbid the one time we don’t that something is actually wrong. It sucks for you guys though, I truly understand and I’m sorry you’re going through this
NAL
As another commenter said, the best thing you can do/the daughter can do (as far as I see it) is file a No Contact Order against the dad, and talk with the Sheriff’s Office about this.
Unfortunately for you, the Sheriff’s office likely has to respond whenever called, but how they’ve not caught on that it’s a waste of their time is beyond me. Depending on where you live, this may fall under criminal harassment.
The important thing to do is to make a record with the Sheriff’s office that you do not want to be contacted by this person (directly or indirectly by the police showing up every time they call them to your house), that this has happened repeatedly, and that the 18yr old is an independent person who is not subject to the authority of her father.
Police 911 Dispatcher here. This is what we call “harassment by cop.” She’s an adult. She has chosen to live where she is at. Father no longer has any right to tell her where she is supposed to be. He needs to be told, either by his daughter or the sheriff that she is fine. She is not in any danger. Not responding to a text is not a sign of danger. If he calls the police again without a good reason to check on her, it will be considered harassment and he can be charged for it. There could be potentially other consequences also. If he had called 911 each time, he could also be charged for abuse of 911, false reporting, and misuse of emergency services.
If none of you want to contact him (and there’s nothing at all wrong with that) next time he calls the sheriffs department, tell them what I told you here, they will contact him and tell him to stop. Any further will be harassment.
I don’t like dealing with the police and do not like them at my front door. If someone continually calls that someone is in danger at my house and it is never is the case numerous times, this is just swatting, no?
Ask the police why they are allowing the same person to continually swat you.
Dispatch centers have non-emergency numbers specifically for calls like this. Even if Dad is calling 911, they have to prove he knows she isn’t in danger. She needs to find out what he is telling the cops to get them to come check on her. Second, she needs to tell the Officers that although she understands that if they get a call to check her welfare, they have to respond, it seems like her Dad is using them to harass her. Because that’s exactly what he’s doing. Unless she has some medical/mental condition that requires medication that she hasnt taken, she’s an adult and doesn’t legally have to report to her father. They’re not going to get upset with her, in fact they’ll probably be more pissed at her father for wasting their time. They can only work with the information they have, so unless she tells them the WHOLE situation, they can only go off of what he is telling them. If all of this doesn’t work, when the cops show up to check on her, she should tell them that she’s fine but since they’re already there, she would like to file a report for harassment.