#DatingRisk #HeartbreakWarning #EmotionalPreparedness #RelationshipAdvice
Hey there! 💔 If you’re wondering whether it’s a good idea to have a heart-to-heart with someone you’re dating about the risks of heartbreak, you’re not alone. 🤔 It’s definitely a tough subject to broach, but it’s important to set expectations early on in any relationship.
## Should You Have the Talk?
Why it’s Important
1. **Transparency**: Being upfront about the possibility of heartbreak shows honesty and vulnerability.
2. **Setting Expectations**: Helps manage expectations and prevent misunderstandings down the road.
3. **Emotional Preparedness**: Gives both parties a chance to reflect on their emotional readiness for a relationship.
## How to Approach the Conversation
Tips for a Constructive Discussion
1. **Choose the Right Timing**: Bring up the topic when you both have the time and space to have a meaningful conversation.
2. **Use “I” Statements**: Express your feelings and concerns without placing blame.
3. **Listen and Validate**: Allow the other person to share their thoughts and feelings without judgment.
## Real-Life Scenarios
Examples to Learn From
1. **Case 1**: Sarah and Alex had a heart-to-heart about potential heartbreak early in their relationship. This open communication helped them navigate challenges together and strengthen their bond.
2. **Case 2**: Jack never discussed the topic with his partner, leading to misunderstandings and eventually a messy breakup.
## In Conclusion
It’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to have this conversation with someone you’re seeing. However, being vulnerable and honest about the risks of heartbreak can lay a strong foundation for a healthy and resilient relationship. Remember, communication is key in any relationship! 💬 #RelationshipAdvice #OpenCommunication #HeartfeltTalks
Hope this helps you navigate the complexities of dating and relationships! Good luck! 🌟
No.
That’s weird.
“Asking for exclusivity” is also weird but I’m not American.
I’d consider that more of an unspoken rule. I certainly wouldn’t use that as an explanation for turning down exclusivity.
If a girl asked me for exclusivity, I’d just assume she’s asking to be official, like boyfriend and girlfriend. Because exclusivity to me is usually reserved for relationship, correct me if I’m wrong.
If that’s the case, essentially trying to move things along. Then yes his reply is a bit weird and would tell me. That he doesn’t want to be exclusive with you. All you have to decide is if that’s OK with you or not.
Well that is true and since you have asked it directly what else could he say? How would you answer to that?
Reasonable? Not really. I’d move on.
That’s a weirdly cold distant emotionally detached thing to say to someone honestly. I think he just doesn’t want exclusivity for the near year ish or so from just that
Technically correct but that delivery feels pretty rude for someone you’re actively dating
He’s telling you that he’s not that into you. Listen to him.
Americans are so fucking weird.
If you’re not implicitly exclusive from the very start then what’s even the fucking point?
Hahaha, that’s a Fuckboy operating at maximum level!
Find someone willing to treat you with some fucking respect. Don’t make yourself so available.
Your time and energy is precious and if they can’t appreciate what’s in front of them??
Their loss.
That sounds like someone whose experiences have made him callous to treating others the way he would like to be treated.
It’s almost like the study of people who’ve been cheated on consistently picking cheaters. The appeal of someone who doesn’t ask hard questions is that you never have to answer them, and thus the world of secrets creates a sense of comfort as you don’t have to expose your own insecurities.
In any case, that person is not someone who will form healthy relationships with others. He’s not the norm.
If he’s not willing to be exclusive after 5 dates, you’re not dating, you’re just a hookup. The only reasonable explanation is that he’s actively looking for something better, and stringing you along in case he can’t find it. You don’t want to be the person someone settles for. Walk away and find someone that actually values you.
Would I? No, it’s assumed. You’re an adult and you should know things often don’t go the way we want them to. It is odd to say though.
Sounds like you asked to be exclusive and he turned you down. Time spent together doesn’t really matter, he said no to it.
Personally I’m very upfront about dating situations, I would assume the relationship was nothing unless either of us asked for more. Whatever additional things that might be, friends, sex, exclusivity, boyfriend or whatever. I’m very happy to be single so it’s normally something I say very early on, to the point it’s in any dating profile I have made. Very much a fan of the relationship being spoken into existence so there’s no assumptions, a big fan of clear communication.
It’s a reasonable thing to say to someone you aren’t going on dates with.
For whatever reason this guy doesn’t want to commit to anything and was weird about it.
When someone tells you who they are, believe them.
You were right to ask about exclusivity. We usually take that for granted in the UK but it doesn’t hurt to be sure.
From what the guy said, it sounds to me as if he is still casting his net and will ditch you the second he finds someone more to his taste. Not worth wasting anymore time on, move on, hopefully the next one will appreciate you!
Hey have you heard that new Hozier song Too Sweet yet?
The one where Hozier says essential “I’m a fuckboi, I’m not gonna settle down, I enjoy living my life more than I enjoy you”
Ya that’s what this guy is telling you.
You’re response to him telling you no is even more odd. Why would you continue seeing someone who flat out refuses to be exclusive with you. He told you he is not that into you. And your example is a strange hypothetical. One, you ask him what would happen if two months from now he starts dating someone else…. I mean what are you asking him for? What would happen should be totally based on boundaries that you have set, and to answer it for you- i would hope you would wish him well wishes and move on with your life. Dont let someone treat you like that, you dont sit around and wait for him as if he holds all the power, as of you couldnt do exactly the same thing. Grab your dignity back, and tell him to screw off.
Sorry if that sou ds harsh? But its the onlt ghins i hap
Context seems important here.
How intimate have you guys been, and if so how often?
I think at date no 3 you’d know if you want to go exclusive or not.
So yeah… Sound like this guy is just trying to keep multiple women on the go and isn’t after anything serious.
He’s obviously what we in the BP sphere call a Chad. He’s good looking and hot, and even if he mistreated you you’ll still keep seeing him. He gets plenty of women too, which, ironically is what attracted you to him. If he had been an average guy with average looks and single AF, you probably wouldn’t want him haha. Be honest.
The FIRST rule of dating: Protect your heart until the other person proves they are worthy of you.
OP: It doesn’t sound like this person is into you – act accordingly.
It’s only been a month, so his reaction isn’t like, super shocking. Just a shot in the dark here, do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, this guy is probably avoidant. Probably something worth looking into, dating avoidants suuuucks.
Nah, that’s not something a man would say to someone they’re interested in. Honestly, he gave you his honest answer. He might break your heart, so save yourself the heartbreak and find someone willing to treat you in a good way.
If that was my friend at a bar after spilling relationship troubles to him, I’d appreciate the reality check.
If that was someone I was dating, I’d date someone else. That’s not what I want from my partner. This dude isn’t ‘partner’ material.
no, i find that the opposite of what a couple should strive for
If a woman asked me for exclusivity after just 1 month I would feel rushed or think she was desperate to tie down a man, any man.
I might not be seeking anyone else but 1 month is not enough time to say “let’s go for it”. You have not had time to see each other through events like birthday or Christmas, highs and lows of monthly life in general, time to build trust and so on.
A little more time please, right now I would be feeling like “wow, this seems good” but 1 month is just the honeymoon period, give it more time for me to get a feeling of balance. (Maybe yo and I would interpret the word “balance differently?)
Dating does involve heartbreak but you shouldn’t date someone seriously who is this straight forward about not ever being exclusive with you if that’s what you’re looking for.
He’s telling you that you are not his first pick and he is waiting for someone better 😕
In the technical sense all relationships end in tragedy. You either break up or one/both of you die. So he’s not exactly wrong. I think there was a line about this in Watchmen (the series).
The more important thing to take from the conversation is that he doesn’t want to be exclusive with at least you. Your hypothetical about him finding someone else two months down the road is a very real potential outcome in dating. But it can only happen if you continue dating him after he has told you point blank that he doesn’t want to date you exclusively. Speaking from personal experience, I’d advise against it. I dated a woman and asked about going exclusive. She wasn’t interested. I continued trying to set up dates thinking she’d change her mind. We ended up being friends, and eventually fell out of contact. That was about 10 years ago. She eventually changed her mind and reached out trying to hint at being interested in a relationship, mainly because she dated a bunch of toxic dudes and she only just now decided she wants a more stable person like me. That was last month. My wife and a bunch of our married friends have had similar experiences. You can wait for literally years and hope they suddenly see what you have to offer or go find someone else who does. I’d recommend the latter.
I wouldn’t say it, but he’s not wrong, he found someone he liked better then you and that’s who he’s going to commit to. men have to deal with this all the time suck it up
Red flag. I would never say that to someone i had any serious interest in.
Don’t date players.
I would never listen to anything from someone that says they’re exclusive and also dating other people. They have no logic apparently.
You asked him to be exclusive, he said no
Move on
This is reasonable.
It’s how dating works.
Unless you are exclusive, but you aren’t
Girl run
>He said ‘that’s how dating works – there’s always a risk of heartbreak’
Well he’s not lying.
He’s telling you to run away. That he will use you and leave.