#DatingAdvice #DryConversations #RelationshipTips
Hey there, dealing with dry conversations while dating can be quite a challenge! 😕 But don’t worry, I’ve got some tips to help you navigate through those awkward moments and turn things around. Here’s how you can add some spark to those lackluster interactions:
Find Common Ground
One effective way to liven up a conversation is to find something you both are interested in. This could be a hobby, a passion, or even a shared experience. By talking about something you both enjoy, you can create a natural flow in the conversation.
Ask Open-Ended Questions
Instead of sticking to boring yes or no questions, try asking open-ended questions that encourage your date to elaborate. This can lead to more engaging discussions and help you get to know each other better.
Share Personal Stories
Sharing personal anecdotes can help break the ice and make the conversation more relatable. It also shows vulnerability, which can be endearing and open up the other person to share their own stories.
Use Humor
Don’t be afraid to inject some humor into the conversation! A well-timed joke or a funny story can lighten the mood and make the interaction more enjoyable for both parties.
Change the Environment
Sometimes, a change of scenery can make a world of difference. Consider switching up your date location to a more interesting or stimulating environment. This change can help spark new conversations and bring a fresh energy to the interaction.
Remember, dating is about getting to know each other and having fun along the way. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to always have the perfect conversation. Just be yourself, be curious, and enjoy the journey! 🌟
For me, that’s a good sign that this isnt going to work out. Either we have bad chemistry or she’s boring as hell.
Find someone else to talk to.
This right here is why I half ass gave up on dating. Always putting all the effort into trying to have even a simple conversation gets old.
1-Is it a continous issue with this woman or could it be just anxiety on the first date/conversation?
2-Am I driving this conversation in a bad way or is it just her own lack of enthusiasm and energy?
That’s basically what I ask myself. I cannot do boring chicks so I call it off if I’m not receiving reciprocation.
Try humor, if she laughs, you’re halfway there
If you don’t mesh, it won’t work out. You tell her she lacks interest and you’re going to move on.
It was quite common with me, and common enough to make me quit. I’d have them blocked after the third message.
It’s why I don’t blame guys who decide to send half-assed messages or even dick pics. What’s the point of trying to have a conversation with people that don’t give a shit?
by just moving on. or if you guys are dating, then by finding other woman who I can enjoy talking to. Human being can’t be perfect. Nobody can have/offer everything. So I’d just look for other people who can offer what I demand. If she’s a good person and has a cute face and desirable body but she sucks at talking, then I could go find someone who’s good at talking but her look/personality isn’t desirable.
Online dating overloads people – you’ve had the same conversation 50+ times. The only real option is to get hyper-specific about something they’re passionate about to make them open up.
I move on.
Try asking her questions about all sorts of things. Current events. Left field stuff
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Do you like to fish?
Try men ? lol , but there are so many posts here that hint at that being the issue as to why a guy seems to never click with women
Find someone interesting.
It’s honestly shocking how many women are hyper critical about men’s social skills and being able to hold conversation bla bla blah but then THIS is what little they bring to the table.
My advice is to move on. Life’s too short for this bullshit and I’m willing to bet she’s actively chasing around some drug addicted douchebag just because he plays in a rock band.
I made the same exact mistake as you early on. Taking all the responsibility to drive the conversation and thinking that the dryness was a reflection of me when it’s not. It’s 100% on her to put it effort. And by the same token you have every right to walk out if it’s not what you want. I always think; what’s going to come from this? Even if you do impress her then what after that? You obviously can’t keep this up for ever and will just lose your sanity.
Find the person that matches you and puts in the same effort. Not everyone is compatible. Sounds like you two are not.
It’s best when things can be natural.
That’s the thing, you don’t.
I wish more guys knew or at least would spread the word that if she’s doing nothing but dry texting you, she’s not truly interested. It will be absolutely night and day difference of a conversation when a woman is interested in you. There are *some* women that are horrible texters and may actually be into you but that can be tested by asking if they wanna go out. If their response is something like “Idk, I’m so busy”, then they’re not interested and you should drop them
I stopped tolerating this when I was 26. I have no problem carrying a conversation because I have a voice of a radio host and I love to talk.
But I’m not going to sit here and do this for the next 55 years while you just kind of say ‘mhmm”.
Send her memes , youtube videos you enjoy , ask her what movies she’s into . And if she’s being dry then don’t talk to her anymore
To be honest, It might just be that she’s a bad texter.
I have a few friends who are the same.
boring as fuck conversationalists on text, but as soon as we get on the phone or meet in person, we can lose actual double digit numbers of hours, just letting conversation flow naturally. Fair enough there are sometimes silences, but they aren’t auquard silences, they’re companionable silences.
It’s lovely.
Conclusion, try a phonecall.
Find someone different to talk to. She isn’t really interested in you. Some women use men as entertainment when they are bored.
Talk to another girl
I just bail tbh . Last girl I was talking to I had to ask all the questions and bring up every topic. All she did was text me In the morning so we could text all day it was terrible lol
No amount of mutual values can over write basic chemistry. If there isnt something there, there isnt something there. I’ve had this problem before with one woman, she was great all around and on paper but the conversation was boring as hell. I told her I had a great date but didnt want another.
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Before you call it quits, just ask her straight up if she is nervous or shy or anxious. If she seems comfortable and this is the real her, then yeah I’d move on bro.
Drink and bumps in the bathroom
Tell her she talks like an email
Tongue lube works for me
I just dip. Not gonna talk to someone I don’t wanna talk to. And if the convo is dry you gonna date that person long term? Resign yourself to a boring life? The last girl I dated, we had a shared record of over 9 hours spent on the phone. We’d average like 2-3 hours a day. I miss her fr. But yeah don’t be with boring people when you can find someone you really get along with.
I stop talking to her because it means she has no interest
Stop trying to make a conversation with generic NPCs
Put some lube
I stop replying really early on like within the first few hours if the convo is dry.
Dry conversation = not worth it based on my experience.
I’ve dated quite a bit and have decided that if conversations are dry after a few days, I drop them. The ones that are interested in you will show you and make an effort to make the conversation 50/50. Those are the ones that are worth your time.
i dont
You could always try being honest, but keep it polite.
Ex: “Hey, I’ve really noticed you haven’t been talking with me in a meaningful way. You’ve responded to what I’ve said with really short responses and haven’t said much yourself. Is something wrong? Because I don’t want to waste either of our time if you just aren’t vibing with me.”
If she gives you a wishy washy answer or tries to deflect, it’s probably better you just end things right there.
Her: “No I mean we might have some chemistry/no I haven’t; I’ve been telling you lots of things!”
You: “I don’t think this is going to work out. Thanks for your time.”
Then pay your meal or whatever and just peace out.
Straight up ask if she is even interested. If she doesn’t put in effort find someone else who will.
It’s natural to experience awkward silence in a conversation, but if you find that you have nothing in common to talk about, then perhaps that person is not the right match for you.
Don’t waste your time. Move on. If she has nothing to contribute to the conversation, then she’s not worth it.
I drop my attention. If the girl is giving you dry convo she isn’t interested and doesn’t see the value. Either she shapes up or she’s gone.
If someone is into you of any sex, they are enthusiastic when they speak to you and will initiate the conversation at times. End of. No exceptions.
So if that’s not happening, delete and move on.
To be honest with you, it just sounds like she isn’t interested. I don’t care how “boring” girls may seem, they will give you good energy and be more interesting to talk to if they really like you. She may be feigning interest as a way to keep your attention, because it feels good, but I think she probably doesn’t feel you the way you feel her.
She could also be just a very boring person in general. If that’s the case, you should consider if it’s worth it in the long run. Can you carry the weight of conversations all the time, or do you need someone that can be interesting in their own right?
When I find myself asking all the questions and doing all the talking, I hang up or stop texting. It’s a waste of time.
Get up and walk away and out if I can and then I send a messege saying talk to me when you come up with something to talk about.
Do you really wanna keep it going with this person or are you just horny and bored
Define “talking”. Are you actually talking or are you messaging? Because I know that I sure as hell can’t keep up a conversation while messaging to save my life, but in person I can talk non stop for hours. Some of us need actual feedback like body language, tone, etc. in order to have a conversation.
Be comfortable in awkward silences. You don’t have to be talking all the time. Being able to comfortably shut up and help her relax into silence and not have to worry about having something to say is huge. Craig Ferguson had those “awkward pauses” or whatever and turned them into a flirty and fun pseudo-staring contest.
Well….. either you are boring, or she is or both.
I try to weed out the boring ones before going on dates.
Now, I have had dates where there was limited chemistry – or she was not as interested as I had hoped. I try to coax out a bit more engagement by asking more in-depth and open ended questions.
Or just ask her “hey, I feel like I am doing all the talking here – tell me more about yourself” if that does not work. It was not a good match maybe.
I married the quiet, and arguably dry, woman. It was less of her not being interested or whatnot, it was just how she is.
We’ve been together for 12 years, married for almost 10. We will go hours without talking. Nothing is wrong, we just joke that we’ve said it all. I remember a time where took a trip to the beach. Her mom rode along with us and she thought we had a major fight because we weren’t talking. We just aren’t much for small talk, whereas it’s 95% of what her mom majors in.
I do gotta admit though, the courting part was like pulling teeth until I had a heart to heart with a coworker. He basically said that we are just doing what I wanna do. Now if she suggests anything, we will do it.
I do get that it’s not for everyone though.