What is the most brutal rejection you have experienced while asking a girl out?
Are you curious about the most harsh words a girl can say besides “no” when you express your interest?
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The Power of Words
Have you ever wondered what a girl could say to reject you that’s even worse than a simple “no”? Words have an immense power to hurt and the rejection can sting even more when it’s delivered with harshness.
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Join the conversation by sharing your experiences. Let’s talk about the most brutal rejections and how we can bounce back from them.
– Have you ever been told something hurtful after expressing your feelings?
– How did you handle such a tough situation?
– What advice do you have for others who have faced similar rejections?
Remember, you are not alone in experiencing rejection. Let’s support each other and learn from our shared experiences.
Didnt ask them out but I had multiple girls throughout grade school (who didnt know each other) say verbatim and unprompted for any reason: “How come your sisters are so hot and youre so not?”
Really crushed any confidence I had so I never really attempted to ask anyone out until college.
Thankfully I feel like I bloomed a bit and started to look more attractive around 21, and my wife finds me attractive so thats all that matters lol
“look, I’m gonna be honest with you. Your cute, funny, smart, kind, pretty much have everything I want in a partner but You’re shorter than me so we could never date”. She was 1-2 inches taller than me.
Shortly after that conversation she dated a guy who was over a foot taller than her who became very abusive. Really messed me up for a long time.
Not by someone I asked out, but was out in a pub catching up with a female friend of mine (we used to be flatmates).
We were about to leave, when this random incredibly drunk Irish guy tried chatting her up (he could barely stand), right in front of me. He didn’t get a number but the ego boost was big for her, to have him do that so brazenly when he didn’t know our situation.
Later, when we were walking home talking bout it, she said ‘it was obvious we weren’t dating’ in a tone that was like ‘im way better looking than you.’
I was six months into a depression cycle, so was scruffy and had gained some weight, that felt like a low blow, especially coming from a friend. I started going to the gym again the next week.
Wasn’t me but a friend at the time (high school). She said no, and that he was repulsive. IMO he was an average looking dude- little on the chunky side but overall ok. Kid can be cruel and all…
Ironically I was flirting with her a bit, but this instantly killed any attraction I had towards her.
Gave me a real serious yes, then turned away and laughed. And not In a good way.
“no thanks but you should meet my friend she’s SO cute!” Translation: I think I can do better but my fat friend can’t.
“I can see you being the wife beating type.”
I was a teen, had anger issues from childhood baggage. It shocked me to think my reputation among women who knew me was a violent hot head who didnt distinguish his victims. Abused becomes Abuser.
It led me to seek therapy and stuff and work on making peace with my past. So in a way it helped. But it still hurt like a bastard.
They can say yes then keep rescheduling but constantly reassure you that they still want to see you then tell other people that you’re stalking them.
She rejected me in front of the entire class, called me a pathetic stalker, then spent the remainder of my high school years making it her mission that I would never get a date.
Let’s just say in hindsight I deserved it. Without her I wouldn’t have realized the shitty things I had done. She was the wake up call I needed.
Classmate, didn’t ask her out but I was so obvious that she knew ( from friends of friends).
She walked opposite direction from me in a narrow and crowded corridor, she tried to put as much distance (between me and her ) as possible so naturally she tripped and fell.
I extended my arms to try to catch her, she shrieked and tried to dodge my hands, which was kind of impressive she managed to do that mid-fall . Can any of you change your falling direction mid-fall?
But sorry I’m quick, played basketball and my arms are long, I still caught her nevertheless. Louder shriek, she gathered her feet, threw her friend at me and ran away.
My friends still laughed at me about it after nearly 20 years now.
Not much fortunately. All the girls i’ve asked out have been very respectful.
I was a shitty father for trying to date instead of spend more time with my kids.
I once got a “Look at me and then look at you, make it make sense” Its an out of your league line for those wondering about the meaning.
She came across as pretty arrogant in my opinion. I look back on this moment and laugh. Not sure what ever happened to her.
I couldn’t date a greasy mechanic…. she grew up to work the electronics desk at Walmart
“Are you free Saturday night?”
“Yeah why?”
“Wanna go out Saturday night?”
“I can’t I’m busy”
“you are scarily nice”.
Aaand the following is (hopefully) a story of amusing anedotal flashbacks…
Mind you, i met her in a club (back when I referred to clubs as discos lol).
We talked, we danced, we laughed.
End of the night i offered to walk her home… But only to the end of her street so that she was reassured that I didn’t know where she lived.
She led us to her door and (literally) asked if I would like to come in for a coffee. I was horribly naive and also love coffee so I said yes.
We sat next to each other on the sofa. We talked, we laughed, we drank coffee.
It was getting late and i professed that i didn’t want to go home. She said that i could sleep over with her. Next to her. In her bed.
She looked me in the eyes and said “but only if you behave. No hanky panky, and don’t take advantage of me.
It was a difficult night. both of us felt “that tension”, but i made a promise and I was not going to take advantage.
In the morning i … Um… Kinda psychoanalysed her and gave some life advice.
Unsurprisingly (in hindsight) she ghosted the fuck out of me.
Met her a year or so later in a pub. Our eyes met and both of us had the “i know you from somewhere” look. I approached her and we happily chatted for a bit. suddenly i realised who she was and casually said to her, “I’m Relic, remember?. you never called me back”
The poor girl suddenly had a look of panic on her face as she realised who i was.
That’s when she told me that i was “scarily nice”,
Actually it was a bit of a trope. I’d meet someone and after being with her for a while (couple of weeks, and some “intimacy”, they would blurt out “you are too good to be true” or “I’m waiting for you to show your _real_ self”.
That was always the kiss of death for me because as soon as those words were said, i knew that she’d break up with me.
All that is in my past now, so please read it as amusing rather than horribly tragic 🤣
I got a “Sorry, I’m straight”
…I’m a guy
1. “Ewwww”
2. “Hahahahaha”
A friend in high school broke down crying at a going away party for me when I was moving states. She always liked me apparently but always said no to a date or even coming out with friends together (I worked in a movie theater so it was a regular thing that I could get 5+ friends in to watch a couple movies).
Girls are weird in high school 🤷🏻♂️
Also boys are dumb in high school.
Gross.
But she asked me out a few years later and I politely declined.
Is the look of pure disgust considered?
You would be such a good father but I don’t want children.
“I wish I can find someone like you.”
Was once met with an absolutely repulsed look followed by a forced gag instead of a no. Definitely dug deep.
Maybe not her, but her friends. We lived one block away from each other and one time out of the blue “she” wrote to me via a chat to come down so we could talk. She knew I was into her. When I came down I heard her friends laughing their asses off. She wasn’t even there. They got me.
It was almost 20 years ago and I’m married now, but it still made me hesitant with any kind of move from any girl. I bet I still would be if I got any proposition.
This is actually a pretty graceful letdown, in my opinion, but I didn’t even get to the asking her out part before she put this out there, which tells me I may have been too obvious.
Her: “This may seem weird, but I feel like you’re attracted to me, based on how you’re acting, and I just want you to know, I’m not attracted to you.”
I gave someone who works near me a card that said:
>hi, i think you’re cute ❤️
>I’m [name]
>wanna grab a drink after work?
>[socials and phone number]
She took it, said thanks very insincerely, then reported me for harassment, which led to her company’s CEO sending a letter to my employer basically asking for me to get fired.
Their case was flimsy and pathetic, so it was resolved very quickly, but thankfully all my colleagues were very supportive and shocked at the absurd response. She still works near me and I get massive psychic damage when we have to work the same shift.
Bitches be crazy
Edit: [This is a B grade card for reference](https://imgur.com/a/dkq23Sr)
The one I gave was an A grade with much better foiling on the letters. Picture a black business card that’s 6x thicker than regular printer paper (ie 480 gsm).
A no is fine.
Saying nothing and laughing is *way* worse.
Nothing, silence. She didn’t say anything to my approach, we just stood there for minutes until the class bell rang.
I still remember that day and how she later would avoid and ignore me, that was 14 years ago. In high school.
It feels worse than “no” as if you aren’t worth being rejected.
I had a girl approach me, engage me in conversation, and after about 5 minutes, ask, “Do any cute guys come here?”
I didn’t ask he out, as she pre-rejected me.
EDIT: This incident happened before I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. So, I took things literally, and at that time, I was socially inept. (More than I am now, as I have a better understanding of my communication skills)
Laughter, or ew, or gross. Or a girl literally holding back from throwing up
“Who are you and what are you doing in my house?”
Just rude honestly.
Two most memorable were “I date boys” in front of the entire class and “yes” but she didn’t mean it and only said so because she felt sorry for me.
I was at an under 18 club. Made eye contact with a girl a few times and thought she may be interested. Figured I would shoot my shot. Walked up and said “hello”. She literally grabbed her friend and threw her in front of me and ran off. My friends were falling down laughing at me. Didn’t see again so I don’t know if I scared her so bad she left?
On hinge you can send a message with a like. A few times someone matched me just to say my message was stupid, then immediately unmatched me.
She said yes but then ghosted me lol.
“No. You’re a great husband material, but not a bf material.”
She didn’t SAY anything. It was this look of utter SHOCK, coupled with pure panic in here eyes. Yeah, I could go the rest of my life without seeing that look again.
I still can see that in my mind plain as day, and that was almost 40 years ago.
racial abuse is very common for me when I used to ask people out.
This one ate away at me for a long time but it was also over 20 years ago.
That she likes taller guys, I’m 6’ tall and she was about 5’10”.
Years later she married a guy who is 5’6” and was able to buy a life style that she wanted. I used to be neighbors with her parents and that’s how I met her.
Ghosted me then announced to a group thread that she had a crush on my best friend at the time
It was the laugh after she said no! Hard to forget.
I didn’t ask her out, and this happened when I was in middle school so chalk I chalk it up to kids being immature. I had told my friends that I liked another mutual friend, the whole class found within minutes and they were teasing her a lot, she said I was ugly and that she didn’t like me, that made me cry in front of the whole class and messed up my self esteem for a pretty long time. It hurt a lot at the time because we were friends since kindergarten and I was a sensitive kid. She apologized to me but the damage stuck for a while. I’m over it now, I can’t let an incident that happened well over 10 years ago continue to eat at me.
Dead silence was worse than no.
Of the more recent incidences, I was told that I was such a good guy and a “short king,” but the young lady I was interested in wouldn’t give me a chance because of my height.
A simple no would’ve been better than her reasoning of “You have a great personality but you’re automatically disqualified because of something that isn’t in your control.” It reinforces the idea that regardless of how much you work on yourself, sometimes the people you like won’t like you because of something as innocuous as height.
I once got an audible “eww” before she said no.
But no is always followed by “You’re like a brother” or “I see you too much as a friend”. What a sad and lonely mid-20’s i lived