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Are you a man who’s looking to make connections with women outside of the usual bar and club scene? Approaching women in public settings can be a great way to meet potential dates, but the key is to approach in the right situations and with the right approach. In this article, we’ll discuss the best situations for approaching women outside of bars and clubs, and how to do it in a way that’s respectful and effective.
Where to Approach Women Outside of Bars/Clubs
Approaching women in public can be a great way to meet potential dates, but it’s important to choose the right settings. Here are some situations where approaching women is generally appropriate and well-received:
1. Coffee shops
2. Bookstores
3. Parks
4. Networking events
5. Grocery stores
6. Public transportation
7. Art galleries
In these settings, women are usually more open to conversation and are often in a more relaxed and approachable frame of mind. However, it’s important to approach in a respectful and non-intrusive manner. Approaching a woman in a public setting should always be done with the utmost respect for her personal space and boundaries.
How to Approach Women Outside of Bars/Clubs
Approaching women in public requires a different approach than in a bar or club. Here are some tips for approaching women in public settings:
1. Make eye contact and smile: Before approaching a woman, make eye contact and give her a warm smile to gauge her interest and availability for conversation.
2. Start with a friendly and genuine compliment: When approaching a woman, start with a genuine compliment about something specific, such as her style, a book she’s reading, or something she’s doing. This shows that you’re paying attention and are interested in getting to know her as a person.
3. Respect her response: If a woman isn’t interested in talking or indicates that she’s not available, respect her response and gracefully exit the conversation. Approaching women in public should always be done with the understanding that not every woman will be open to conversation, and that’s okay.
Examples of Successful Approaches in Public Settings
Here are a few examples of successful approaches in public settings:
– Josh was at a coffee shop and noticed a woman reading a book that he had also enjoyed. He approached her and complimented her choice of reading material, which led to a great conversation and a coffee date.
– Mark was at a networking event and struck up a conversation with a woman who was in the same industry as him. They ended up connecting over their shared interests and exchanged contact information to meet up for a professional coffee meeting that eventually turned into a date.
– David was at a park and noticed a woman walking her dog. He approached her and commented on how cute her dog was, which led to a lighthearted conversation and a plan to meet up for a dog walk together.
Approaching women in public can lead to meaningful connections and potential dates, as long as it’s done with respect and genuine interest.
In conclusion, approaching women in public can be a great way to meet potential dates outside of the usual bar and club scene. By choosing the right settings and approaching in a respectful and genuine manner, you can make meaningful connections with women in public settings. Remember to always approach with respect for a woman’s personal space and boundaries, and to gracefully exit a conversation if she indicates that she’s not interested in talking. By following these tips, you can increase your chances of successfully approaching women in public and making meaningful connections.
Literally anywhere. The only thing that matters is not being a weirdo and being physically attractive. Reverse the roles, would you care where a girl you find hot approaches you? Grocery store? Gym? Mall? Restaurant? Doesn’t matter, you’d eat it up because she’s attractive. It’s no different for women. I promise you it’s this simple. Approach anywhere. Be normal, direct, and look good. If you aren’t physically attractive (to her) you will be rejected no matter where you approach her or what you say.
School, mall, grocery store, sporting events, pretty much anywhere you can make it work.
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel or use some 14-step ultimate alpha sigma strategy you found from some moron on YouTube. Just walk up to her, introduce yourself, tell her you think she’s pretty and ask if you can have her number.
Either she’s into you or she’s not.
Just be polite, be respectful, and be mature in the event of rejection. There’s always another day if today it doesn’t happen.
Only attractive guys should even try. You’ll get your ass handed to you if you aren’t attractive.
As another poster wrote- anywhere. When I was single I was generally conservative when it came to approaching women. I wouldn’t approach anyone unless they gave me a clear signal that they found me attractive, but that was because I can be physically imposing and am acutely aware of when women are intimidated by me.
Unfortunately, pua style spam is basically how it’s done. When it comes to getting dates, most guys think they’re gonna be like snipers. Like you aren’t going to talk to anyone for three months and then suddenly when you see an attractive woman you’re gonna be able to have absolute rizz. Realistically, you have to carpetbomb. Don’t just flirt with attractive women, flirt with old men(or just be friendly to everyone), talk to people, always dress presentable. You have to cast a wide net
The supermarket is a great place to pick up women
For the most part it’s not supposed to work outside of bars/clubs. It’s part of the culture of a club. It’s part of the reason clubs exist. It’s not why grocery stores exist. Unless you are certain that a person in the grocery store wants you to approach them, don’t. They’re there to get groceries.
There are books on this subject. Read them.
Book stores (where I met my wife). Probably other places, too, but I stopped there, lol.
well “spam approaching” will yield results if one’s game is tight.
The underlying problem is your question indicates you see striking up a conversation with an interesting person when you’re out and about as some sort of taboo, so a change in mindset here is a good start
Being charismatic is far more attractive than physically looking good.
Don’t approach with the intent of getting a date or getting in her pants, cuz then any rejection will be hard or felt as a waste of time. Approach from the perspective of being friendly and trying to make a friend. Making someone laugh, have an interesting and/ relatable story, and jus being kind can go along way
Anywhere man, life is short, just be polite and confident. When you really see a girl you find really attractive and approach, it feels natural and puts OLD to shame.
I’m ugly so nowhere
Has a lot to do with supply and demand. Once I worked a job for a charity company that stops people in malls and gets them to talk with the goal of sponsoring a charity via credit card. Almost everyone who worked there was a beautiful women, because they were so good at stopping people. Working there, you would eventually learn how to talk well and give off polite confidence in a way that doesn’t seem like your scamming people but genuinely trying to connect good people to good causes. Find a situation in which you appear confident and are surrounded by women and there are few men to compete with. Thats the only time I got it to work, and I put in almost zero effort. It also helps a lot to make people feel safe.
A charity event is where I met my girlfriend! I just figure I’d rather give it a shot and fail than to not try at all
I briefly dated a woman I met at the funeral of a mutual friend’s mother.
And no, I didn’t hook up with her that day, we were just talking outside when we went out for cigarettes and exchanged numbers, and went out a few times afterward.
I’m not the one to give advice but it does seem better to be super confident and conventionally unattractive, as long as you groom, then it is to be super attractive without any confidence.
It works literally anywhere. You just have to get good at striking up conversations with strangers, and establishing a vibe.
Once you learn what body language means ‘I’m interested/intrigued’ and which means ‘I’m polite, but leave me the fuck alone’ it gets much easier.
For example, I was in line for coffee last week, and a woman I found attractive got in line behind me. So I was like, “Mornin’. Did you get snowed in yesterday?” Since her replies were not “Yes” or “No” and she was actually speaking in sentences, I took it as an invitation to continue. Just chit chat – names, where we worked, etc etc. Then, as we were walking away, I asked if she wanted some company for a few minutes – “Mind if I join you for a few minutes more, or would you like to be on your own?” to which she replied no, she wouldn’t mind. We talked for maybe a half hour, until I decided to leave. As I was leaving, I asked if she’d mind giving me her number, she did, and that was that.
Now, that’s a success story, but what I didn’t tell you is the literal thousands of other times it’s blown up in my face, which got me to that point.
It’s not hard once you get over the fear of rejection – which is what those literal thousands of times taught me – and realize that you will fail 99% of the time. But it ain’t no thang. You get better at knowing when to cut bait and run, and knowing when to stay in there. It’s just like anything: you brute force the numbers long enough, often enough, and something breaks your way.
And, at the end of the day, that’s all life really is: brute forcing the numbers. Say you want a job, and you figure it will take you 20 applications for every 1 screening call, 10 screening calls for every job interview, and you figure that you need 5 interviews to get an offer. Then that makes it simple: apply to 1000 jobs, and you should get 5 interviews.
Hard work yields rewards, it’s just that hard work pays off for some people sooner than others.
Anywhere
1) talk to them politely and normally
2) disengage completely – prove you’re not a stalker or weirdo
3) the ones that are interested will come tell you
At least in my experience
My current relationship started with a meeting I needed to resolve some financial issues. The lady was very knowledgeable and got my issues taken care of in a few minutes. She was also very cute and when business was concluded I told her so. She gave me a terrific smile, and said she’d really needed a compliment and thanked me for it. A bit of nice chat and a few minutes later we’d exchanged phone numbers. She said I was the first customer she’d ever given her number to although many had asked for it, as it was her cardinal rule to have no personal dealings with customers away from work. She’s a very sweet Christian lady and I’m a very lucky guy to have met her.
Exclusively funerals
Learn to be funny. I’ve been hilarious since birth and I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve been with based on that alone.
90 percent of my relationships are with female colleagues I see regularly, and the particular opportunity is at the many business cocktail parties and events I attend as part of my job. We all know each other, our personal and professional reputations, and how we’re perceived in our community. Plus, we have a major common frame of reference for things to talk about and advise each other on. It’s quite obvious when men or women let each other know you’re cleared for takeoff.
You just have to be insanely good looking. Otherwise they’ll say that you’re being “creepy, weird, inappropriate, etc. etc.” and try to frame the situation as if you’re doing something wrong or that it’s not the right time or place. If the guy is attractive enough, they’ll realize anything and everything that helps it work.
It’s not the situation that they get right, it’s rules 1 and 2
I am very very careful outside of environments meant for it.
That line between charming and creeper is thin. The situation matters. So does her behavior. Is there a spark, is she showing interest, etc.
And some situations are off limits. I don’t do it when she is “captive”…so not if she is beside me on the plane, or we are jury duty together, or at her job (never hit on the help..bartenders, nurses, cashiers, flight attendants…you are just another in a long line of dudes who tried it) or some other situation where leaving is less an option.
Just strike up a pleasant conversation. If she responds in kind, it’s probably working. If she’s cold and distant, leave her alone.
You just got to learn how to talk and make someone comfortable with you. If you have a lot of interests, it helps. Honestly, what works best is finding something they’re passionate about and willing to talk to someone again about at another time. It doesn’t even have to be a date at first but can easily turn into one.
So getting down to it.
Its still basically rules 1 & 2.
Where is far less relevant than being able to read body language. A woman can be totally open to being approached in the gym, while another may want nothing to do with it while at a bar.
I have no idea how literally everyone I know in real life and everyone online so easily makes so much money and so easily has so many partners, bouncing around from one to the next effortlessly. It’s like everyone lives life on easy mode.
People are saying everywhere, and that’s the half of it.
The other half of it is where *not* to. You don’t want a captive audience. That means you don’t want to strike up a conversation with someone who’s either forced to talk to you or be nice to you. Basically that excludes women who are working and women who don’t have an easy out of the conversation. Like no the server is not actually into you (9/10) they just have to be nice and want a good tip. Or if you’re out on a boat, not the best idea, because of the implication.
I’m happily taken now but here’s my experience:
I work in the medical field and grandmas are a great source of finding women – because a lot of them love being matchmakers for their single granddaughters.
I’m not good at cold approaches but I’m great at speaking to old people. It’s paid off more than once, that’s for sure.
Moral of the story is this – it’s not always about cold approaches to women. You should be cordial with anyone because you never know who they know.
Any overpass after 3 am works